Any other moms feel like they are missing out?

At 11 weeks pp I went back to work full time the first few weeks I was OK getting dressed up and being around adults all day made me happy, but also appreciate the time with DD more. However now after being back to work for almost 5 weeks I am so depressed - I feel like I am missing so much already. Last week the nanny told me she was trying to eat her feet and I have yet to see it, today she sent me a video clip of her giggling.... I have spent 3 hours trying to get her to do it for me and nothing. I know so many moms go back to work and get by fine, I don't understand why its so hard for me.

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I am not in your shoes buts just wanted to give you some

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It hasn't gotten easier for me, even after a year of being back at work. In many weeks it's harder as he is so much more aware, and so upset when I leave. Not the answer that you may want to hear, but it's a constant battle for me as I am torn between work and DS.

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I never stopped feeling like I was missing something. I was working FT and commuting into the city, i was away 12 hours and he spent those 12 hours with my parents who just loved every second of him being there and would enjoy all the amazing things he was doing. I became a SAHM 1 week before DS turned 1 (just last week actually). But that's just me. There are many moms who successfully manage being FTWM and being amazing mommies too. Maybe you just need a little bit of time to adjust. Give it some time and maybe you'll feel better but if not, maybe you can makes some changes to make your schedule work better for you.

Also, maybe tell your nanny not to tell you about the new things she does. I did that with my parents - I wanted to feel that the 1st time i saw something was the 1st time he did it.

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I was like you happy at first then by one month it was another story, I felt worse everyd ay. I don't think it helped that my inlaws would chew my ear off for a half hour every day to tell me how great my son is and what he liked etc

It's so tough , Hang in there

as PP said, I wound up becoming a SAHM when DS was 10 months, I couldn't manage. I think you should give it more time and see if things become better for you !

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yes, its not easy.

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yeah i hear ya, which is why I told my daycare that I didn't want to know ANYTHING new.

I learned here on LIF...

If momma didn't see it then it really didn't happen!



So I told HER (the daycare lady) about her first tooth and then she says "I've been wondering if i would have to point it out to you" Ok to be fair I TOTALLY missed all her teeth coming in until they were Way past the breaking the gum point. haha

I've had AJ in three daycares, each one keeps the 'new stuff' to themselves. Less as she's gotten older and I'm more at ease of course. But the first steps, crawl, holding of spoon etc... all discoveries we made at home. I would like to believe that at home is where they all happened first

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Not being with them is really tough

Just remember why you are doing this and have confidence in what you are doing for your family.

Also, the highlight of my day is when my now 3 year old tells me about her day over dinner-the stories she tells and just the way she tells it