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Making friends and elementary school questions

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Goobster
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Making friends and elementary school questions

Thinking ahead...since DD is only 3. But do you think it's a detriment if a child enters K without really knowing any other children in the school? Will cliques already have formed and how do kids make friends? Is it mostly extra curricular activies? I worry for some reason since she isn't in a preschool with alot of other kids from her elementary school, that she may already be behind in the social scene. Please tell me if I am needlessly worrying and what can I do to assure my DD will make some great friends?

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Message edited 12/11/2011 12:23:33 AM.

Posted 12/7/11 8:44 PM
 

CathyB

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Re: Making friends and elementary school questions

Not at all. The kids in both of my kids K classes came from a bunch of different preschools. There were a few kids who knew each other from living near each other, older siblings or going to the same school, but for the most part everyone had to get to know each other. Chat Icon

Posted 12/7/11 8:49 PM
 

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Re: Making friends and elementary school questions

Hasn't been a problem for my daughter. We moved just prior to her starting K. She's made a bunch of friends (and she doesn't call people her "friends" all that easily). I think it all about proximity at this age, so they'll make friends with who's in their class.

Message edited 12/7/2011 8:54:18 PM.

Posted 12/7/11 8:53 PM
 

maybesoon
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Re: Making friends and elementary school questions

Ds is only 3 but I will have a similar issue. The kids he is in nursery school with now will all go to the same kindergarten center. First grade is in my town (for my town) and no other child will be attending with him (kids in his class now) I feel so bad and hope he won't be upset, he won't see the kindergarten kids until they meet again in middle school! He is 3 and this is already bothering me

Posted 12/7/11 9:05 PM
 

rkoenke
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Re: Making friends and elementary school questions

NO WAY! my daughters moved during that time, had no friends, made new ones right away. no fears!!
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Posted 12/7/11 9:15 PM
 

cantbelieveit
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Re: Making friends and elementary school questions

Nope, DD went to preschool with a few kids that are in her elementary school. And in her class, there are so many other kids and they are all just meeting. I think it takes a few years before they really stick with friends. There are 3 other kindergarten classes as well filled with plenty of kids that don't know one another.

Posted 12/7/11 9:36 PM
 

fdnywife
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Re: Making friends and elementary school questions

Entering Kindergarten - Not at all!

Posted 12/7/11 9:52 PM
 

nrthshgrl
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Re: Making friends and elementary school questions

I do think a lot of close friendships are made - not only between the kids but between the moms.

It's not a huge thing but it definitely makes it easier & eases school anxiety.

Posted 12/7/11 10:08 PM
 

computergirl
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Re: Making friends and elementary school questions

My DS went to both nursery and pre-K at the Catholic school he now attends. This school had 3 different pre-K classes (5 mornings a wk, 3 full days a wk, etc). As it happens, his two best friends in kindergarten were not even in the same pre-K class as him!!!!

Posted 12/8/11 6:33 AM
 

ajsmomliz
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Re: Making friends and elementary school questions

My son went to one Pre-k program at 3, another at 4 and started Kindergarten at a Catholic school. He wasn't thrilled with me at first but he adjusted very quickly. I was never the type to have my son involved in so many activities that he was so busy juggling. He has some friends and he goes to birthday parties, but we don't get together like alot of the moms in the class seem to. I do also notice that many have older children so they have been around each other alot more. I don't live in the same town so if there is someone he wants to get together with, I will try to arrange. But working all the time, juggling everything and then trying to coordinate seems more and more challenging. I think alot of it comes from my lack of ability to just walk right into someones conversation and try to become their friend. Children to learn from example...

Posted 12/8/11 1:09 PM
 

Michelle1123
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Re: Making friends and elementary school questions

My daughter went to pre-k outside of her district and she was fine with K started. Then, we just moved 3 weeks ago (she is now in 1st grade) and she already has like 5 BFF's (Chat Icon )

I think it depends on the child.

Posted 12/8/11 1:29 PM
 

PrincessP
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Re: Making friends and elementary school questions

My dd's preschool wasnt in the same district we live. She had friends there and she now has friends in Kindergarten. It doesnt make a difference at all.

Posted 12/8/11 4:26 PM
 

Goobster
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Re: Making friends and elementary school questions

Thank you all. I truly feel a weight has been lifted. I won't worry about it anymore.Chat Icon I am a friendly person and my child is very social in preschool already, so it sounds like all should be ok.

Message edited 12/8/2011 5:12:26 PM.

Posted 12/8/11 5:11 PM
 

HillandRon
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Re: Making friends and elementary school questions

Do not worry! we moved just before Jacob started K, I was worried because he has a lot of anxiety but he was great... He made lots of new friends and is doo g well... For me, I do not know anyone so I got involved with the PTA.. I have made lots of new friends threw this and I also became class mom...

Posted 12/9/11 8:11 AM
 

computergirl
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Re: Making friends and elementary school questions

Posted by HillandRon

Do not worry! we moved just before Jacob started K, I was worried because he has a lot of anxiety but he was great... He made lots of new friends and is doo g well... For me, I do not know anyone so I got involved with the PTA.. I have made lots of new friends threw this and I also became class mom...




I just wanted to say I totally agree with joining PTA. Even though we did preschool at the same Catholic school we now attend, I didn't feel like I made many friendships during that time. I got involved in the parents' association this year and I met so many new friends that way, and also became a class mom, lol. It's really a great thing to do.

Posted 12/9/11 8:13 AM
 

GenLCSW
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Re: Making friends and elementary school questions

DS entered kindergarten in September only knowing a handful of children but none of them are in his class. He has made lots of friends! Don't worry!! Chat Icon

Posted 12/9/11 8:46 AM
 

bayla
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Re: Making friends and elementary school questions

I am glad this was posted b/c I was wondering the same thing! My DS goes to pre-k in a different state then where his kindergarten will be next year. I am hoping he wont have any problems making new friends.

Posted 12/10/11 10:44 AM
 

MaMaTeenie
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Re: Making friends and elementary school questions

DS went to Universal pre-k in our district, but it just so happened that only 3 kids from his session (none from his class) go to the same elementary school. He started K not knowing anyone and he made friends very quickly. (He had a hard time adjusting, but that's his personality and he still made friends from day one) It didn't seem to me that there were clicks.

Posted 12/10/11 3:27 PM
 

Erica
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Re: Making friends and elementary school questions

I think you are in my sd? DS went to upk and regular daycare in our district and he only knew one kid in his class. So it doesn't matter too much.

That being said, if you are in my sd, ds#2 is starting kindergarten this September.

Posted 12/10/11 9:43 PM
 
 

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