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DH & I are both baseball fans. So, this is something that I can relate to your DH with. I wouldn't want my DH to miss the game...especially your DH's case it's the Mets. It's not like they make it in every year. It is a HUGE thing. Plus you will probably be sleeping.

But...out of curiosity I e-mailed my DH your post...here's what he said:
"Yeah, it is the playoffs..... but they are also on TV and I would be home for you and watch it on TV. I would only go with you anyway. Hopefully you realize you wouldn't even have to ask me to stay home.... I would stay home anyway."

Now take into consideration that he is a Yankees fan...playoffs are just like regular season games.

I'm still with your DH on this one...but definitely have him make it up to you.

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Posted by lorich

DH & I are both baseball fans. So, this is something that I can relate to your DH with. I wouldn't want my DH to miss the game...especially your DH's case it's the Mets. It's not like they make it in every year. It is a HUGE thing. Plus you will probably be sleeping.

But...out of curiosity I e-mailed my DH your post...here's what he said:
"Yeah, it is the playoffs..... but they are also on TV and I would be home for you and watch it on TV. I would only go with you anyway. Hopefully you realize you wouldn't even have to ask me to stay home.... I would stay home anyway."

Now take into consideration that he is a Yankees fan...playoffs are just like regular season games.

I'm still with your DH on this one...but definitely have him make it up to you.

Message edited 10/16/2006 12:38:09 PM.

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I got all four of my wisdom teeth pulled when Damien was only 3 months old. My sister and mother took off to stay with him and me. I slept the entire day away and most of the night. I wanted my DH to save his days off.

I would be pizzed that he chose the game before.

Do you think that if he chose to stay home with you, you would have felt differently?

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Wait, WHAT?

We're huge Mets fans, but if I was in your situation, I'd be EXTREMELY upset that he wouldn't stay with me....post-season or not.

I throw you my favorite "A Bronx Tale" quote - "Is Mickey Mantle going to pay your rent?" Same idea. Support the one that loves you and promised to spend her life with you, OR be one of 56,000 people in a screaming stadium, supporting a team that doesn't even know his name.....tough choice.

I'm assuming you have a TV in your home....isn't watching it on TV with you asleep on his shoulder good enough?

I had a major surgical procedure a little over 3 years ago, and Rich wasn't there for me. Granted, he was 4 hours away at school, but my surgery was a Friday (he didn't have class Fri, Sat, Sun) and somehow he found the time to go to the Carousel Mall for a few hours that day, but couldn't find the time to come home for me when I needed his support the most. As much as I try to grow up and push that out of my head, I can't help but worry sometimes about what else will come before me when I need him.

The Mets will carry on with or without him...its YOU he should be concerned about.

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Posted by Shorty

Wait, WHAT?

We're huge Mets fans, but if I was in your situation, I'd be EXTREMELY upset that he wouldn't stay with me....post-season or not.

I throw you my favorite "A Bronx Tale" quote - "Is Mickey Mantle going to pay your rent?" Same idea. Support the one that loves you and promised to spend her life with you, OR be one of 56,000 people in a screaming stadium, supporting a team that doesn't even know his name.....tough choice.

I'm assuming you have a TV in your home....isn't watching it on TV with you asleep on his shoulder good enough?

I had a major surgical procedure a little over 3 years ago, and Rich wasn't there for me. Granted, he was 4 hours away at school, but my surgery was a Friday (he didn't have class Fri, Sat, Sun) and somehow he found the time to go to the Carousel Mall for a few hours that day, but couldn't find the time to come home for me when I needed his support the most. As much as I try to grow up and push that out of my head, I can't help but worry sometimes about what else will come before me when I need him.

The Mets will carry on with or without him...its YOU he should be concerned about.

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Posted by Stacey1403

Posted by nov04libride

Posted by Stacey1403

Do you think that if he chose to stay home with you, you would have felt differently?

Yes! This is such a girly thing to say, but I wanted him to offer more than anything. I might have even said go and have fun but I appreciate you offering, but it was like it didn't even occur to him to skip it for me.

That is how I would feel too, which I think is completely normal

Let him go to the game but also let him know that he hurt your feelings

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I would be upset too. I would expect my DH to miss one friggin game for me.

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Posted by Elbee

Posted by Stacey1403

Posted by nov04libride

Posted by Stacey1403

Do you think that if he chose to stay home with you, you would have felt differently?

Yes! This is such a girly thing to say, but I wanted him to offer more than anything. I might have even said go and have fun but I appreciate you offering, but it was like it didn't even occur to him to skip it for me.

That is how I would feel too, which I think is completely normal

Let him go to the game but also let him know that he hurt your feelings

I completely sympathize with this ... sometimes the 'offer' is worth more than the actual ...

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There was no offer! None!

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I don't think there is a right or wrong way to act, this is a personal decision.

I personally would not ask my DH to miss a playoff game over me getting my wisdowm teeth out.

I had them all out at once and it wasn't too bad. I was also knocked out. I didnt eat anything that night, just had some ginger ale and some pain pills!!! I hope everything goes smoothly and you feel better soon!

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I feel like I always come 2nd to sports and Dh brother so I can totally sympathize with your situation and I would be dissapointed and upset as well. I always rearrange my schedule to be there for my Dh and I expect him to do the same although it doesnt always happen.

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Posted by HollaGirl

Posted by nov04libride

I am getting a wisdom tooth removed on Wednesday. DH has very limited sick/vacation days, so my mom offered to drive me (I'm getting knocked out). She was going to then bring me home. Well, DH then told me he won't be home Weds. or Thurs. because there are Mets games and he has season tickets. Now, he has been to over 30 Mets games this season, and this is the first medical procedure I've had done in the two years we've been married. I told him I'd really like him there Weds. after work to help me and he said he would feel guilty since he promised to go to the game with his brother.

Am I wrong to be upset? All I wanted was for him to be there to take care of me the night of the surgery...To bring me soup when I am still woozy. I feel like this is the first time I have really *needed* him since we got married and he isn't there.

Do you want my brutal, honest, opinion, cause you are going to get it anyway. lol

I can TOTALLY sympathize with your situation. When I had mine out, DH wouldnt take off work, because he said to me, "You're just going to sleep anyway". In essence, he was right. I did sleep the whole time.

And, it's the finals, and I know he has been to alot of games, but I would not let my DH miss it.

That's just me though.

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I think you have every right to feel this way. I would be upset and hurt. I know that a baseball game is a big deal to some people and ESPECIALLY since they are in the playoffs, but cmon, when it comes down to it, its a friggen baseball game. I guess I just dont see how a game is more important

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I don't think you're wrong at all. I would drop something important, like a concert, to take care of my DH. And IMO that's even more of a one-of-the kind event. I would expect my DH to come home and be with me.

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I am a HUGE Jets fan. I never miss a game. They haven't been in the Super Bowl since 1969. If, by some miracle, they made it again and I was the one person chosen to sit on the Jets' bench and help coach the game, I would give it up in a New York minute if my husband needed me for ANYTHING. I don't understand how anyone could say that not being there for you is something you should not be upset over. You should be P***ED! While it may be true, you would, probably, sleep a good deal of the time, it is, also, possible you could have an adverse reaction to any medication or anesthesia you would be given and would require help. I would pack my bag and go to my mom's and tell her exactly why I needed to be there. Your husband should be ashamed of himself!

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Are you kidding me?
You are more important than a baseball game! Do wedding vows mean nothing? in SICKNESS and in health...no mention of a baseball game in there!
You have a tv....a big tv! Tell him he can stay home and watch the game on the couch and be with you in case you need anything.

I had 11 teeth out when I was younger (ouch) and I was a mess afterwards....you shouldn't be left alone after something like that!

I think you have every right to be upset!!!

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I think you have every right to feel how you do...espcially going into a procedure you know nothing about (as far as how you will react, feel, etc). I also agree with the point that an "offer" would have made me feel better (were I in your situation)...

That said, I wouldn't expect DH to cancel were his team in the playoffs (*I'M* the Met fan )...it's an exciting time for a fan when their team plays in October. (I remember sitting on the sofa with MONO while my dad and his "stupid friend" sat at game 6 for BOTH the playoff's and World Series back in 1986...watching it on TV was fun, but I was so upset that I couldn't be there with all the electricity & excitement. And all you Met fans will remember how important GAME 6 was!!)

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I just got my wisdom teeth out, and I have to tell you, it was a piece of cake. You probably wont even need him there. My DH met me after the procedure and put me in a car service and sent me home. I was alone for the next 9 or 10 hours and i can tell you i was just fine. I even drove to the drugstore to fill my perscription.

I would let him go to the game, guilt free, with the side note that if you have a bad reaction to the surgery he will give the ticket to someone else.

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I had a wisdom tooth pulled and was knocked out as well.
Dh took me and was going to go to work when the dr. told him I really shouldn't be left alone. OK, he stayed home.
There were, however, no playoff tix involved. DH is a huge METS fan and I would not let him miss the game if he were going. Since your mom is bringing you there, any way you can just stay at our parents? My mom loves when I go over there (even if I am sick).
You will def. be sleeping a lot. However, I went to work the next day (a few hours later) but I was fine.

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Guys, you are being a TAD dramatic. I had all 4 out at the same time, and was so drugged, I didnt even want to eat. All I did was sleep. Her husband will be gone for a few hours, he is not going to Vegas for a bachelor party.

And she isnt having open heart surgery, she is having wisdom teeth out.

The only part I do agree with, is it would have been nice to offer.

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You have every right to be upset, but also remember that you'll be sleeping most of the night and won't even know that he is there. But it's the principle! I get it!