Advice Re Family watching your children & being sick

What if you had a family member watch your dc 3x per week plus so you can work and you hear them coughing and completely congested for weeks on end. Would you say something to them or just let it go?

I said something to my mil who has been sick and it ends up she has an upper respitory infection and ear infections. Now my kids have had colds and my little on had rosiola about a week and half ago so I am not saying we have been compelely healthy here but I feel like it is her responsibilty to get checked out if sick instead of bringing it into my house every day.

I said in passing if you worked in a daycare you would have gotten in trouble for that and she turned and said it was probably the kids that gave it to me anyway so whats the big deal that I didnt go to the dr...

So now she is on rx...and hopefully that is the end.

but how would you handle this. I take my kids to the dr all the time to make sure they dont have anything more then colds after a week shouldnt she be resonsible to do the same? Do I say something? Do I offer to pay copay?

Re: Advice Re Family watching your children & being sick

My sister watched DS for a few months..whenever her or her three boys had a touch of a cold.. I took off work and kept him home.

I would just say.. if you have a cold.. let me know...Ill take DC....

Re: Advice Re Family watching your children & being sick

The way you worded it sounded kind of accusatory, when she's going you a favor by watching DC. I'd say something more like, "You sound run down. Why don't I take off a couple days this week so you can rest up or go to the doctor, and not worry about the kids."

Re: Advice Re Family watching your children & being sick

Posted by nov04libride

The way you worded it sounded kind of accusatory, when she's going you a favor by watching DC. I'd say something more like, "You sound run down. Why don't I take off a couple days this week so you can rest up or go to the doctor, and not worry about the kids."

Re: Advice Re Family watching your children & being sick

My MIL is constantly sick because she watches my nephew 4 days a week a he seems to always have something.

My MIL watches our DD's 1 day a week. So basically my DH calls her up the day/night before to see how she sounds and if she's sick and to ask how our nephew is because depending on how sick he is we sometimes tell her not to come because we know she will have the same thing 2 days later and will have given it to our kids.

Me and DH take turns taking off when she's sick or we use a back up childcare for the day.

Basically he just tells her, don't worry we got it covered, or that she needs to rest so she can get better.

You just have to spin it in a way that she doesn't get upset since she is doing you a favor watching them.

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I did not say anything to her at all even though I cringed everytime she would cough up a lung when she was around my children. I finally said something to her the other day when she told me that my fil has pnemonia. Thats when I finally said maybe you should get yourself check out and she just said yeah I know but whatever there is always something to do...

I just feel like she doesnt feel she should take the time to get checked out even though she knows she should go. I said you deal with all the kids (9 grandkids) and watch all of them and you can be passing it around and that she needs to take care of herself. She said I know and that even the dr asked why she waited so long...