after having multiples do you want anymore children?

i am pretty much saying that i am done, and blessed to have my 2 boys.
but i always get that itch , it comes and goes.

but i think about how horrible my pregnancy was, and how on earth will i manage to go to doctor appts and high risk appt's with 2 toddlers
unfortunately this is whats holding me back.

and for those that had your twins via IF .. would you do that again?
i know i wouldn't be able to.. if i did have another it would be without fertility assistance.

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My situation is a little different. My twins aren't here yet, and I already have a 3 year old. I know, however, that I am done. I also, would have to have IVF again to have more children. Although the idea of 4 kids appeals to me, I would not be comfortable with twins again. We transferred two embryos, and at first we were having triplets. So, one never knows with IVF (or I guess with any other "way" of getting pregnant) what could happen.

That being said.... I get SOOOOO annoyed when people find out I will have three boys and they ask me if I will try for a girl. With what I have gone through, and seen others go through, the idea of wanting healthy babies, regardless of gender, means so much to me. I am truly blessed with my miracles!

Hang in there. I know it is a hard decision.

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Posted by july0105

My situation is a little different. My twins aren't here yet, and I already have a 3 year old. I know, however, that I am done. I also, would have to have IVF again to have more children. Although the idea of 4 kids appeals to me, I would not be comfortable with twins again. We transferred two embryos, and at first we were having triplets. So, one never knows with IVF (or I guess with any other "way" of getting pregnant) what could happen.

That being said.... I get SOOOOO annoyed when people find out I will have three boys and they ask me if I will try for a girl. With what I have gone through, and seen others go through, the idea of wanting healthy babies, regardless of gender, means so much to me. I am truly blessed with my miracles!

Hang in there. I know it is a hard decision.

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My twins aren't here yet and I have a DD who is 19 months now. I kind of always said I wanted 4 kids. When we got pregnant with twins I automatically said I am done and so did DH. Now that we are going to have 3 girls, he has changed his tune. But going through this pregnancy I get scared at the thought that I am going to get pregnant with twins again and honestly it's a rough pregnancy I am not sure I a can do that again. I am just not sure yet what will happen.

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Hell NO!!!! I am DONE..Shop is CLOSED!!! Even though I had a great pregnancy without any issues I never ever want to have to do that again....DH wanted 1 more but I told him to do it with somebody else...LOL My luck I put in 1 egg and I would get twins.....

3 is more than enough for me and besides I am to old for this crap...

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I think we are 99% done. with our twins. We were blessed through IVF with . There are days when I do get a very very slight itch but it goes away pretty quickly!

That said, we do say that if it happened naturally it happens and we would be okay with that; but DH doesn't want to go back down the IF route....although I do have some frozen embies that I always question in my mind on what to do with.

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Posted by MetsGirl07



i am pretty much saying that i am done, and blessed to have my 2 boys.
but i always get that itch , it comes and goes.

but i think about how horrible my pregnancy was, and how on earth will i manage to go to doctor appts and high risk appt's with 2 toddlers
unfortunately this is whats holding me back.

and for those that had your twins via IF .. would you do that again?
i know i wouldn't be able to.. if i did have another it would be without fertility assistance.

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I haven't had mine yet, I'm almost 15 weeks pregnant now and it's our first pregnancy. I always said I wanted 2, so I think we could be done after this. Honestly, I think I just worry myself too much (I couldn't wait to be done with the first trimester), and it is nerve-wracking not having a regular pregnancy like most people. But also, I just think it would be too $$ to have 3 kids. It's already $$ having 2 kids now instead of 1! But it'll definitely be worth it!

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DONE!

I had a 4yr old too..and i was done at having #2...so we were even 110% more sure this is it.

Shop is closed.

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i concieved through ivf and would never do that again, i feel very blessed to have my 2 girls and am thankful every day for them
i always said i wanted 2 and i have 2 so i am good

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My twins aren't here yet, but we always said we were done at 2 kids. I already have a 2.5 year old DS. With twin girls on the way I really couldn't feel any more complete with our family. We have been doubly blessed which I am extremely grateful for.

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So, DH and I used to say that this is it for us. We have 1 of each, we are good. And the FIRST question out of everyone's mouth when they found out i was PG with twins or after i first had the twins was "are you going to have anymore"? I used to tell them, "can we enjoy the 2 we have first"? But now we are kinda thinking of trying for 1 more in about 2 years. We don't even know if we will be able to get PG on our own and we will not use fertility treatments again. We discussed doing the "see what happens" method when the time comes. But we are not 100% sure yet. I had a horrible pregnancy and i would have to obviously see Kofinas again, probably get a cerclage, Definately be on lovenox....It was just rough all around. Eh, we'll see

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My twins aren't here yet. I'm having and I have a 16 month old so maybe down the line a few years we might try for one more, DH wants a boy and I do too, but don't get me wrong I have always said I wanted twin girls, so I got my wish . I don't know if I have the same risk of having twins again since they are probably identical and naturally conceived, though the thought does scare me! 4 kids was never ever a plan but since we will have three girls I dont want to say we wont have one more . . .that is until after I live with 3 baby girls for a few years. I might change my tune!

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When we thought we were having triplets, one of my DH first questions were "what are we going to do with the 4 frozen embies???" At that point I said I was DONE DONE. Now that we know its "just" twins, we forked over the $600 bucks to have them stored "just in case"

I don't think I am done, BUT they are not born yet We always wanted a big family, we shall see how it goes.

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DH and I have said that, if we win the lottery, we will try for another. We have 3 frosties left from our last IVF. I would NEVER do IVF again but I would do a frozen transfer - but only if I win the lottery first.

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I would try, but I don't believe I can go the natural route becaue of my tubes. I have already had 1 miscarriage since I had my boys(but it was a total surprsie and I wasn't on any immune meds either so who knows.) I would have to do IVF self pay again...and take the chance of twins? I don't think we can do it again! We have very casually talked about adoption..

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In an ideal world we would have 1 more. But the idea of twins again is scary!!! My twins were a total shock so I know while unlikely, it can happen again. I also had pre-eclampsia with both pregnancies and all 3of my kids were in the NICU...so i feel lucky that they are all healthy now.

I worry to much about the financial aspect of 3 kids....especially when they are older and play sports, cars, college etc.

Although there is a part of me who wants 1 more....I am moving away from that. I am thrilled with the family I have and know I am very blessed.

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We think about it now and again. I have to admit that I don't remember much when they were infants because I was so TIRED! So I missed the baby stage.

We would most likely have to do IVF and I don't think I want to do that again. So, who knows what plan God has for me!

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I have an almost 3 year old and my twins are only 3 weeks old...so we are completely exhausted and my DH reminds me every day how we are done. I know we probably are...3 is really enough. My twins were a total surprise...the thought of having another set of twins down the road is too overwhelming for us to really consider trying for another.

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Posted by jmf423

In an ideal world we would have 1 more. But the idea of twins again is scary!!! My twins were a total shock so I know while unlikely, it can happen again. I also had pre-eclampsia with both pregnancies and all 3of my kids were in the NICU...so i feel lucky that they are all healthy now.

I worry to much about the financial aspect of 3 kids....especially when they are older and play sports, cars, college etc.

Although there is a part of me who wants 1 more....I am moving away from that. I am thrilled with the family I have and know I am very blessed.

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My were conceived via injectable meds and IUI. My DH and I have recently began talking about having more children, I have to return to work before ttc again, and my DH DEFINATLY has to STEP IT UP!!!before I seriously give it more thought.

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I had a 2 year old when the twins were born, so I already have 3... and yes I do want another, Dh is DONE though. Don't get me wrong.. they are a lot of work and some days very frustrating (you should hear my DS cry!) but I don't feel done. Maybe because I always wanted 3 but only had 2 pregnancies. Anyway, I am keeping adoption as an option for the future - when the kids are all in school. Just have to work on DH for that.

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i have a two year old, and have a boy and girl twins who i had feb 20th.. and we are DONE three is a lot and im done iv created all the life i wanted, now we are going to live it

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I have had back-to-back twin pregnancies. Both natural. My first dd was a fraternal twin but we lost her twin at 12 weeks. Then I got pregnant again with identical twins.

My shop is officially closed, the thought of a third twin pregnancy scared me!

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I'm pretty sure we are definitely done, even though we don't know genders since I'm only 10w2d with my twin pregnancy.

I just dont think the will be there for more children, but I never really imagined having more than 2 anyway.