Another Mary Jane Question

question for the people who smoke and/or their DH's smoke...

will you give it up when you have a baby? or will you continue to do it?

i don't think smoking pot (once in awhile - i'm not talking about everyday) is a big deal, to me i've seen far worse behavior from people drinking alcohol (again socially - not everyday) but the fact that it is illegal and you need to get it from a dealer makes it seem kind of to do when you are a parent...

what if your children found out about it? would you worry that it would change their view on you as a parent if they did find out?

i found out when i was older (an adult) thay my parents did it and honestly even though i've smoked marijuana in the past myself i was still upset to find out that they were doing it after they became parents, especially when i was a baby - it just seems so wrong to me. i will add that i would have felt the same way if i found out that they were getting drunk at night when i was sleeping.

with the amount my dad smoked back in his day i'm surprised they even conceived me

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well like you said... the fact that MJ is illegal makes it a little more Taboo than alcohol or even cigarettes... i dont smoke anything now so obviously i wouldnt start once i got preggo... lol

My sister was a big big big MJ smoker... i asked her if she was doing anything to get preggo and she said no she was still smoking and drinking and all that until she got her bfp...

she would never smoke during her pregnancy... but she did have a few drinks here or there...

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i'm not asking about during pregnancy - i would hope that people do not smoke anything while they are pregnant with what we know today...

i am talking about once you have a child or children...would you or your DH continue smoking than?

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we don't smoke never did but i drink a fair amount. fully expect to cut that down if not completely out when my kids are little. Unless someone is babysitting or whatever. It's not right to drink a lot or smoke when you have little kids as it impairs your judgement, IMO.

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i don't know if i would...

generally speaking i like pot better than alcohol but i do not do either of them very frequently.

i hate the way i feel after drinking even if it's just 2 glasses of wine during dinner because it wreaks havoc on my stomach. pot on the other hand is more user friendly for me and it's something i can do to unwind and relax with my DH which is nice. alcohol is more social and we don't go to bars or clubs.

but getting stoned or a buzz once i have kids seems wrong for some reason i think it's because of how i felt when i found out my parents were doing stuff when i was a kid. it kind of made me feel like they must not have cared about my well being if they were getting stoned all the time. when you are taught how "wrong" it is when you are a kid you would think your parents should be practicing what they preach and mine were not i also think pot smoking may have had something to do with some of my mom's issues...

i don't do anything frequently enough to have to "give it up" so i do not think i will be doing anything once we have a LO...but time will tell...i won't say i'll never smoke pot ever again for the rest of my life because who knows

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i am surprised no more answers. from the other thread it seemed like quite a few of the DH's smoke pretty regularly?

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Neither of us smoke at all, got that all out of my system by college. But we drink socially a fair amount. I'm fine with that, as long as one of us, or a babysitter, is sober to drive in case there is an emergency. Besides, I'm sure the hangover and a crying baby won't be worth it.

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I smoke/ed and my DH does not. I have cut back sooo much over the past 5 years but I did not stop completely during TTC. I would say that I averaged once a week and only on the weekends.

Once I got my BFP I of course stopped. Will I go back after the baby is born? Probably but not for a long time after. I won't say that I will never smoke again in my life but I know that it will be a while before I do. I am not a drinker and like a PP said Pot is much more user friendly for me...

I found out in my early 20's that my parents smoked and it really didn't shock me at all.

I actually have a funny memory that came rushing back to me older in life. I remembered as a kid a friend of my parents would roll his own cigarettes and the smell was a little different than cigarettes when he would smoke it. When I began smoking, the smell triggered that memory and I knew that he wasn't rolling tobacco in those cigarettes... . I told my parents about this memory and they just laughed.

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Posted by nraboni

I smoke/ed and my DH does not. I have cut back sooo much over the past 5 years but I did not stop completely during TTC. I would say that I averaged once a week and only on the weekends.

Once I got my BFP I of course stopped. Will I go back after the baby is born? Probably but not for a long time after. I won't say that I will never smoke again in my life but I know that it will be a while before I do. I am not a drinker and like a PP said Pot is much more user friendly for me...

I found out in my early 20's that my parents smoked and it really didn't shock me at all.

I actually have a funny memory that came rushing back to me older in life. I remembered as a kid a friend of my parents would roll his own cigarettes and the smell was a little different than cigarettes when he would smoke it. When I began smoking, the smell triggered that memory and I knew that he wasn't rolling tobacco in those cigarettes... . I told my parents about this memory and they just laughed.

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i wont give it up! during pregnancy ...yess but after that no.

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i haven't smoked in yearrsssss, so i won't start now.

but i did want to add that both of my parents smoked the entire time we were growing up. my mom never smoked in front of us, but my dad did. and we all turned out fine!

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i dont smoke MJ....i just never liked it, but DH does smoke. He has said he will probably always smoke, but once we have kids it will change. He has said it will become a very occassional type thing and obv nowhere near me (when Im preggs) or near the kids.

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We don't smoke so for us it wont really be an issue. We rarely even drink (like only for outings and birthday parties and stuff). That wont change because in those rare instances someone else would be watching the baby.

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my DH used to smoke a lot. .now it's just an occassional thing but he has SUPER strong feelings about not doing at all once we have a LO. . I think for him it's bc his dad was a big smoker and he has so many negative associations with it that he just doesnt see how he can do it and feel okay about himself. and here I am NOT judging and saying no one should be okay with it bc honestly everyone rxs differently to things. .for me I know I was not alert enough when I did it that I would be responsible at all to take care of a little being. . now if we were on vacation or something wo kids maybe another story. . but that's just me. .

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We don't smoke but I do see us cutting back on alcohol consumption simply because we won't be going out as often. Will we stop drinking? No.

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I am not a pot smoker, maybe in the past (college years). I was however, a social smoker (cigs) with a glass of wine I might dabble with a smoke, certainly was not on a regular basis.

I don't think now as an adult if my parents had a few cocktails or smoked (either one) that I would be upset that they did. Obviously things back then were a lot different and with what we know now you wouldn't do half the stuff they did. But with that you do end up wanting or trying maintaining some sort of yourself pre-baby (at least I do). Of course DD is my #1 priority and so is her safety and that will always come first but I am still me, just modified now being a Mom. But this is just me