Am I a horrible wife?

I feel really bad... DH is in a softball league for work and they usually play once a week but lately his games have been rained out.. anwyay tomorrow he has a game in the Bronx (we live on LI) and he won't be home until about 10:30pm at the earliest (depending on the subwayy/LIRR schedules).

I'm 35 weeks tomorrow with twins and went to the Dr today where they said they doubt that I will make it to 38 weeks and I've already been hospitalized for early labor and I'm still taking meds for contractions. The last 3 days I've been feeling super crampy and lots of pressure so I was saying I wish he wouldn't go to the game.. he said he wouldn't if I didn't want him to.. it's just that if anything happens.. he doesn't have his phone on his body during the game and as soon as he answers it he would still take awhile to get back to me..

Sorry so long.. thanks for your advice

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Can you make a game-day decision about it? If you're feeling ok at the time he's ready to go, let him go? It's going to be so, so hard for him to get out of the house ever once the babies are born. I know you're sad and want him near you just in case, but he will appreciate it so much if you let him go.

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You are not a horrible wife. I'd want him to stay home too.

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Posted by Ready4aBaby

Posted by noworlater

You are not a horrible wife. I'd want him to stay home too.

Thank you, I was feeling so guilty even though he didn't make me feel bad.. I just felt like I was trapping him..

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Posted by Ready4aBaby

Posted by springsandra

Can you make a game-day decision about it? If you're feeling ok at the time he's ready to go, let him go? It's going to be so, so hard for him to get out of the house ever once the babies are born. I know you're sad and want him near you just in case, but he will appreciate it so much if you let him go.

I feel like you're right.. I will tell him to bring his stuff with him and he can decide right before.. plus maybe he can check his phone in between innings or something? I don't want to keep him trapped home just because I am.. I'm just so nervous that if something happens it will take him hours to get home.

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Not a horrible wife. He should stay home, period. After 30 weeks Dh is not allowed anywhere without his cell. I told him, I don't care if you are on the 19th floor of a burning building, making a rescue, you hear that phone you better DROP whatever you are doing I kid I joke (not really)

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not at all.. play it by ear on saturday.. see how you feel.. but you shouldn't feel guilty at all for asking DH to stay back. If he was there, I doubt he'd be able to concentrate on the game, knowing his preggo wife is at home, and could possibly need him..

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Thank you everyone.. I'm so thankful to have your ears (or eyes) and advice!!!

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You are so not horrible wife I'd want him to stay home.

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The night I was admitted to LIJ, I had a dr appointment that mornng and the dr said "anyday now". My DH went to work and left earlly when my water broke. My water broke at 4pm and my first daughter was born at 2'10 the nect afternoon and one and half hours later her younger sister was born,. I had my at 37 weeks and 2 days.

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Posted by 2girls2love

The night I was admitted to LIJ, I had a dr appointment that mornng and the dr said "anyday now". My DH went to work and left earlly when my water broke. My water broke at 4pm and my first daughter was born at 2'10 the nect afternoon and one and half hours later her younger sister was born,. I had my at 37 weeks and 2 days.

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Both were head down at 30 weeks and stayed that way. YES, one and half hours apart!! I didnt labor very long at all and baby A came out maybe after 1 hour of active pushing. I knew I had it in me to continue pushing withBabyB- I had to get my head in the game after Baby A cam out I was all out of sorts, but I kept pushing and she finally came out- believe, its not common at all for a large time lapse! But there was no sign of the babies being in distress, so I took my time and kept pushing.

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I would tell him he can go if he really wants but you would kind of like if he was around just in case. So he can make his own decision & feel guilty if you go into labor while he's having fun oh & the best part, he'll have to do everything you say because of the guilt of leaving you

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