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Diana1215
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Re: Help me on how to tell future sister in law to hold off on the engagement party...
Posted by adeline27
Posted by Diana1215
My son is getting Christened next week (he will be almost 4 months) and has been to a TON of parties so far. 3 months is a LONG time to not do anything!!
Like you said to each his own. I don't feel comfortable taking my baby out 4-8 weeks old. I don't feel it is safe knowing that everyone will want to touch and hold the baby and there will be lots of kids at the party. It's flu season too. Call me over protective but that's how I feel about it. I don't want to bring my baby out. That's great that you brought your baby to a ton of parties. I don't feel comfortable doing so that soon.
All my family will be there and DH's family is not around. I don't have enough trust in anyone else to leave my newborn with.
If they have the party soon my DH will be at the party for sure.
You didn't state above that you didn't want to take your child out because of flu season - or because it's too young. You said you didn't want to take him out before being Christened. If you are worried about germs and people touching him - then def. do not take him to the party. But, if they have the party - you are saying your DH will be there for sure....it's your brother -- why not have DH stay home with the baby? That seems reasonable enough.
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Re: Help me on how to tell future sister in law to hold off on the engagement party...
I think that you are a touch out of line. Yes, you are allowed to not want to bring your baby out if you aren't comfortable with it, but that being said, your brother and SIL are allowed to plan their party when they want it as well. And that may mean that you don't go.
Do you not want to bring your son out before he is christened b/c you want people to see him for the first time at his Christening??
Listen, I had to move when DS was 5 weeks old, life doesn't always wait for you b/c you have a newborn.
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| Posted 10/14/07 8:48 PM |
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adeline27
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Re: Help me on how to tell future sister in law to hold off on the engagement party...
Posted by dm24angel
Im not sure I understand why you cant take a baby out before they are baptised?
I understand waiting for their shots but baptised I have never heard of.
But Im sure you have valid reasons.
I dont see why you cant have the baby stay home instead?
I think your thinking along the lines of you and your baby and they are thinking along the lines of themselves and their priorities and if it wer eyou in their shoes, you would probably be annoyed no??
You cant do anything IMO about it.
Once you have a baby you have to JUGGLE and prioritize and its hard. This is your first test it appears....
It is important for me to have my baby christened before going out. Their isn't a rule or anything that's how I feel about it. If that's odd to people so be it. It's not to me. I also don't feel comfortable taking the baby out so soon after birth.
I'm not going to say anything to them so I'm going to actually try to close my own thread now. I understand that it is their party and I shouldn't tell them when to have it. It just will suck for me because of course I'd like to be there. We'll play it by ear. Invitations haven't been sent out or anything its just I know they talked about having the party soon like next month or so.
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| Posted 10/14/07 8:50 PM |
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adeline27
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Re: Help me on how to tell future sister in law to hold off on the engagement party...
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If they decide to have the party in a month or two to me it will be way too soon to bring my baby out. I'm due in a week and a half. Also I would like to have my baby christened before attending parties. That's how I feel about it.
More power to you all for those that have had no problem bringing their babies out so young. We all have different views own it. Respect mine.
Like I said I have no right saying to someone when they should throw their party so this thread is done. Please don't turn my thread into I don't undersand why you can't bring your baby out or why do you have to wait until the baby is christened etc. etc. I told you why and it's because I'm not comfortable. Respect that if you don't see it oh well.
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| Posted 10/14/07 8:59 PM |
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In prejordan class with my DS we learned there was no more baby limbo... so much for all that Roman Catholic Education..
I don't really understand, because your Christening would be during FLU season as well. I would just talk to your FSIL and tell her your concerns and try to work out dates between the two of you for doing the Christening first. But that really doesn't seem like it would solve the problem because you would still be taking an infant out during FLU season even if the EParty was the begining of the year.
Odds are I would just ****** to my brother that he couldn't have waited a few more weeks to propose.. lol Then if I really wanted to attend the Eparty. I would ask DH to stay home with the baby if I didn't have anyone else to trust. And then as soon as you feel comfortable I'd start looking into babysitters or friends who could help babysit since you'll have showers, a bachelorette, rehersal and a wedding to attend in the somewhat near future.
Good Luck with the birth of your baby!
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| Posted 10/14/07 9:07 PM |
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JodiBabe
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Posted by prncss
I'm a believer of you doing whatever it is you think is right for your family and your baby. However, I'm also a believer that everyone should have that same freedom. So, if SIL is having the party in Nov/Dec and that's what's right for her family, then you just have to accept that. If you choose not to attend, then so be it. You cannot expect people to plan their events around you, and at the same time, they cannot expect you to go against what you believe is right just for them.
Rachel,
I love the way you put this and totally agree with it!
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| Posted 10/14/07 9:11 PM |
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05mommy09
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I would def. not take my 4 week old to a party filled with people/children who are filled with germ-I to am that crazy overprotective mom.
My crazy Italian family doesn't believe in taking the baby out before the baby is christened- I didnt follow this, but did get him christened earlier on because of this- One had nothing to do with the other...
With that being said- You can not ask anyone to postpone their party. There are gonna be lots of family and friends who are not gonna be able to make that specific day for whatever reason. However if at that time you dont feel comfortable leaving your baby, then they need to understand your absence.
To be honest, Im not sure Id be able to leave my 4 week old for 4-5hrs, but maybe for an hour???? Who knows, you might be dying for a night out, by then.
Why dont you take it as it comes, if you dont feel comfortable then explain to it them, they will understand!
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| Posted 10/14/07 9:14 PM |
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adeline27
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Why dont you take it as it comes, if you dont feel comfortable then explain to it them, they will understand!
I will thank you.
& thank you again ladies for all your replies.
EDIT: I lied this is my last post 
Message edited 10/14/2007 9:28:25 PM.
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| Posted 10/14/07 9:26 PM |
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alnem
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Posted by Palebride
If I was having a party and someone who recently had a baby couldn't make it because of the baby, I would totally understand.
You really can't expect people to schedule their lives around your schedule though. If you can't be there, then they'll have to deal with it. And if you really want to be there - you'll find a way.
i agree. SIL just had her eparty about a month and half ago and her FH's BIL didnt come because he had a prior engagement that he already agreed to (that was not anywhere as important as watching a newborn baby!) and no one was upset about it.
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