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PennyCat
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Mothers Day.. if you have no living children..
Does anyone in your family (or friends) acknowledge you on Mothers Day?
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Posted 5/7/12 1:49 PM  |
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AngnShaun
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Re: Mothers Day.. if you have no living children..
No, well, except my 5 year old nephew but he also said I was Shauns mom lol..
Honestly i dont really want them to. I definitely dont consider myself a mother.
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| Posted 5/7/12 2:01 PM |
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Re: Mothers Day.. if you have no living children..
I think if anyone acknowledged me as a mother it would make me even more upset.
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| Posted 5/7/12 4:50 PM |
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moonmist09
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Re: Mothers Day.. if you have no living children..
Before I had living children after my 1st loss, My hubby and MIL bought me a gift on mother's day. Also i had close circle of online friends for a child loss forum and we would also surprise each other with flowers and gifts on Mother's Day, the anniversary of the loss, holidays etc... My bestest friend from there lives is Australia- I remember the shock when i received some beautiful Lillies from her. I know it meant alot to me and like minded angel moms who felt the same way. Some women it means the world to them but some women it upsets them .
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| Posted 5/7/12 5:15 PM |
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PennyCat
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Re: Mothers Day.. if you have no living children..
Posted by MissExtremist
Before I had living children after my 1st loss, My hubby and MIL bought me a gift on mother's day. Also i had close circle of online friends for a child loss forum and we would also surprise each other with flowers and gifts on Mother's Day, the anniversary of the loss, holidays etc... My bestest friend from there lives is Australia- I remember the shock when i received some beautiful Lillies from her. I know it meant alot to me and like minded angel moms who felt the same way. Some women it means the world to them but some women it upsets them .
That sounds really nice!
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| Posted 5/7/12 8:58 PM |
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Jess2
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Re: Mothers Day.. if you have no living children..
No. Honestly I don't want to be, too much hurt and it would upset me.
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| Posted 5/9/12 12:12 PM |
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PennyCat
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Re: Mothers Day.. if you have no living children..
Posted by Jess2
No. Honestly I don't want to be, too much hurt and it would upset me.
I used to feel that way... but sometimes I wish people other than just me and my dh acknowledged that my babies were real  and that my pregnancies really did happen.
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| Posted 5/9/12 11:54 PM |
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cds58019
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Re: Mothers Day.. if you have no living children..
Posted by PennyCat
Posted by Jess2
No. Honestly I don't want to be, too much hurt and it would upset me.
I used to feel that way... but sometimes I wish people other than just me and my dh acknowledged that my babies were real and that my pregnancies really did happen.
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| Posted 5/10/12 12:41 AM |
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Jess2
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Re: Mothers Day.. if you have no living children..
Posted by PennyCat
Posted by Jess2
No. Honestly I don't want to be, too much hurt and it would upset me.
I used to feel that way... but sometimes I wish people other than just me and my dh acknowledged that my babies were real and that my pregnancies really did happen.
I totally understand. I decided to do things in their memories but each person has their own way of dealing with loss. This Mother's day is especially tough for me bc my mother passed away a month ago.
Someone from another board who also had a 2nd trimester loss actually held a birthday party in memory of her lost child. That was a bit much for me, but again, everyone has their own way of dealing with things.
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| Posted 5/10/12 11:05 AM |
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PennyCat
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Re: Mothers Day.. if you have no living children..
Posted by Jess2
Posted by PennyCat
Posted by Jess2
No. Honestly I don't want to be, too much hurt and it would upset me.
I used to feel that way... but sometimes I wish people other than just me and my dh acknowledged that my babies were real and that my pregnancies really did happen.
I totally understand. I decided to do things in their memories but each person has their own way of dealing with loss. This Mother's day is especially tough for me bc my mother passed away a month ago.
Someone from another board who also had a 2nd trimester loss actually held a birthday party in memory of her lost child. That was a bit much for me, but again, everyone has their own way of dealing with things.
for losing your mother.. I'm so sorry...
and I agree, a birthday party would definitely be a bit much for me too!!! I just mean like a little card or something.
In memory of the babies we lost, we donate clothes or toys during the holiday season to babies who would be the age of OUR babies who we lost. So, last holiday season we gave a toy fit for a 1yr old, and 3 newborns. (It helps bring me closure because I feel like at least something good comes from my losses.. and it's a tradition I'd like to keep up)
We also have a brick at Eisenhower Park for my first baby that we lost in the 2nd tri... Oh- and I have a ring with the birth stone of when he was supposed to of been born.
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| Posted 5/10/12 12:10 PM |
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seasaw
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Re: Mothers Day.. if you have no living children..
Posted by PennyCat
Posted by Jess2
No. Honestly I don't want to be, too much hurt and it would upset me.
I used to feel that way... but sometimes I wish people other than just me and my dh acknowledged that my babies were real and that my pregnancies really did happen.
This is something that came up for me in a support group meeting that I recently attended. The counselors addressed the group about Mother's Day and talked about how we are all mothers regardless of how long we held our baby, be it in your arms or in your womb.
Lots of love to everyone today because today sucks for all of us!
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seasaw
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Re: Mothers Day.. if you have no living children..
I love that idea about donating toys and such!
The support group that I went to last month had women who talked about all the things that they do...some of them are really, really out there to me but it helps them!
I've thought long and hard and I really want to get one of the blue and pink ribbons for pregnancy loss tattooed but somewhere inconspicuous because it's for me. I can't decide on a place so I'm holding off for now but some way. Tonight I was wished a happy mothers day at like midnight right before I was going to bed so now I'm wide awake. Then my mom sent me an E-card wishing me a happy mothers day from my dog which made me feel worse but that's not her fault. I finally did something I've been planning on doing...
I wanted a necklace but not one that screams"I've lost 9 babies" for the world to question me about. I'm ordering a simple, small, hand stamped charm to put on a long chain that is two-sided:
Front side reads:
"i'll hold you in my heart..."
Back side reads:
"until I can hold you in heaven"
Message edited 5/13/2012 1:50:41 AM.
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Melissa1013
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Re: Mothers Day.. if you have no living children..
Posted by seasaw
I love that idea about donating toys and such!
The support group that I went to last month had women who talked about all the things that they do...some of them are really, really out there to me but it helps them!
I've thought long and hard and I really want to get one of the blue and pink ribbons for pregnancy loss tattooed but somewhere inconspicuous because it's for me. I can't decide on a place so I'm holding off for now but some way. Tonight I was wished a happy mothers day at like midnight right before I was going to bed so now I'm wide awake. Then my mom sent me an E-card wishing me a happy mothers day from my dog which made me feel worse but that's not her fault. I finally did something I've been planning on doing...
I wanted a necklace but not one that screams"I've lost 9 babies" for the world to question me about. I'm ordering a simple, small, hand stamped charm to put on a long chain that is two-sided:
Front side reads:
"i'll hold you in my heart..."
Back side reads:
"until I can hold you in heaven"
That sounds so beautiful.
I hope everyone had a peaceful Mother's Day. I know I'm glad it's over. I lost my son at 21w5d and his birthday is next week. Too much all at once.
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allIwant
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Re: Mothers Day.. if you have no living children..
Posted by PennyCat
Posted by Jess2
No. Honestly I don't want to be, too much hurt and it would upset me.
I used to feel that way... but sometimes I wish people other than just me and my dh acknowledged that my babies were real and that my pregnancies really did happen.
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PennyCat
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Re: Mothers Day.. if you have no living children..
Thanks ladies  The day was actually really nice. We had a bbq at my house and I basically forgot we were there for Mothers Day for the most part... until we opened up gifts.
I wasn't expecting anything at all, but my mom actually gave me a beautiful pair of earrings and a poem about mothers and daughters that she found in the paper.
Once everyone left, my dh gave me a very special card and a small gift.
Ultimately, it was a really nice day with no room for tears... I'm just hoping that next year I'm celebrating for 'real'.
Message edited 5/15/2012 12:20:25 AM.
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AngnShaun
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Re: Mothers Day.. if you have no living children..
Posted by PennyCat
Thanks ladies The day was actually really nice. We had a bbq at my house and I basically forgot we were there for Mothers Day for the most part... until we opened up gifts.
I wasn't expecting anything at all, but my mom actually gave me a beautiful pair of earrings and a poem about mothers and daughters that she found in the paper.
Once everyone left, my dh gave me a very special card and a small gift.
Ultimately, it was a really nice day with no room for tears... I'm just hoping that next year I'm celebrating for 'real'.
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| Posted 5/15/12 9:17 AM |
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LadyBug1209
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Re: Mothers Day.. if you have no living children..
Posted by PennyCat
Thanks ladies The day was actually really nice. We had a bbq at my house and I basically forgot we were there for Mothers Day for the most part... until we opened up gifts.
I wasn't expecting anything at all, but my mom actually gave me a beautiful pair of earrings and a poem about mothers and daughters that she found in the paper.
Once everyone left, my dh gave me a very special card and a small gift.
Ultimately, it was a really nice day with no room for tears... I'm just hoping that next year I'm celebrating for 'real'.
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