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nov04libride
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Am I wrong to be upset?
I am getting a wisdom tooth removed on Wednesday. DH has very limited sick/vacation days, so my mom offered to drive me (I'm getting knocked out). She was going to then bring me home. Well, DH then told me he won't be home Weds. or Thurs. because there are Mets games and he has season tickets. Now, he has been to over 30 Mets games this season, and this is the first medical procedure I've had done in the two years we've been married. I told him I'd really like him there Weds. after work to help me and he said he would feel guilty since he promised to go to the game with his brother. 
Am I wrong to be upset? All I wanted was for him to be there to take care of me the night of the surgery...To bring me soup when I am still woozy. I feel like this is the first time I have really *needed* him since we got married and he isn't there.
ETA: He asked me to reschedule surgery for Friday, when there is no Mets game, but since it is emergency surgery since the gum is infected I of course want the first possible appointment.
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
I agree with you. I'd probably be upset too. But sometimes men don't think like we do. They are lacking in that "mothering" instinct. He probably figures you will be fine.
Is there any way your mom can stay with you for a while that night to make sure you are ok and don't need anything?
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| Posted 10/16/06 11:50 AM |
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KPtoys
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
Recovery from wisdom teeth is a lot of sleeping. Take pain killers. Yes, I think your DH should be there but it's only a few hours in the playoffs... sorry to take DH's side
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| Posted 10/16/06 11:50 AM |
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
Posted by nov04libride
I am getting a wisdom tooth removed on Wednesday. DH has very limited sick/vacation days, so my mom offered to drive me (I'm getting knocked out). She was going to then bring me home. Well, DH then told me he won't be home Weds. or Thurs. because there are Mets games and he has season tickets. Now, he has been to over 30 Mets games this season, and this is the first medical procedure I've had done in the two years we've been married. I told him I'd really like him there Weds. after work to help me and he said he would feel guilty since he promised to go to the game with his brother.
Am I wrong to be upset? All I wanted was for him to be there to take care of me the night of the surgery...To bring me soup when I am still woozy. I feel like this is the first time I have really *needed* him since we got married and he isn't there.
Do you want my brutal, honest, opinion, cause you are going to get it anyway. lol
I can TOTALLY sympathize with your situation. When I had mine out, DH wouldnt take off work, because he said to me, "You're just going to sleep anyway". In essence, he was right. I did sleep the whole time.
And, it's the finals, and I know he has been to alot of games, but I would not let my DH miss it.
That's just me though.
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| Posted 10/16/06 11:51 AM |
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nov04libride
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
Posted by KPtoys
Recovery from wisdom teeth is a lot of sleeping. Take pain killers. Yes, I think your DH should be there but it's only a few hours in the playoffs... sorry to take DH's side
Well, when he goes to the games it basically means I don't see him for days at a time. Wednesday he will leave for work at 8 and I'll go to the surgeon, he'll get home from the game at 1AM and I will be asleep. Thursday morning he'll leave when I am asleep, come home at 1AM when I am asleep. So it means I won't see him Weds-Friday, which is when I would need him to help me. I know I don't need anyone, but it would just be a nice thing, and something I would want him to do.
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| Posted 10/16/06 11:52 AM |
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
I would be a little dissappointed but maybe not upset. But I don't know how big of a deal it is to have your wisdom teeth pulled (i.e. how you will feel after).
Also...it IS the playoffs...
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
As a met fan I would want to go or my DH to go. 
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| Posted 10/16/06 11:53 AM |
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nov04libride
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
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Posted by nov04libride
I am getting a wisdom tooth removed on Wednesday. DH has very limited sick/vacation days, so my mom offered to drive me (I'm getting knocked out). She was going to then bring me home. Well, DH then told me he won't be home Weds. or Thurs. because there are Mets games and he has season tickets. Now, he has been to over 30 Mets games this season, and this is the first medical procedure I've had done in the two years we've been married. I told him I'd really like him there Weds. after work to help me and he said he would feel guilty since he promised to go to the game with his brother.
Am I wrong to be upset? All I wanted was for him to be there to take care of me the night of the surgery...To bring me soup when I am still woozy. I feel like this is the first time I have really *needed* him since we got married and he isn't there.
Do you want my brutal, honest, opinion, cause you are going to get it anyway. lol
I can TOTALLY sympathize with your situation. When I had mine out, DH wouldnt take off work, because he said to me, "You're just going to sleep anyway". In essence, he was right. I did sleep the whole time.
And, it's the finals, and I know he has been to alot of games, but I would not let my DH miss it.
That's just me though.
Yeah, I didn't ask him to take off work....I guess maybe I don't understand the importance of the playoffs. Seems to me if they lose it wouldn't be fun to watch anyway, and if they win he'd get to go Thursday.
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| Posted 10/16/06 11:53 AM |
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nov04libride
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
Posted by anonttcer
I agree with you. I'd probably be upset too. But sometimes men don't think like we do. They are lacking in that "mothering" instinct. He probably figures you will be fine.
Is there any way your mom can stay with you for a while that night to make sure you are ok and don't need anything?
I may even stay at my mom's, but I guess I am almost embarrassed to tell her that my DH won't be home at all for me? Know what I mean? It's like the first time I needed someone I had to go running back to my mom.
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| Posted 10/16/06 11:54 AM |
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
I don't think I will ever be able to understand what is so important about going to the playoffs.
What if you mother couldn't pick you up?
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| Posted 10/16/06 11:55 AM |
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nov04libride
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
Posted by tourist
I don't think I will ever be able to understand what is so important about going to the playoffs.
What if you mother couldn't pick you up?
I guess he would do it then...Maybe? But it's just like I feel like my mom would do anything for me...And DH would do anything SO LONG AS IT DOESN'T CONFLICT WITH A METS GAME...And possibly a Jets game...
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
I understand feeling disappointed, who wouldn't want to be babied after oral surgery? But this is the post-season! And the fact that he's been to 30 games this year is even more of a reason why he cannot miss it! The excitement of these games is what you wait all year for. I wouldn't allow my DH to miss game 6 and possibly game 7 for a surgery I could have scheduled a few days later. I'll be at game 6 and unless there is a major catastrophe (god forbid, knock on wood), I'm not missing it.
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nov04libride
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
Posted by evenedan
I understand feeling disappointed, who wouldn't want to be babied after oral surgery? But this is the post-season! And the fact that he's been to 30 games this year, is even more of a reason why he cannot miss it! The excitement of these games is what you wait all year for. I wouldn't allow my DH to miss game 6 and possibly game 7 for a surgery I could have scheduled a few days later. I'll be at game 6 and unless there is a major catastrophe (god forbid, knock on wood), I'm not missing it.
There weren't actually any surgery openings for another couple weeks so I couldn't have put it off til Friday...Though I am in extreme pain.
I guess since I am not an avid sports fan I don't understand the importance of the playoffs. I am totally not a high maintenance wife AT ALL so i felt like this thing wasn't a huge deal...
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
If it wasn't the post-season, I would completely agree with you.
But since its the playoffs, and he is obviously a huge mets fan, I would let it go.
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
I wouldnt let him miss it, I know how important it is to him. Especially for getting teeth out. I had all 4 out at once, and I was knocked out. I wouldnt make him stay home for that.
And it will only be a few hours, just sleep while hes gone!
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
I would be upset too but if it happens that you are alone after you get home, you will be fine alone. There isnt much for anyone to do for you because you feel fine except some tooth pain. I hope it goes smoothly for you.
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
I got knocked out for a wisdon tooth and I was fine the next day. I wouldn't be mad at DH. Good luck!
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
Posted by nov04libride
I guess he would do it then...Maybe? But it's just like I feel like my mom would do anything for me...And DH would do anything SO LONG AS IT DOESN'T CONFLICT WITH A METS GAME...And possibly a Jets game...
That's what mothers do  But maybe she wouldn't be as readily available to you if she had something going on comparable to playoff tickets...
If it was me I wouldn't want DH to miss it... but I would tell him he has to make it up to me in one way or another. 
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
If it was any other game I would be PO'd. But it's the playoffs and if he has season tickets it means that much more to him than a typical fan.
I wouldn't hold him back from going.
Besides, I got all my wisdom teeth removed (2 at a time). All were impacted. There's not much you can do other than eat soup. You're really not going to need that much help. If it was something like knee surgery or something where you couldn't get out of bed, I would see your point. But to be honest wisdom teeth removal really isn't a big deal.
Sorry to take his side.
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| Posted 10/16/06 12:10 PM |
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nov04libride
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
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If it was any other game I would be PO'd. But it's the playoffs and if he has season tickets it means that much more to him than a typical fan.
I wouldn't hold him back from going.
Besides, I got all my wisdom teeth removed (2 at a time). All were impacted. There's not much you can do other than eat soup. You're really not going to need that much help. If it was something like knee surgery or something where you couldn't get out of bed, I would see your point. But to be honest wisdom teeth removal really isn't a big deal.
Sorry to take his side.
I know it isn't a big deal...I've had it done before, but I guess I just wanted him to nurse me this one time...Make me chicken soup and pick me up ice cream...You know?
I guess I don't have a right to be mad, but I will hold him to making it up to me.
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| Posted 10/16/06 12:20 PM |
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
Um, I'd be upset, too...I don't think you're wrong. Give and take--this is an example of him to give.
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| Posted 10/16/06 12:21 PM |
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
Beth, honestly I would be ****** off. I am sorry, I just can't comprehend how a game can be more important then you. I am not into baseball or football and I am grateful Phil could care less about that stuff.
I think I have to think of it in more of terms of something else that Phil loves and would not want to miss to understand it a bit more.
So if he had a chance to go to a one time workshop to learn new techniques from the world's best cabinet maker or carpentar, then I would understand and I would want him not to miss out on that opportunity.
So, if this game means something like that to Gregg, then I can understand it.
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| Posted 10/16/06 12:25 PM |
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
I'm a huge Mets fan, I've had all 4 wisdom teeth removed, and one in an emergency situation and I was alone - DH was working, my parents were unavailable - so you can probably figure out my perspective on this.
I actually worked late on Friday just so my boss could leave and go to the Mets game - and I had plans for the evening and everything!
I do think that he should make it up to you after the fact though.
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
I see your point.
Let me know if he needs to get rid of those tickets!!!
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nov04libride
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Re: Am I wrong to be upset?
Posted by MrsNaunie
I see your point.
Let me know if he needs to get rid of those tickets!!!
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