Re: any one ever feel ike their kidless friends are not to happy for them?

I have come to the conclusion that some people don't know how to show they care. I think my friends do they just can't relate. Only a few of us are married and I am the only one TTC. I know my friends are excited for my events in life they are just at a complete opposite place in thier lives.

Also you don't know what other people are going through. You mentioned that the one friend who passed along the sono pic and changed the subject is the other friend who is close to TTC. Maybe she already is and you don't know. Maybe she is having trouble getting PG or has had something hard happen.. like a m/c. God forbid.. Or maybe she is not TTC and really want to be and finds it hard to be happy for you because you have what she wants so bad. I know I have felt a lot of these same feeling for people at work. Especially after my m/c. Although I am really happy for all of them I just know that avoiding the topics is best for me right now. I don't think they would appreciate me bursting into tears over thier sono pics because I am so sad.

to you because I know how you feel. My BF and I both felt that with our weddings.. Other people don't care. They are happy and they ask little questions but they don't obsess over it because they don't know ANYTHING about the process. Maybe they don't really know anything about nuchal test (I didn't even understand it exsisted until a few weeks ago) or they don't understand morning sickness triggers.

Message edited 10/23/2007 3:58:48 PM.

Re: any one ever feel ike their kidless friends are not to happy for them?

Just a point of view from the other side.... sometimes there are things that you don't know affecting people. I just went through 2 miscarriages, and I am finding it very difficult to share the enthusiasm of my pg friend. Its not that Im not happy for her, and I certainly wish her well, but she and I would have been due within days of each other and there are so many things that go through my head that I find myself distancing from her b.c its just too painful. Always think of what may be going on in someone elses life that they arent necessarily sharing with you.

Re: any one ever feel ike their kidless friends are not to happy for them?

I can relate. I surprisingly have had people ask how I am doing constantly and then people who have not called once to see how I am. I was high risk in the beginning and nothing.

We are moving in about a week and no question of wanting to get together, nothing. It's hurtful. But like my DH says, it shows you who your true friends are.