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Anyone decided not to do anything religious? Question....
DH feels strongly about not doing anything religious - I'm Jewish, his family is Catholic, but he doesnt practice... So, no bris, baby naming, christening, etc....
This is going to be hard for my family - DH is not happy with my family and how they have handled things in the past (They are very controlling) - but they are big with parties and celebrations...
My family was not involved with the shower, so I was thinking to keep the peace and so they can celebrate with their friends, we should just have a non-religion type of party after the baby is born. Has anyone else done this? DH still isnt happy with this, but I feel this would be the best way to keep the peace...
Anyone else go thru this?
When would be the best time to have this for the baby? I was thinking about a month after the baby is born? Maybe 2 months? What do you guys think?
TIA 
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bayla
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Re: Anyone decided not to do anything religious? Question....
coming from an interfaith marriage myself, i think its perfectly acceptable to just have a non religous party for the baby,
we are raising our son jweish, so will be having a bris, but i am keeping it very low key, just mine and DH parents, my parents, our siblings and my grandparents. Then my MIL (whos catholic) and my step mom are going to invite their family over another day to "meet" the baby, i decided not to have one big party b/c the bris is 8 days after the birth and i dont want to deal with such a large crowd that soon after
also i think 1-2 months is perfect timing
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Eleanor
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Re: Anyone decided not to do anything religious? Question....
we had a non-religious party. No one said anything to us, but we didn't have a religious wedding either, so I think people were used to it.
Let me know if you have any questions
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Secret4Now
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In due time. No pun intended.
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Re: Anyone decided not to do anything religious? Question....
Maybe you can get someone like Pastor April to do some sort of nonsectarian welcoming, naming or blessing.
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| Posted 3/18/07 10:22 PM |
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Re: Anyone decided not to do anything religious? Question....
Posted by Eleanor
we had a non-religious party. No one said anything to us, but we didn't have a religious wedding either, so I think people were used to it.
Let me know if you have any questions
thanks - I may need you for support every now and then!
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Tah-wee-ZAH
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Re: Anyone decided not to do anything religious? Question....
Posted by Eleanor
we had a non-religious party. No one said anything to us, but we didn't have a religious wedding either, so I think people were used to it.
Let me know if you have any questions
Same here. We are interfaith, and got married by our Unitarian Minister (we attend Unitarian Services) at the hall. My extended family is still very much practicing Catholic. DH's family is Jewish but both of his sisters married non-Jews and they do not practice at all. I've been very vocal to my family from the beginning of our choices and I refused to be like some of my cousins. They do not go to church yet they caved to the pressure, had the big church wedding, then the baptism in order to shut their parents up. But where do you stop and draw the line? Now their kids are making communion and confirmation and I think it's very hypocritical. I'm sure my family is talking about our choice but I really don't care. This is what is "true" for us.
It's really important that you and DH talk this out and make sure you both agree on the subject. When it comes up to family and friends stay strong.
We are planning a party in the summer, at home, and calling it a "welcoming" party for the babies. It will be just like any other event w/o a religious ceremony before.
Good luck
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twicethefun
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Re: Anyone decided not to do anything religious? Question....
Depending on how many people I might wait until 2 months. YOu will be less concerned about germs then and you will be feeling good, hopefully.
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Re: Anyone decided not to do anything religious? Question....
We aren't doing anything religious that I know of. I know that sounds like a weird answer, but I left this up to my DH. He is Catholic and for "big" things, it is important to him. I was never baptized because my parents wanted my sister and I to choose what religion we wanted to be and not have religion forced on us.
I told DH if he wanted DS to be baptized or anything, he was in charge, I have no problem with it, but he has to handle all of the details. I respect that it is important to my husband.
But I am 33.5 weeks and I have heard NOTHING about DH planning anything, so I am assuming if we have a party, DS will be about 4.
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Re: Anyone decided not to do anything religious? Question....
We are having a spiritual baptismal, rather than a Christening or religious baptismal. ILs do not know yet, but I am sure the pending war that will stem from it will be a topic of many a post for me in the future
Neither DH or I are religious (well, I am in a non-traditional way, but most people see me as "non-religious.") I have defended it my whole life, and even caved and got married in his church. I am not caving on this one.
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Re: Anyone decided not to do anything religious? Question....
We are not doing anything religious for the baby either.
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