How do you hang out with your friends with kids?

So of course I'm completely devastated right now, and this weekend, DH and I have plans with two couples that we're very good friends with, one with a 2 month old, and one with a 4 year old and a 4 month old. Neither of them knew we were pregnant, therefore neither of them know about my m/c. I'm not sure how I'm going to keep it together while I'm there playing with their daughters and hearing all about them.

How do you keep yourself composed around family and friends with kids....especially when this is all so new?

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Since it's so new, I would cancel the plans (if you can). Shortly ater my mc, my sis found out she was pregnant and I had to avoid her until I felt ok.

Message edited 12/15/2011 2:07:51 PM.

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I agree I would cancel the plans if you can. I had a first birthday party a week after my D&C and it was hard. With time it does get easier....

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if they are really good friends, i would probably use this as an opportunity to tell them whats going on...

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Posted by AngnShaun

if they are really good friends, i would probably use this as an opportunity to tell them whats going on...

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None of our closest friends knew we were pregnant either. We decided to tell them and they've been very supportive and understanding, for the most part. However, I have not handled hanging out with my friends with kids or that are pregnant well at all. We went to a first birthday this past Sunday and I held it together until we left. Then I broke down into hysterical tears. It was awful. Cancelling the plans is probably a good idea. It's not going to be easy.

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I would cancel the plans.

It is hard to around kids at times for me. My SIL is pregnant and I would have been due six weeks after her so seeing her through the pregnancy hurts me since it reminds me of what would have been. I try my best to remember my angel and be happy for others around me. I have faith that one day I will have children. I think the best advice for you is stay positive.

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I am so sorry for your loss. I would cancel your plans. Weeks after my MC my sister came to visit with her newborn and I thought I was strong and able to handle it and the moment I held him I collapsed into a sobbing mess and I felt so bad

I really think you need to take the time to heal and do whats best and easiest for you.

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Fortunately not too many of my friends have babies, so I didn't run into this problem all that much... One of my close friends I have NO problem with being around her baby..

Then I have this other friend who since my losses has distanced herself. I feel like she feels awkward around me or something.


I am so sorry you are on this board now

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Unfortunately I don't really know what to tell you. I saw my best friend's newborn 2-3 weeks after finding out about my ectopic and I was still technically pregnant. Surprisingly, I took it really well because despite my loss I was so happy for her. Everyone deals with things differently though and any decision you make will be the right one for you.

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Thanks ladies. I still have no idea what I'm going to do. I think I might just play it by ear, go to my girlfriend's house and see if I can hold it together. If I can't, then I'll just tell them. These are two of my best friends, so them being supportive and understanding doesn't worry me at all. I feel like I just need to keep busy so I can (try to) keep it off my mind.