Am I the only mommy that doesn't give dc any cookies, cake, candy etc?

I don't give Sarah any cookies, candy, cake, etc. The only "junk" I give her are crackers or goldfish. She's happy with that or fruit for snacks right now and why get her started on that crap yet. I admit I'm totally addicted to junk food and know that's why I need to lose about 50 lbs.

Today we were at FSIL's game (she coaches) and one of the other moms offered Sarah a piece of crumb cake, and I said "No, she's not allowed to have that" and she rolled her eyes and made a sigh like I was rediculous.

Am I really in the minority?

Re: Am I the only mommy that doesn't give dc any cookies, cake, candy etc?

I avoid it as much as possible. In fact, Christopher's birthday was the first time he had cake and he hasn't had it since. I want him to learn that it's a special treat.

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I am not at that point yet but I think I will give it to her occassionally...like at bday party or something, definitely not a regular occurence.

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We don't give it to her at home at all. Like you the only snacks she really gets are goldfish type cracker snacks and fruit. I really try to avoid the processed snacks for her and for her meals as well but I'll do nuggets or french toast sticks and things like that. I just try to do organic and whole grains.
If we're out and someone offers or we get ice cream or something I let her have a little bit. I feel like its my job as a parent to teach her health and moderation and if I always tell her no in the end I think she's going to have an issue with food and feeling deprived and I don't want that to happen. I guess since I have such huge issues with food and weight I just try not to make a big deal out of it with her hoping that it will just work itself out and she'll learn what is healthy and what's not. I don't know maybe I've got it all wrong, who knows.

Message edited 10/9/2006 5:15:10 PM.

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Jordana is only on cereal, but I am with you. My goal is to "introduce" Jordana to junk food as late as possible. I think its important to instill positive eating habits with healthy foods. She will eventually learn about cookies and cakes (I wish I never did ).

Just curious- how old is sarah?

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We don't give it to ours either. The only time was Saturday, they each got a cupcake to celebrate their 1st birthday. Other than that, we don't give them any cookies, cake, etc.

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I'd like to say that I think it's AWESOME that you dont give your child any sweets. My nephew is 3.5 years old and is ADDICTED to sugar - he's like a wild monkey - DH and i dont even like being around him much anymore for too long - he just gets so hyper and unfortunately, his parents just placate him with more sweets.

I think there's a middle ground to be found - but given what I've seen with my nephew - I think what you're doing is great!

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I probably won't keep that stuff in my house when Luca is young, but I know he will get goodies from both Grandmas. But I guess that's ok, they're allowed to spoil him a little.
I know when I was young, my aunt always had to bribe me with candy.

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I don't give Alex cake, cookies, ice cream or lollipops. He has had cake and cookies on a special occasion. He snacks on crackers, goldfish, cereal bars or fruit.

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That was rude of them to roll their eyes at you...

I don't give Jared anything bad either, unless his father sneaks some ice cream.

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Alex doesn't have any sugary, processed or junk foods. Her snacks usually consist of fresh fruit, or cheese, and that's about it. We found out that some of the women at daycare were giving Alex food they were eating (i.e. pancakes, french toast, etc) and I pulled the head woman aside and told her strictly NO SWEETS. So, ever since then, there's a little sign over Alex's cubby that says "NO SWEETS/NO JUICE" So NO, you are NOT the only one!

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You are not the only one! i am the same way! I am working hard to teach him proper ways of eating. No junk, none of those gummy bears, chocolate chip cookies, lolipops, chips etc. He only got cake oneson his birthday, but he actually never ate it, just played with it!

I do give him organic cookies for snack ocasionally, but mostly he snacks on fruit and ogranic cheeses, which he loves. I think it is very healthy approach, so youa re definitely not alone!

i also dilute his juice 5 parts water and one part juice. Actually, I do the same thing for myself.

Message edited 10/9/2006 8:42:53 PM.

Re: Am I the only mommy that doesn't give dc any cookies, cake, candy etc?

wow, I agree that's rude of them to roll their eyes! It's your decision either way....

Now is the time to establish great eating habits - they don't know a cookie, ice cream, etc is good yet so why give it to them too much? That's my thinking on it at least.

We don't give Emily too much crap yet.....on occasion she'll have a cookie and she's had ice cream only twice so far! (she has food allergies though so we're limited anyway)

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I don't allow aly any cookies or cake or anything. She's fine with fruit or the occasional Gerber treats

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Thanks, I feel a lot better! She's 19 months, and at her first birthday she just played with the cake.

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If my son is offered cookies or cake he wont eat it, he prefers apples and grapes. I think I go through 2 bags of apples a week. The worst he eats are ice pops and he gets one of those a day as a late afternoon snack.

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While I TOTALLY agree with keeping sweets and junk away from them, I will say that it's hard once theyre past the age of 2 and its even harder if they are not your first born. (seeing big brother eating yummy stuff).

When my oldest turned 2, that Halloween, he realized what CANDY was He barely had any, but thats when the little taste of it began.

Im very big on healthy snacks too. He loves all fruits, snacks on carrots often, graham crackers, cottage cheese, mozzarella cheese, and theyre huge water drinkers.

Also once theyre in school, its another ballgame once again. Unless they are allergic, it's hard to keep them away from things they want and cant have at home.

Ive seen it as a sub, and Ive posted this before. Many times Ive seen the "poland spring and carrots and pretzels" kid, swapping snacks with the "fruit juice, cupcakes and junk" kid.
My first reaction was I said they were absolutely NOT allowed to swap snacks, they are to tell their moms if they dont want something. They said they do it every day and some of them even tossed apples and bananas right into the garbage can! I even gave them the lecture "your parents work hard to buy that"

So I dont think depriving them totally is the right answer. Educating them about it all, and everything in moderation. Otherwise they'll be drooling over the oreos and fruit punch and kids know how to sneak anything

Message edited 10/9/2006 9:38:32 PM.

Re: Am I the only mommy that doesn't give dc any cookies, cake, candy etc?

Posted by anna

While I TOTALLY agree with keeping sweets and junk away from them, I will say that it's hard once theyre past the age of 2 and its even harder if they are not your first born. (seeing big brother eating yummy stuff).

When my oldest turned 2, that Halloween, he realized what CANDY was He barely had any, but thats when the little taste of it began.

Im very big on healthy snacks too. He loves all fruits, snacks on carrots often, graham crackers, cottage cheese, mozzarella cheese, and theyre huge water drinkers.

Also once theyre in school, its another ballgame once again. Unless they are allergic, it's hard to keep them away from things they want and cant have at home.

Ive seen it as a sub, and Ive posted this before. Many times Ive seen the "poland spring and carrots and pretzels" kid, swapping snacks with the "fruit juice, cupcakes and junk" kid.
My first reaction was I said they were absolutely NOT allowed to swap snacks, they are to tell their moms if they dont want something. They said they do it every day and some of them even tossed apples and bananas right into the garbage can! I even gave them the lecture "your parents work hard to buy that"

So I dont think depriving them totally is the right answer. Educating them about it all, and everything in moderation. Otherwise they'll be drooling over the oreos and fruit punch and kids know how to sneak anything

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Posted by Nancy

Posted by anna

While I TOTALLY agree with keeping sweets and junk away from them, I will say that it's hard once theyre past the age of 2 and its even harder if they are not your first born. (seeing big brother eating yummy stuff).

When my oldest turned 2, that Halloween, he realized what CANDY was He barely had any, but thats when the little taste of it began.

Im very big on healthy snacks too. He loves all fruits, snacks on carrots often, graham crackers, cottage cheese, mozzarella cheese, and theyre huge water drinkers.

Also once theyre in school, its another ballgame once again. Unless they are allergic, it's hard to keep them away from things they want and cant have at home.

Ive seen it as a sub, and Ive posted this before. Many times Ive seen the "poland spring and carrots and pretzels" kid, swapping snacks with the "fruit juice, cupcakes and junk" kid.
My first reaction was I said they were absolutely NOT allowed to swap snacks, they are to tell their moms if they dont want something. They said they do it every day and some of them even tossed apples and bananas right into the garbage can! I even gave them the lecture "your parents work hard to buy that"

So I dont think depriving them totally is the right answer. Educating them about it all, and everything in moderation. Otherwise they'll be drooling over the oreos and fruit punch and kids know how to sneak anything

I agree completely. I didn't want to post that though.

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Posted by anna



You know I'll always be the one to speak the truth

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Posted by Nancy

Posted by anna

While I TOTALLY agree with keeping sweets and junk away from them, I will say that it's hard once theyre past the age of 2 and its even harder if they are not your first born. (seeing big brother eating yummy stuff).

When my oldest turned 2, that Halloween, he realized what CANDY was He barely had any, but thats when the little taste of it began.

Im very big on healthy snacks too. He loves all fruits, snacks on carrots often, graham crackers, cottage cheese, mozzarella cheese, and theyre huge water drinkers.

Also once theyre in school, its another ballgame once again. Unless they are allergic, it's hard to keep them away from things they want and cant have at home.

Ive seen it as a sub, and Ive posted this before. Many times Ive seen the "poland spring and carrots and pretzels" kid, swapping snacks with the "fruit juice, cupcakes and junk" kid.
My first reaction was I said they were absolutely NOT allowed to swap snacks, they are to tell their moms if they dont want something. They said they do it every day and some of them even tossed apples and bananas right into the garbage can! I even gave them the lecture "your parents work hard to buy that"

So I dont think depriving them totally is the right answer. Educating them about it all, and everything in moderation. Otherwise they'll be drooling over the oreos and fruit punch and kids know how to sneak anything

I agree completely. I didn't want to post that though.

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Posted by sarahsmommy

Posted by Nancy

Posted by anna

While I TOTALLY agree with keeping sweets and junk away from them, I will say that it's hard once theyre past the age of 2 and its even harder if they are not your first born. (seeing big brother eating yummy stuff).

When my oldest turned 2, that Halloween, he realized what CANDY was He barely had any, but thats when the little taste of it began.

Im very big on healthy snacks too. He loves all fruits, snacks on carrots often, graham crackers, cottage cheese, mozzarella cheese, and theyre huge water drinkers.

Also once theyre in school, its another ballgame once again. Unless they are allergic, it's hard to keep them away from things they want and cant have at home.

Ive seen it as a sub, and Ive posted this before. Many times Ive seen the "poland spring and carrots and pretzels" kid, swapping snacks with the "fruit juice, cupcakes and junk" kid.
My first reaction was I said they were absolutely NOT allowed to swap snacks, they are to tell their moms if they dont want something. They said they do it every day and some of them even tossed apples and bananas right into the garbage can! I even gave them the lecture "your parents work hard to buy that"

So I dont think depriving them totally is the right answer. Educating them about it all, and everything in moderation. Otherwise they'll be drooling over the oreos and fruit punch and kids know how to sneak anything

I agree completely. I didn't want to post that though.

Thank you both for being honest. It gives me a lot to think about.

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I may be out of the " norm" but I allow DD to have sweets.. cookies etc.. I always give her a choice.. while she loves cake and cookies.. put blueberries, watermelon, bananas or melon or apples in front of her she will always pick the fruit over the cake and the cookies. she knows what it tastes like. She loves 100 calories packs and I am totally fine with giving them to her. She is 2.5 and can totally make up her mind what she does and doesn't want to eat. I only give her juice 1 a day and it is watered down but if we are out to dinner she can have apple juice or lemonade. It makes her happy.

IMO when they get older and they see other kids eating it they are going to want it and they are going to sneak it...

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Anna you said exactly what I was trying to get across but I am just not as good with words. You can't shelter your kid completely from food just like you can't shelter them from other things in life.