Bad morning, just need to vent **UPDATE & THANK YOU***

DS has been doing so well lately. We've been letting him come in our room in the middle of the night if he gets up and starts whining. He can't tell us what's wrong, but as soon as I make a little bed on the floor for him he lays down, goes to sleep, and has been waking up in a better mood.

Last night he never got up in the middle of the night, which we thought was a good thing. He woke up screaming his head off around 5AM. DH picked him up and tried to calm him, but he had to leave for work (usually DH leaves later than me and helps, but he was going to LI and had to be out by 5:30AM... we're in NJ).
DS wouldn't come to me at all so I finally calmed him and DH left. I have to work and the clock was ticking so I distracted him with a toy. I went in the shower and it was he!! from there. He was screaming and banging his head, throwing things. I jumped out of the shower to calm him and it went on and on. I just wanted to cry. He was screaming and screaming and he wouldn't calm down. I finally got him partially dressed (no pants) and got him his oatmeal for breakfast. I quickly got myself dressed, the baby up, dressed and fed then put him in the carseat. Mason finally was calm for me to finish getting him dressed and in the car.
It's like he had no memory of him screaming and banging his head over and over. I sit here at my desk wanting to cry and crawl into a ball and DS is probably happy as can be in daycare (I'll call shortly, but he got there ok).
I just wish when he gets like that he can tell me what's wrong.
I know what to do usually so I'm really not asking for advise. It was just an off morning b/c DH had to go extra early, Mason never came to our room and never calmed down till last minute. Plus, I had to go to work.
THe whole time Mason was yelling for daddy, which was breaking my heart. Sometimes I think DH has more patiencec than me when I'm the one always doing the research and working with his therapists and daycare teachers.

Thanks for listening if you got this far.


***Update 2/22***
So when I saw Mason in the afternoon he was happy and excited to see me. Like the morning never happened. Kids are funny like that.
Yes, I do believe it was change of the routine, lack of sleep and coming back from a long weekend. Plus, didn't help DH got him and then had to rush out.
I know this is also normal of toddlers to act this way. Mason is talking more and more and even using some verbal commands, which is huge. Still working on his "feelings," more actions and using two or more step directions.

THis morning was better and having DH home to help was huge. He was getting a little cranky, but I let him have his paci for the car. Usually never do that, but sometimes you got to get out of the house. He was good and left it in the car b4 we walked into daycare.
Going to Aruba this weekend for a week. I think we're all in need of a vacation! Helps that my IL's will also be there to take the boys a couple of nights
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Again... I just want to thank all you Ladies soooo very much for the hugs and support. I don't know what I'd do without you.
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You can only take so much advise from people, but they don't know what it's like. Each child is different.

Message edited 2/22/2012 8:52:56 AM.

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Hopefully tomorrow will be better!!

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DS is speech delayed too, so I can relate, and he often asks for Dad when he's throwing a tantrum. I know how hurtful it can be. You were supermom this morning getting both boys out--I can't imagine that I would have made it to work before noon after dealing with that!

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Thanks so much for the hugs and encouragment.
I called his daycare and he's having a good day.
His teacher also said that usually after a 3 day weekend all kids are off. We just didn't have time to have our unwind time and he didn't know how to react.

I just hated seeing his face. It's like he was so sad and angry, but didn't know what to do.
Tonight I need some extra time with him. More cuddles.

Even more tough with caring for the baby. Thank goodness Brayden is so laid back and sweet. Some days I feel guilty I give Mason all my attention.

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Hang in there mama!! You are really doing all you can, don't forget that!!

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hugs to you, days like that blow but hopefully tomorrow is better.

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Starting out the day like that just sucks.

It does get easier when they are better able to communicate. I found my DS was less frustrated even after learning a few signs. Hang in there.

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Wow. You are amazing, getting yourself and two children ready and out the door. I only have one, and it was very hard getting to work some mornings with him when he was younger. Before he had speech, I rarely knew what set him off, now I know changes to his routine are upsetting and once I knew that, I started warning him when a change was coming. It helps a lot.

Not sure this is what happened, but possibly, and his teacher is right, the end of the long weekend is hard.

As he can communicate more, it will get better!

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So sorry to hear how things went yesterday morning, hopefully today is a better one.

I often tell my dh that getting things ready in the morning is like putting on a Broadway production. One little change, can cause a huge disaster .

Sounds like your little guy is dealing with separation anxiety which I believe just about all kids deal with and the frustration of not being able to express all those feelings.