really had a bad weekend

I think i literally cried since friday, and even on my way to get my Beta tested this AM

Will this ever get easier? We had our MC going on 9 weeks ago and we are waiting for my beta to drop and AF to come.

Since Friday, i have been so angry at the world and crying. I know my body needs to be realxed in order for me to heel, but i am finding it so hard.

This past week I have seen and heard of so many bith announcements, and ones that were around the same time frame as me It STINKS

I am at the point where i think DH is so lost and not sure how to make me feel better. I had went for a reflexology foot massage and hope he hit some pressure points.

How is everyone Dealing w a MC and society around us?

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I just talk about it, I haven't hid it from anyone. Around the girls that are preggo, I have no problem telling them. I've found that I get a lot less of the "better start working on it" or the "when are you having kids" question. Luckily my beta came down pretty quickly and I got AF about 5 weeks after the MC (I wasn't far along). It's been hard to see the announcements of pregnancies and births, absolutely, and I just let myself cry. DH and I make ourselves so busy that (thankfully) I don't have much time to sit and think about it. Also, since this was our first, I am trying to remain positive, thinking at least we could get pregnant, silver linings and all.

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It royally stinks
they called w my beta and its 6.9
it was 7.5 last week

and once again here came the water works

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It's so funny how different offices have different practices. When mine dropped to 6, they said they didn't need to test anymore... which was fine, but I guess it made me wonder when it was going to go all the way down. DH was so sweet when it was happening, but like yours didn't really know how to help. I had to remember that it was hard for him too, he was so excited when we got our BFP.

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they want to test me until I am atleast at 5.. then its my choice if i want to continue or not-
I am still only at 6.9

You are very lucky your came fast. This will be 9 weeks since we MC and its beyond frustrating

It is very hard for the DH's as well, but they try to be stronger

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I'm so sorry you are going through this. I had a mc around the same time as you - end of march. It was awful. I have good days and bad days. I guess like Jess said I just try to focus on the positives like the fact that you can get pregnany and it WILL happen again. I saw that someone on here wrote that she felt having a miscarriage made her a more caring and patient mom - that she appreciated the miracle of carrying a baby and delivering it full term so much more. I also find comfort in that. Stay strong.

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I have DEFINITELY been there And yes, it does get better. Eventually all wounds do heal... but sadly even healed wounds can leave scars. It's been 4 years since I've experienced my losses and even though I have emotionally, mentally, & physically healed, it never did leave me. I'm so happy with my healthy little girl, but sometimes still feel sad over what I had to endure before she finally came around. I'll cry anytime I think about the possibility of someday meeting my lost little ones in Heaven. And now with idea of TTC #2 in the near future, I am faced once again with all of those old fears. So yes, in time it DOES get easier & you move on, but that doesn't mean you forget. I will say though that I agree with what luckyinlove10 said. Without any doubt whatsoever, I know that I have appreciated my daughter soooo much more because what I experienced. She is treated and loved as the exceptional blessing that she is. It definitely has made me look at pregnancy & motherhood very differently - and in a good way!

Give yourself time to heal. Don’t ever feel guilty or wrong for mourning. I entered such a dark place in the midst of my losses and it took me months to come out of it. My husband was much how you described yours - just scared & lost. Just let him know that you love him. Let him hold you, even if it’s while you’re crying. I think men are very frightened of being useless, especially to their wives.

Lots of prayers for your healing, and for the eventual healthy pregnancy in your future!!

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I completely know how you feel. My beta is at 11 and waiting for it to come down, its like we are so close and just want AF to come so that you can start to move on.

I was hysterically crying last night when my husband told me someone we know is pregnant with twins. My husband told me you dont know what she had to go thru to get there and although he is right, it just makes me so sad. I told him not to tell me about people that are pregnant right now as I just cannot handle it.

Hang in there, it will get easier and I have found keeping myself busy helps. I took up yoga and I so far like it and has helped

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First off, I am sorry for your loss. I know it's hard. I had my miscarriage 2.5 weeks ago and I feel like all I see are pregnancy announcements. It hits me in the gut every time. I really think it just takes time. I have been focusing my time and energy on things that Ilove to do (zumba, running, & softball). I feel I need to keep my mind occupied so I stop thinking about it. Is this the best solution, I don't know but I needed to do something.

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Thanks
I did take up acupuncture and started last night.
This keeps me busy along with the gym