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newbie00
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Anniversary of life changing event
Next week marks the 1 year anniversary of an accident that leaves someone close to me disabled. The accident has affected the entire family. Not really sure if we should recognize the day? We want it to be a positive time (as much as it could be), not one of negativity or mourning of what life used to be like.
Thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
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Posted 3/10/12 10:10 AM  |
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Re: Anniversary of life changing event
That's a tough one.
What does the person affected the most want?
If anything maybe everyone getting together to go out to dinner or something..........but remember, as much as it does affect the family as a unit it is not about YOU as much as it is about them.
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| Posted 3/10/12 10:15 AM |
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peanutbutter2
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Re: Anniversary of life changing event
Is there some sort of activity that this person is really interested in right now? Maybe the family could spend the day doing that so that the individual is focused on what he/she can do as opposed to what he/she cannot do?
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| Posted 3/10/12 10:15 AM |
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yankinmanc
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Re: Anniversary of life changing event
Why not just do something to celebrate that you made it to one year post accident! Go to dinner, have a small get together. Recognize the accomplishment that getting through the first year is! Good luck!
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| Posted 3/10/12 11:17 AM |
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mrssoto
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Re: Anniversary of life changing event
I agree about a little get together to celebrate making it through and basically celebrating the person's physical accomplishments over the past year. But I would also gauge what the person would want. maybe they want no reminder whatsoever..in that case, I might still send a card still with a nice note so they can deal with it personally and know that you are thinking of them.
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| Posted 3/10/12 11:47 AM |
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LSP2005
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Re: Anniversary of life changing event
Posted by mzsocialworker1
That's a tough one.
What does the person affected the most want?
If anything maybe everyone getting together to go out to dinner or something..........but remember, as much as it does affect the family as a unit it is not about YOU as much as it is about them.
;).
I completely agree with these sentiments. I would ask the person and respect their wishes. As much as the accident effects you and the rest of the family it is about them. I would try to spin it positively and see how much they accomplished in the past year. 
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| Posted 3/10/12 12:10 PM |
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Re: Anniversary of life changing event
Is your family religious at all? 3 years ago this month my SIL (bro's wife) was hit by a car and suffered numerous traumatic injuries. She was clinging to life by a thread but fought back and has recovered (thank God) - but that first anniversary was a tough one for her (and everyone really). My brother invited us all to a mass at their home (officiated by the priest who married them who is a family friend), followed by a really nice lunch. I feel like it was the perfect remembrance of that anniversary - I think everyone left feeling so so grateful for how it all turned out kwim?
I would agree with the PPs though, gauge how the person in question is feeling about the anniversary and plan something from there, if a get-together is not in the cards then I think the PPs suggestion of a card with a note is very thoughtful.
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| Posted 3/10/12 12:16 PM |
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3girls1dog
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Re: Anniversary of life changing event
My DH was paralyzed 15 years ago we always acknowledge it. We usually go out and toast the day. Even 15 years later you never forget one moment of that day.
Message edited 3/10/2012 1:36:22 PM.
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| Posted 3/10/12 1:31 PM |
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julz33
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Re: Anniversary of life changing event
We have the same kind of day in our family. The family did not do anything big to acknowledge the day, but I called my aunt (accident happened to my uncle) and said "I know its been a rough year for you and we all wish the accident never happened, but we are all so thankful Uncle X is still with us"
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| Posted 3/10/12 5:40 PM |
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newbie00
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Re: Anniversary of life changing event
Thanks all for the suggestions
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| Posted 3/10/12 6:52 PM |
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bikramaddict
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Re: Anniversary of life changing event
Posted by LSP2005
Posted by mzsocialworker1
That's a tough one.
What does the person affected the most want?
If anything maybe everyone getting together to go out to dinner or something..........but remember, as much as it does affect the family as a unit it is not about YOU as much as it is about them.
;).
I completely agree with these sentiments. I would ask the person and respect their wishes. As much as the accident effects you and the rest of the family it is about them. I would try to spin it positively and see how much they accomplished in the past year.
ITA. My dad and I recognize my mom's (she passed away  ) bday. Not like in a weird celebratory way, but we just make sure to have dinner together that night.
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| Posted 3/11/12 5:00 AM |
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