2 years old and I may lose my mind..please help

I love my DD more than words can say...but she is testing me..like alll day long..granted too long to describe in here, but we have been going thru some changes and DD and I moved into a new place. She seems to have adjusted perfectly..loves it, loves her room, the pool, playground etc...

But, I don't know if it is her 2 year old molars, but she whines allll day if we are inside. She wants her paci 24/7..my rule is car/stroller/crib. I am on the verge of giving it to her all day She wakes up whining..if we stay inside she whines, cries, throws things. I feel like it's my fault because we are always out and about, but I can't be an entertainer all day long, we have to chill at home too.

I feel like she has no idea how to play. She has maybe 2 min of independent play all day. Does not watch tv and seems completely disinterested in her toys. She is up my butt all day. I alternate between engaging her then trying to move away and get 1 or 2 things done and she leaves playing immediately. I can't play all day long. I don't know how to.

Ugh I am sorry, this is sooo long, I just need advice or hugs...I want to cry and today I was so short fused with all the changes I am trying to be strong and happy (b/c I really am where we are now), but she is testing me..

Re: 2 years old and I may lose my mind..please help

sorry I have no real advice just a

Re: 2 years old and I may lose my mind..please help

last year when my DD was that age i had a week or so of DEVIL-child behavior from her. i thought i would jump out the window every single day. not that she wasn't bad here and there but this was a long chain of days...i thought that she would be that way forever! during one of her screaming fits in her carseat i saw her molars were busting through her gums! i almost for joy b/c i had an answer to her evil behavior!
so,,,you never know!
she has had weeks where i thought i couldn't take it anymore and then BAM just like that she went back to her old good ways....so hang in there. as they get older i see that it's a pattern and it's to be expected. it is the hardest thing but its part of toddlerhood
also, stay tough and lay out your rules, expectations! she is looking for you to be the boss even if she is acting like the boss herself. so if you don't want her to have the paci out of the crib then don't give in now. you don't want to start habits just to fix a temporary bad patch. again, hang in there! it's so tough but you'll make it through!!

oh and my DD didn't really "learn" how to play by herself until pretty recently..she's 3 now. i thought she would be playing more independently too at that age but it took her a while. it will happen though. luckily she was Dora obsessed so i could rely on that to keep her occupied when i needed it. i tried/try not to be DD's playmate too much though b/c i am her mom, not her entertainer and stuff has to get done around the house. even if it meant she followed me whining, it ignored it. i colored or played with her then let her be. it could be all of the changes in your lives too so it might come a little later and she just might need you a bit more right now

Re: 2 years old and I may lose my mind..please help

2 is tough! I think the whining is just normal for the age. I tell Sydnie "I cannot understand you when you talk like that" "Use your nice voice" "use your nice words", I'll put her in time out if she needs to decompress then when she comes out I do something to make her laugh and it usually helps. I also notice her closely watching others for cues as to what to do so maybe you can model some solitary activities, like pick up a magazine and start reading on the couch while she is playing on the floor. Not sure if any of this helps, but know that you are not the only one

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DD is almost 20 months and I swear if she could crawl back up inside of me she would...she cannot play by herself for anything...She also is probably feeling the changes around her I hope things get better soon!!!

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Im sorry. Its a tough age, it really is!

Could she be outgrowing her toys? Eddie is 3 but Ive noticed lately he barely touches his toys bc he is outgrowing A LOT of them and it time to bring in a new slew of age appropriate toys that challenge him and his imagination more?

Do you think that could help?

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Posted by pickles16

DD is almost 20 months and I swear if she could crawl back up inside of me she would...she cannot play by herself for anything...She also is probably feeling the changes around her I hope things get better soon!!!

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Posted by ME75

last year when my DD was that age i had a week or so of DEVIL-child behavior from her. i thought i would jump out the window every single day. not that she wasn't bad here and there but this was a long chain of days...i thought that she would be that way forever! during one of her screaming fits in her carseat i saw her molars were busting through her gums! i almost for joy b/c i had an answer to her evil behavior!
so,,,you never know!
she has had weeks where i thought i couldn't take it anymore and then BAM just like that she went back to her old good ways....so hang in there. as they get older i see that it's a pattern and it's to be expected. it is the hardest thing but its part of toddlerhood
also, stay tough and lay out your rules, expectations! she is looking for you to be the boss even if she is acting like the boss herself. so if you don't want her to have the paci out of the crib then don't give in now. you don't want to start habits just to fix a temporary bad patch. again, hang in there! it's so tough but you'll make it through!!

Thank you soooo much for taking the time to write me and offer

oh and my DD didn't really "learn" how to play by herself until pretty recently..she's 3 now. i thought she would be playing more independently too at that age but it took her a while. it will happen though. luckily she was Dora obsessed so i could rely on that to keep her occupied when i needed it. i tried/try not to be DD's playmate too much though b/c i am her mom, not her entertainer and stuff has to get done around the house. even if it meant she followed me whining, it ignored it. i colored or played with her then let her be. it could be all of the changes in your lives too so it might come a little later and she just might need you a bit more right now

Re: 2 years old and I may lose my mind..please help