Re: Am I being a baby??? How would you feel?

Similar thing has happened to us....

We live on a common driveway with 3 houses total on it...Not even a road, a common driveway...We are the middle house and always are having parties...Every party that is at our house ( whether DC's b-day or Summer BBQ etc..) we invite both sets of neighbors ....All our children are within the same age range...One set always comes and reciprocates, the other will send the kids over the last 1/2 hour of the party usually...Well last year, we invited the "rudies" to DS's b-day and they didn't come...The other neighbors made a comment to the effect of " busy week-end, your DS's b-day party today and "K"'s b-day party tommorrow (rudies DS)...I was like , we weren't invited and I guess he didn't know that ( their DS and mine have the same b-day ironically)

Still, I am the bigger person and continue to invite them, but now I "know" where we stand with them friendship wise unfortunately....

We also always bought a box of cookies etc.. for both neighbors every C-Mas and expected ( and got) nothing in return...

Did I mention that I own an in-home daycare( and have since '02), and the "rudies" opened an in-home daycare next door to me last year without even letting me know that they were going to

And yet, I still invite these people to our parties

I too would feel badly for my DD, sorry that happened, some people are just "rudies" I think and would try not to take it personally

Re: Am I being a baby??? How would you feel?

Posted by JennyPenny

I seem to be odd man out- but I would definitely be annoyed. I could understrand if it was at a place and she had to pay per head, but that wasn't the case.
I wouldn't stop inviting the little girl, though. It's not her fault her parents suck.

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Neighbors are weird. Nothing surprises me anymore. I grew up in the city so neighbors were always weird, but I thought it would change living in LI. Nope.

Re: Am I being a baby??? How would you feel?

Posted by JennyPenny

I seem to be odd man out- but I would definitely be annoyed. I could understrand if it was at a place and she had to pay per head, but that wasn't the case.
I wouldn't stop inviting the little girl, though. It's not her fault her parents suck.

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It would completely bother me.

who would do that to a 5 year old???

it would just be one more little girl.

they are crazy wrong.

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I would be so annoyed by this.. I guess I am a baby too..

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I talk with my neighbors all the time, that have kids. Their kids are all school aged. However, when we had a 1st b-day party for DD in May we had a bouncie house we borrowed from a friend in our back yard. My DH said the neighbor's kids saw it and just stood there staring at it (we all have tiny properties on my block and I don't have high fences). DH said "should we offer the kids to come over". I said for one thing - I don't want to be responsible if they get hurt in my yard - we talk yes and if they needed anything in an emergency I'd totally help, but we are not friends, second being as they are all older than my friend's kids - also by about 3 years, if they collide w/ a little one they could hurt them and my friends brought kids ages 2-5. I felt the little one's best interest's should be protected, especially since these were all good friends. We only invited friends we are really close to. It's nice of you to invite the little girl over when you have something, but I wouldn't feel obligated to continue. JMO.

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I think it is very strange behavior on your neighbor's part. I mean, hey basically invited your daughter verbally, they just never gave the details. It also doesn't seem like a small affair either--I mean, a trampoline?? Did they expect you not to notice that?

In all honesty, they probably didn't do it on purpose. they might just be very self-involved and didn't think of you like you think of them.

I would keep it friendly, but cool from now on.

So much for being neighborly!