Am I wrong for feeling this way???

So, DH calls his sister today to ask her something. During their convo, she asks what Troy (DS) wants for XMas. PS-we're having dinner and exchanging gifts tomorrow.

DH tells her a toy box (which we really need). She apparently says, what else and DH goes on to say "Money for gas so Mommy and Daddy can buy him food" She then asks what kind of formula he drinks and what kind of food he eats.

Fast forward a few Hrs and she calls me confirming the formula and baby food he eats.

Am I wrong for being upset b/c she is buying DS baby food and formula for XMas???

I just feel like that is more "everyday" stuff.

DH did tell her just to buy a GC to BRU, as thats where we get the formula.

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I think it's coming from a good place, so I wouldn't worry too much about it. She's obviously trying to help out with practical things. While it might feel a little weird, at least it's a useful gift!

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I get what you are saying....but I agree with Rachel that she is trying to help, as much as it isn't a "fun" gift.

I think a gc to BRU is the best idea

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I have been trying to tell myself, it's stuff we need and will use.

We don't need any toys (we have PLENTY that aren't even open yet) and we're pretty good on clothes (for now).

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Well, since your DH told her that's what you needed, apparently she is just trying to help. Embrace the help and don't question it, especially if you need it

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DS is 3 months old and has no idea what Christmas is. I tried to get so many people to buy him formula and diapers because he has enough clothes until he is in highschool and enough toys to rival toysrus, LOL. I think it's actually nice that she is doing something practical, although I think a toybox is extremely practical, maybe she just couldn;t get one in one day?

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Here are my thoughts... Maybe its because when she asked DH what she should get, he didn't really answer with "fun" type of gifts, KWIM? Maybe if he said - he really likes this _____ from Fisher Price, etc, then she would be more focused on toys, but since he said a toy box or money to buy gas to buy his necessities, she felt that would be the most helpful gift for you?

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I think it's coming from a good place and honestly, your DH totally opened the door with his comment.

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I agree that your DH made that comment so maybe she figures thas what you need, it is practical...im sure shell pick up a litle toy also...let us know

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I understand the let down of the gift not being exciting and having a wow factor, but as the others have said, it is useful and will save you a lot of money! My kids have gotten so many useless toys that they have no interest in, so if someone showed up with a box of wipes instead of a toy that will inevitably collect dust, I'd be ok with it!

MY SIL is donating to a charity in my kids name. At first I was like "Wow thanks..my 3 and 1 year old will definately appreciate that!" But after I thought about the endless presents they have to open a nice gesture like that is much appreicated.

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Your DH told her "Money for gas so Mommy and Daddy can buy him food" so I guess she feels that she is helping you guys out since you don't need toys and she actually wants something to wrap?
It's probably easier for her to pick up last minute than running to TRU.

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i definitely see your point, but i can see where she is coming from too...

my MIL asked what DS needed and i told her that he really didnt need any more clothes or toys at this pt so she gave us $$ and formula & diapers...
i see why you would want something more "personal", but its still thoughtful...

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I don't understand, your DH practically told her to get it, why would it be offensive? I think it's an awesome gesture considering you said the baby already has plenty, she's also getting a toybox and you'd spend the money on it anyway. I love the idea considering in a few years, you can't get away with practical gifts.

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I would not be annoyed by the formula, but I would be annoyed that on 12/23 she was only THEN asking what Troy needed...and your DH called her at that!

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