Nervous (update)

Sorry if this is a long post but here goes...
After trying to conceive for over 2 years, we were successful after a few rounds of IUI with injectables and our DD is now 17 months. I'm 38 and I didn't want to wait too long before trying to conceive again b/c who knows how long it may take.
I went to my RE in November to begin the process all over again- blood, U/S, HSG, SA, etc. I was about to start my 1st IUI cycle when my bld test and U/S showed that I had ovulated. I was shocked b/c my issue had always been that I do not ovulate on my own. I went back 2 weeks later and found out I was pg. I was monitored closely, bld tests every 2 days to make sure my HCG was going up and I have been using Crinone suppositories daily. My 1st and 2nd u/s were perfect showing the yolk sac and then fetal pole. I was given a due date of Aug 26 based on my measurements- it's still unknown when I truly ovulated and I haven't gotten a period since Sept!
Last week I was supposed to be 7 weeks pg. My RE wanted to do the u/s himself and then I would be released to my Ob/Gyn. Turns out the fetus was measuring small and a heartbeat could not be detected. Its possible that the due date was calculated incorrectly but my RE also said the shape of the fetus looked somewhat abnormal. He said to be 100% sure we should give it another week to see if there is any growth but it is very likely that I will miscarry. I have been trying to be optimistic and hopeful but I am so sad and can't stop crying. It's been a terrible week and I am so nervous about going to my appt tomorrow.
I guess we'll see what happens but then there are so many decisions to make if this does not turn out well. D&C or let things happen naturally? Try again on our own or go right into fertility tx again?
Again, I am so sorry this is so long. I have been on this board since 2012 and have always come here for info or comfort.

Update:
I had my u/s this morning and there hasn't been any growth since last week and no heartbeat. I have to follow up w/ my Ob/Gyn next week to discuss d&c or letting things just happen naturally, which could take weeks. Not sure i can handle that! Then I have to wait one month before trying again. Thanks gor listening & for your support!

Message edited 1/16/2015 7:09:56 PM.

Nervous

Please don't apologize for a long post!
I'm so sorry for what you are dealing with. I don't think you need to make or think about a decision just yet, try to be positive. Deal with things when you need to. Since you were able to get pregnant on your own you could try a month or two, but understand that when you "try" you add stress and often don't conceive. Whatever happens know that you can come here and vent anytime! Good luck!

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I hope that the dates are just off. I'm glad your re is giving it another week to see if things progress. I really hope that's the case.

I would try again naturally for 6 months. I have an 18mo dd that was conceived after a year and a half, 4 iuis and 2 Ivfs. When she was 16 months I found out I was pregnant naturally after only tying for 2 months. I'm 35 and was giving it 6 months before going back to re. Lots and lots of women get pregnant naturally after conceiving their first through treatments. A pregnancy changes things and also the stress ttc is off for the second. Best of luck.

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I do think you could just be a little off since no telling exactly when you ovulated. If you think you're exactly 7 weeks I would definitely wait before agreeing to a D&C or anything else. Baby could just be a couple of days behind.

Good Luck

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Sorry that you are getting such a scare!

First, fetal measurements this early are super inaccurate (says my Dr).

You really don't know what week you are:waiting at least another week is a good thing.

Have they been doing betas? That may be another source.

Last, natural trying vs IF treatment is a tough one. I've done both... personal decision. Would also depend on how close to menopause your RE thinks you are.

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I am so sorry you are going through this.

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I am praying the dates are off. It was not exactly like you were monitored so anything could be possible! I am so sorry you are dealing with the uncertainty.

Nervous (update)

so so sorry you are going through this. If i had to choose between doing a D & C and letting it happen naturally, i would take the D&C, its a quick procedure and you can be sure that there is nothing left of the pregnancy in your uterus that could pose a problem afterwards. Sometimes, when you let it go naturally, or with the help of pills, your body may not release everything inside and have to go in for a D&C anyway.

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I'm so sorry to hear this.
I opted for a D and C for my 2nd MC because I couldn't do the wait again. Physically it wasn't too bad as long as you have no issues with sedation. There is always a chance you will have left over tissue. I had to go for a 2nd D and C but I was a rare case and honestly it was still easier than having to do that wait again. It's all about what you prefer and what you can handle mentally and physically. Many to you.

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I'm sorry!

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I'm so sorry

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I'm so sorry you're going through this :(. Many prayers for you and your family.

For my second miscarriage I opted for the DandC. It was a better experience in my opinion and my numbers were pretty high so I didn't want to wait it out not knowing when it would suddenly start.

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I am so very sorry...what a terrible experience. I wish you all the strength in the world.

Nervous (update)

I'm so sorry!

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I'm so so sorry.

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Oh no. I am so very sorry