Any one preggos soon after getting married?

I feel like almost everyone we tell we are pregnant too has a comment, such as you have only been married 5 months, was it planned, can you afford a baby (would we really try if we couldnt?), blah blah blah. I always end up having to justify myself, with YES this was planned and that we were told their were possibly going to be issues with us getting pregnant, but my mom was like, you dont have to explain it to anyone, its none of their business. I agree with her, but it bothers me for people to think this was not a planned and CONSIOUS decision, when it was. aughh people should just mind thier business LOL thanks for listening to my vent

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Married in April, pg in July/August so I guess we are in the same boat.

I do get that at times but that is FOR me to worry about and Im very happy in my marriage and confident things will work out.

We are also in process of getting a house so its going to be a rough yr but things that would have to be done anyways.

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We got pregnant on our honeymoon so I get a lot of comments. We knew we wanted to have a family right away so we started trying and we very fortunate. I almost don't like to tell people when we got married because I really don't care for the judgment or sarcastic comments.

I don't know why people feel they can comment on other's lives - people should learn to talk BEHIND my back like a civilized person

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I was married in Feb 05 and preggo in May... I got MANY comments about it- Don't you want some time with your husband first? Your so young! It really got on my nerves, but I learned to ignore it.

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I don't know whos business that is other than the parties who are having the child. My SIL said that she was surprized we starting so soon since we only got married 7 months before I got pregnant. Ummm... we are both over 35 and want children- how much time do we have here????

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We got married in December and got pregnant in August as soon as we started trying. It's no one's business but ours when we decide to start a family.

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Don't sweat their comments. I am sure you will forever get people counting the months on their fingers between your wedding date and when the baby is born. People are too nosy into places they don't belong.
Enjoy it and know you did it in the right order and for the right reasons!

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We got married in May. We haven't gotten comments except for "you don't waste any time"....but no questions.

Who cares what people think - just be happy about your little bean.

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thanks guys, me and my DH are so happy and excited, we cant wait to meet our little bean this baby already feels like a part of our lifes
it just s**** thats people are like that, sometimes i know its innocent (today the girls DH works with asked if it was planned) but then this weekend we went to my BIL/SIL house and my SIL nephews wife was there and shes like, didnt you guys just get married and oh we have been married 1 1/2 and are not even thinking about it, but laughing, in a snotty way, i almost said good for you, that was your decision and then hitting her LOL. I just feel like some people are ready right away and some just arent and neither is right or wrong, its a personal decision, so DONT judge! PHEW vent over LOL

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I am sure you'd love to swat people in the face when they ask you if your pregnancy was planned. You are a married woman and thats what married people do - have children. Would they rather you had your child before? People always have something to say.

I try to swat a few people when they ask me if I was planned because I was born so many years after my brother. Or whats worse is when they assume that my siblings and I do not share the same parents because the others are much older than I am. I have to tell them that people DO stay married and often DO have children past the first 13 years of their marriage. They look at me stunned.

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People just need to comment, no matter what.

We've been married for two years and now that we've told people they say things like

"Oh, we've been wondering if something is wrong with you guys."

or

"It's been two years, it's about time!"

People are stupid and open their mouths just to hear themselves talk.

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I got married June 17... I found out I conceived July 11th....

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we got married in October and I got pregnant in December...We are just as happy as we were the day we met!

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We got married in OCt 2004, and had DD May 2006, we got pg, when we were married for 9 months.

I have been with DH 6 years when we were married and lived together for 4 of those 6 before marriage. We were ready.

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Married July, preggers in September. No, it was not planned. No, that's none of your business. Whenever someone would say something to us, we'd just respond with, "It's meant to be." And even that was giving in too much to the question. I felt like, how dare they ask? It's no one's business.

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People really said to us - Wow - you guys SURE don't waste anytime, do you?

I feel the need to tell people it wasnt planned - I know I shouldnt and its none of their business - I dont know why I keep saying it - maybe because I'm still in shock... also, I guess I felt I needed to explain why I got pregnant while DH was still laid off from work - thankfully he got something shortly after....

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We got married and pregnant on our six month anniversary.

We get more questions about how fast we conceived. Went off hte pill July 27th, was pg the next month then how long we are married.

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yup - got preggo on purpose 4 months aftr we got married. dont listen to people - they are stupid!

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I got married in September and got PG that november. My daughter was due on our 1 year anniversary. I got the comments too i just told everyone that it was what we wanted and that usually ended the discussion. Good luck.

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i wanted to get preggo on our honeymoon... i had already o'd but we were fortunate enough to get preggo the following month on our first try

we didnt really get any comments because while we were young... 26 and 28, we were together for 10 years so i guess no one was suprised

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Me! We were married June 25 and found out day after Labor Day that I was 5 weeks pregnant. So far, I ahve been fortunate to not be judged about getting pregnant so "fast" after the wedding. Mostly b/c we knew we wanted to start trying right away as we're not getting any younger!

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Bonnie - your mom is right.. it's none of anyone's business. Such a blessed event, it shouldn't matter if it was planned or unplanned. I'm so excited for you and hubby! And I still have a hard time wrapping my head around that you are preggers given I know you since YOU were a bean!!!

ETA: I get the exact opposite..."why are you two waiting so long?"

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Married Mid-August. Pregnant in September so....yes I know what you mean. Except my family who knew we were going to try right away (yes, it was planned!), I have not told too many people here at work although I really start to show.

And I did get the "you don't lose any time comment" by one person. I guess she did not realize we would be trying right away.

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That's ridiculous. We found out 4 days after the wedding that we were pregnant. Nobody said BOO to us even though it was completely UNEXPECTED. Some people couldn't help the look in their faces of total shock but that's probably what I looked like too when I found out. When we lost the baby everone was also devastated. Don't worry about ignoramouses like that, enjoy your happy time...

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I was married July 05' pregnant February 06' not sure if thats too quick.