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HoneymoonBaby
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WWYD??
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Dolphinsbaby
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Re: WWYD??
You did the right thing. I would be super pissed. How could she act like that? Even if you were not at a sensory gym, does she not see how children (even ones that don't have special needs) act?
I know it's hard but I wouldn't give it a second thought. I bet she is kicking herself for how she acted after you told her. I was in the developmental ped office this week and a little boy came up and sat between my husband and I (my son whose seat it was was wandering around of course). He kept playing with my hair and touching our arms and was telling us his name and his cat's name. His mom kept apologizing and I said please don't give it a second thought. He is really well behaved (as my child was running around all over). She seemed relieved and mouthed thank you.
The women you dealt with unfortunately was an azz and I hope she learned her lesson!
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| Posted 7/9/15 5:41 PM |
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PregowithTwins
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WWYD??
Amazing that you would post this here considering that you never know if the other person involved is on LI Families. Well here I am.
Yes, you were talking to therapist Miss J. I was sitting across the room as both my twin boys also 3 1/2 were playing. As My son was yelling, don't hit me is when I walked over. Your daughter continued to go back & forth & hit both on the head.
I NEVER grabbed your daughters arm. I gently touched her hand & said don't do that. This is when you said "I take care of her"
I stood there and watched them play, but you said you were leaving anyway. We have been going there for some time but our hours were switched because of summer time. We will be there ever thursday at that hour for summer.
I certainly did NOT KNOW your daughter has autism & sorry for that. I have never encountered a child on spectrum that I know, but certainly nobody hitting my boys if they were.
If I see you again, I will help my boys stay calm. To them, it was just a girl hitting them & didn't know why. I certainly didn't either. I am SHOCKED you think that I was doing something wrong.
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| Posted 7/9/15 9:04 PM |
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PregowithTwins
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Re: WWYD??
Posted by Dolphinsbaby
You did the right thing. I would be super pissed. How could she act like that? Even if you were not at a sensory gym, does she not see how children (even ones that don't have special needs) act?
I know it's hard but I wouldn't give it a second thought. I bet she is kicking herself for how she acted after you told her. I was in the developmental ped office this week and a little boy came up and sat between my husband and I (my son whose seat it was was wandering around of course). He kept playing with my hair and touching our arms and was telling us his name and his cat's name. His mom kept apologizing and I said please don't give it a second thought. He is really well behaved (as my child was running around all over). She seemed relieved and mouthed thank you.
The women you dealt with unfortunately was an azz and I hope she learned her lesson!
Not at all kicking my self. There were people in the waiting room who commented about situation after. They saw my boys being hit.
Remember always two sides to every story. I would NEVER hurt a child & certainly NEVER grab someone by the arm.
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| Posted 7/9/15 9:08 PM |
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PregowithTwins
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WWYD??
Please let me know how you think I should have handled this?? Let me boys get hit as you continue to talk to the OT??? Am I really wrong for trying to say "Don't hit my child" or I should say children since both boys were there. I don't think so????
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| Posted 7/9/15 9:10 PM |
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KarenK122
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WWYD??
Well this is awkward but as a mother of an autistic child, autism is no excuse for bad behavior against another child. If you child was hitting then you should have apologized and took your child with you while you were talking to the therapist. Regardless of age, if you child needs supervision while around other children, it should be done everywhere even in a doctors office. My daughter was/still is a grabber and she sometimes makes other children uncomfortable and if that happens and I can not redirect her I make sure to get her out of the situation immediately and apologize to the family. It's my responsibility to make sure she is behaving and I have no problem if someone told her so if I was not paying attention.
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| Posted 7/9/15 10:06 PM |
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HoneymoonBaby
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Re: WWYD??
Posted by PregowithTwins
Please let me know how you think I should have handled this?? Let me boys get hit as you continue to talk to the OT??? Am I really wrong for trying to say "Don't hit my child" or I should say children since both boys were there. I don't think so????
How about saying "oh no. Don't hit?"
Not angrily asking me if this is my child as if I was playing on my phone or something and not being a good mom. You tried to grab my daughter to move her and you were angry at her. She is THREE years old and we were in a therapy room at a place for children with special needs. I don't think you were shocked because I'm sure you could have inferred from my reaction that I was upset. Again, sorry that my daughter hit your child. We are working on it. I cant always stop her from doing something she shouldn't before it happens. And don't worry I'll try to change our time to avoid any future problems. Have a great, relaxing summer.
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| Posted 7/9/15 10:20 PM |
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PregowithTwins
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Re: WWYD??
Posted by HoneymoonBaby
Posted by PregowithTwins
Please let me know how you think I should have handled this?? Let me boys get hit as you continue to talk to the OT??? Am I really wrong for trying to say "Don't hit my child" or I should say children since both boys were there. I don't think so????
How about saying "oh no. Don't hit?"
Not angrily asking me if this is my child as if I was playing on my phone or something and not being a good mom. You tried to grab my daughter to move her and you were angry at her. She is THREE years old and we were in a therapy room at a place for children with special needs. I don't think you were shocked because I'm sure you could have inferred from my reaction that I was upset. Again, sorry that my daughter hit your child. We are working on it. I cant always stop her from doing something she shouldn't before it happens. And don't worry I'll try to change our time to avoid any future problems. Have a great, relaxing summer.
So sad............you know you were wrong along with the others in the waiting room. You didn't see what was happening because when I made the comment
"Is this your daughter"
you replied "Yes. Why, what did she do"
Anyway, I get she is there for help as well as my son but for OT/PT.
Good Luck to you!!
In MY opinion moving times won't help. Maybe trying to teach in that crazy waiting room.
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PregowithTwins
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Re: WWYD??
Posted by KarenK122
Well this is awkward but as a mother of an autistic child, autism is no excuse for bad behavior against another child. If you child was hitting then you should have apologized and took your child with you while you were talking to the therapist. Regardless of age, if you child needs supervision while around other children, it should be done everywhere even in a doctors office. My daughter was/still is a grabber and she sometimes makes other children uncomfortable and if that happens and I can not redirect her I make sure to get her out of the situation immediately and apologize to the family. It's my responsibility to make sure she is behaving and I have no problem if someone told her so if I was not paying attention.
Thank you so much Karen for your comment. I really appreciate it.
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| Posted 7/10/15 6:59 AM |
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dpli
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Re: WWYD??
Posted by PregowithTwins
I certainly did NOT KNOW your daughter has autism & sorry for that. I have never encountered a child on spectrum that I know, but certainly nobody hitting my boys if they were.
I'm not taking sides, but chances are if you are going to a sensory gym, you have already encountered children on the spectrum, you may not know it.
My DS is a hitter, it's always uncomfortable when he does it. I try my best to handle it, but it's always uncomfortable and sometimes an embarrassing and tense situation to deal with. I have been in the situation where I am trying to talk to a therapist and handle him at the same time. It's frustrating and upsetting because you really can't do both things well at the same time. I would say if you encounter this in the future, the best way to handle it would be to position yourself between the child who is hitting and your child so you don't have to put your hands on the child while protecting your own kids. I always appreciate it when people cut me some slack when this happens. More than you will ever realize.
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iluvmynutty
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Re: WWYD??
I didn't read the original post, but I get the gist of it... As an OT and a mom of a sensory kid, might I suggest OP have a conversation with the service providers stating that it's very difficult to focus on the conversation/sign the log note at the end of the session because you need to keep your eyes on your DD at all times in the waiting room (hitting other children...). Ask them if it would be possible for them (or the receptionist) to call you IN to the sensory gym at the end of the session while your DD is occupied/contained (sitting at the table, in the ball pit etc...) to discuss the session and sign the note. If they aren't open to doing that,maybe have her sit in a chair with your cell phone/app/YouTube Kids or a special book etc to distract her and keep her from becoming disorganized in the busy waiting room.
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