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want2beamom
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15 month old hitting and biting
I am having a really hard time with my 15 month old hitting and biting...and hes doing it to my older son most often...he will take whatever is in his hand and smash it on top of his brothers head....before he grabbed the remote and did it....and the biting---he does it joking and laughing...totally knows he shouldn't be doing it, and them he will actually really bite you..
Any suggestions???
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Posted 2/6/10 9:14 PM  |
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DmarieK
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Re: 15 month old hitting and biting
I had the biting problem with Rylan. i tried everything...yelling...ignoring...reprimanding in a soft tone. Nothing worked at the time but he eventually stopped...it probably lasted about 2c months and never did it again.
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aliwnec10
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Re: 15 month old hitting and biting
my first question is how do you or how have you handled it?
When jacen bit me once or has hit me... i immediately put him down on his butt, calmly tell him no and walk away. Then when he comes over, i explain how wrong the behavior is and how it hurts mommy. And you have to be gentle (as i take his hand and nicely put it on my face or arm or whatever).
He hates being ignored, so it really only took once or twice and he doesn't do it anymore.
Then i reward him and praise him nonstop when he does something gentle or nice. Positive reinforcement goes a LONG way.
If he continued or got worse, it would be time out time.
Message edited 2/6/2010 9:20:22 PM.
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| Posted 2/6/10 9:19 PM |
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Re: 15 month old hitting and biting
Posted by aliwnec10
my first question is how do you or how have you handled it?
When jacen bit me once or has hit me... i immediately put him down on his butt, calmly tell him no and walk away. Then when he comes over, i explain how wrong the behavior is and how it hurts mommy. And you have to be gentle (as i take his hand and nicely put it on my face or arm or whatever).
He hates being ignored, so it really only took once or twice and he doesn't do it anymore.
Then i reward him and praise him nonstop when he does something gentle or nice. Positive reinforcement goes a LONG way.
If he continued or got worse, it would be time out time.
ITA! BTW - ignoring IS time out - time out doesn't just have to be in a corner. If they want your attention and you remove it, that is still considered a time out.
This is how I handled any behavior I wanted to redirect with Cailen.
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aliwnec10
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Re: 15 month old hitting and biting
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by aliwnec10
my first question is how do you or how have you handled it?
When jacen bit me once or has hit me... i immediately put him down on his butt, calmly tell him no and walk away. Then when he comes over, i explain how wrong the behavior is and how it hurts mommy. And you have to be gentle (as i take his hand and nicely put it on my face or arm or whatever).
He hates being ignored, so it really only took once or twice and he doesn't do it anymore.
Then i reward him and praise him nonstop when he does something gentle or nice. Positive reinforcement goes a LONG way.
If he continued or got worse, it would be time out time.
ITA! BTW - ignoring IS time out - time out doesn't just have to be in a corner. If they want your attention and you remove it, that is still considered a time out.
This is how I handled any behavior I wanted to redirect with Cailen.
 I did not know that. Totally makes sense just never thought of it that way. 
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| Posted 2/6/10 9:23 PM |
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want2beamom
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Re: 15 month old hitting and biting
I started off by telling him that he does not do that, that it hurts mommy...then I went to ignoring him, then explaining...now that it's his brother that he is biting, it is harder to "be calm". I have tried putting him in time out, and explaining what he did, then when time out is over (a minute later) explaining to him again, and having him go over to his brother to give him a kiss..
But...in one ear out the other (I know, I know...he is only 15 months, but this is the best way to explain it!)
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| Posted 2/6/10 9:27 PM |
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aliwnec10
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Re: 15 month old hitting and biting
well honestly i'd do positive reinforcement for his good behavior all the time. If he was still doing it, i would probably pick him up, not say a word and i'd put him in his crib, shut the door and walk away. And i'd probably leave him for more than a minute, but that's just me.
If it continued and given that he's biting your other son... well i know i'll get flames for this, but i'd bite him back. Physical behavior is not tolerated in our house. That would probably be my last resort.
ETA: let me ask this. Why do you think he's biting/hiting??? Can he talk yet? do you think it's him getting frustrated that he can't verbalize what he wants? or do you think it's for attention?
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