Advice needed for friend suffering multiple miscarriages

So I could really use your help and insight. My good friend/coworker got pregnant shortly before getting engaged to her current husband. I was thrilled for them and everything was going great till she started bleeding and had a miscarriage @ 9 weeks. The "natural" miscarriage went horribly and she ended up needing blood transfusions and eventually a D & C. Absolutely devastating. A few months later she suffered from a chemical loss and a few months after that ended up with a tubal pregnancy requiring surgery to remove the baby and the tube. Totally "unfair" and I can't even express how sad I am for her. After her first loss she become extremely depressed and very distant. She doesn't talk to me much at all (even at work) and says she is very depressed (understandably) but doesn't feel like she needs therapy just needs to get pregnant and or doesn't have time to deal with the emotional aspects of the losses. Each loss has caused her to become more and more upset.
She also hates our job and sees a baby as a way to get a "break" from working (may not go back at all) She is currently undergoing IVF and plans to put back at least 2 embryos as she would be happy to have twins.
I try to be as positive as I can be for her, an ear when she needs me but I think it makes it even harder for her that I have 2 young children (and our other coworker has 4). Obviously I can't "relate" per say as I have never suffered a loss, but my closest childhood friend dealt with 4 years of infertility(culminating in 2 gorgeous twin babies) and I was with her every step of the way. We even got to be pregnant at the same time for some of our pregnancies!. I know it was difficult for her when I got pregnant relatively easily but at the same time we were open about it and I completely understood what her comfort zone was and she let me know if something was to "difficult for her" even though I know she was always excited for me.
I want to help this friend in any way I can. I can't imaging the pain and suffering she is going through but at the same time I feel like i have lost a friend, confidant etc.
Do I just suck it up and hope once she is pregnant she wants to rekindle the friendship/relationship? I worry about her level of depression at this point as pregnancy and being a first time parent is no easy road either especially without the support of a friend or therapist.
Anyway, if you read all this, I"m impressed
Thanks for your suggestions.

Re: Advice needed for friend suffering multiple miscarriages

This is just me; and the way I dealt; but I didn't really want to talk about much unless it was on my terms. I actually hid a lot for many, many years before even talking to anyone about it even my closes, bestest friends. That goes for my years of IF and losses. I also found that I had distanced myself somewhat from my friends that did have families already. We need to do whatever we can to make the grueling process just a little smoother for us and our minds.

Your friend; unfortunately; will go thru some type of depression because no one can really fathom how heartbreaking IF and losses really are.

You can be there for her and pray for her. Pray that she has great success in her upcoming IVF cycle. Maybe buy her a Saint Gerard or a Saint Anne medal; even though she may already have a few.

She knows you are there; and that is all that really matters.

Re: Advice needed for friend suffering multiple miscarriages

Thank you sooo much for sharing your experience! I think I'll just back off for a while because in my attempts to be supportive and involved I am probably just overwhelming her and causing her feelings to resurface. Makes total sense that this may be the issue. She may just be processing her journey in a different way then some ofy other friends and I need to be respectful of that... I just soooo want the Best for her and her family because I know how badly she wants to heal from this experience.