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NewLeaf2012
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thank you
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KarenK122
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Re: Problems with a family member
Does your Mom watch your child for you or does she just visit. You need to be tough and set the rules for your son. If that was my mother she would have no alone contact with my DD until she abides by my rules.
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| Posted 1/30/12 6:19 PM |
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NewLeaf2012
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Re: Problems with a family member
Posted by KarenK122
Does your Mom watch your child for you or does she just visit. You need to be tough and set the rules for your son. If that was my mother she would have no alone contact with my DD until she abides by my rules.
She lives with us... So hard to set the rules with her. Even when I write down his schedule and what he can and can't eat, she does what she wants..
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| Posted 1/30/12 6:23 PM |
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A3CM
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Re: Problems with a family member
since your mom lives with you, what does your OT have to say?
my DS had/has sensory/texture issues... and our OT worked on them with us... and one of them was to introduce him to things that bothered him... play doh was one of them.. he would freeze, scream, arch his back, throw himself to the ground, at the site of play doh, but our OT little by little would always take it out, make him touch it, and now he LOVES it...
i am not saying your DS is the same, but the repetitiveness of being near it, touching it, he soon became immune to the texture of it.
the name calling is wrong, that i do agree with.. but maybe you should have her sit in on a therapy session, since she does reside there as well... maybe this is her way of needing to understand
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| Posted 1/30/12 9:18 PM |
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A3CM
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Re: Problems with a family member
Posted by NewLeaf2012
Posted by KarenK122
Does your Mom watch your child for you or does she just visit. You need to be tough and set the rules for your son. If that was my mother she would have no alone contact with my DD until she abides by my rules.
She lives with us... So hard to set the rules with her. Even when I write down his schedule and what he can and can't eat, she does what she wants..
but does she watch him? you said you need to write thing down... which to me means you allow her to be with him for long periods of time without you there.. if thats the case then you need to stop leaving him with her... i don't mean to sound mean and i hope i am not coming off that way, but regardless if someone lived with me or not, if they can't following simple directions then my DC will not be left unattended with you for no more than 30 mins.
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| Posted 1/30/12 9:22 PM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: Problems with a family member
DS has sensory and texture issues. My mother used to be bad about not listening to me. SHe doesn't understand how someone doesn't enjoy eating 
I just tell her to leave him alone. When he's hungry he will let me know.
Finally after sitting with us during a therapy session and seeing first hand how he will throw a fit if you put food in front of him he doesn't know she gets it.
Although she still does it. For instance, we were away with them this past weekend. He was happily watching Dora on DH's phone not eating with us at dinner. She kept putting food in front of him like french fries. Just b/c most kids love it mine does not. I asked her nicely to remove it b/c I am enjoying my meal and able to sit, relax and have a conversation. I don't want to have to deal with him throwing a fit over a FF. 
She listened, but still thinks people are happier when they're well fed.
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| Posted 1/31/12 1:06 PM |
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NewLeaf2012
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Re: Problems with a family member
Posted by AJandCJsMommy
Posted by NewLeaf2012
Posted by KarenK122
Does your Mom watch your child for you or does she just visit. You need to be tough and set the rules for your son. If that was my mother she would have no alone contact with my DD until she abides by my rules.
She lives with us... So hard to set the rules with her. Even when I write down his schedule and what he can and can't eat, she does what she wants..
but does she watch him? you said you need to write thing down... which to me means you allow her to be with him for long periods of time without you there.. if thats the case then you need to stop leaving him with her... i don't mean to sound mean and i hope i am not coming off that way, but regardless if someone lived with me or not, if they can't following simple directions then my DC will not be left unattended with you for no more than 30 mins.
She doesn't really watch him. Hubby does that when I am not home. But she butts in and does what she wants.. I understand what you saying. Not mean... It is just hard when she seems to listen one minute and not the next.. I have just gotten rid of the foods I don't want him to have.. I have to write everything down for everyone who watches him because he eats so little, that I have to make sure he gets something into him. I have a food diary basically..
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