are favors "expected" or necessary at a baby shower?

so, after believing mom and I had come to an agreement (donation to St. Judes and favor of her choice given saying that at shower) mom said she didn't order one b/c I said I didn't want one.

ok.

so now, my shower is in 5 days. I can totally pull off a favor in that time if you think I need to.

please direct me ladies. I don't want anyone rolling their eyes even more at the "event" this is becoming.

TIA

I am doing the donation, and the "favor" was going to say that a donation was made on the guests behalf to st. judes.

so there would be a donation and something for the guest to take home.

sorry for the confusion.

Message edited 8/24/2009 11:37:22 AM.

Re: are favors "expected" or necessary at a baby shower?

Did you do the donation???

Re: are favors "expected" or necessary at a baby shower?

I hate favors as a general rule, but people expect them.

Chocolate is always a quick and easy solution.

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I guess they are expected..however IF you do a favor make is something edible. As a guest I would be just as happy seeing that money go towards a donation, not sure if other guests would feel the same way.

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I think a donation is more then enough and is not stressful on you then you can just type a little something up.

Re: are favors "expected" or necessary at a baby shower?

I would just do the donation. Favors are usually a waste of money, IMHO. I would MUCH rather see the money go somewhere it is needed!

Re: are favors "expected" or necessary at a baby shower?

I like the idea of a donation and I'd type a little something up letting people know that's what you've done. I don't think anything else is necessary, just put some Hershey's kisses on the table, everyone will be happy

Re: are favors "expected" or necessary at a baby shower?

I think the donation is fine.

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Posted by eroxgirl

I hate favors as a general rule, but people expect them.

Chocolate is always a quick and easy solution.

Re: are favors "expected" or necessary at a baby shower?

Donation is enough. If you really feel like some people will have an issue with not getting anything, bake some cookies and bag them with a ribbon. Everyone loves baked goods! Cheap and easy.

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When i did my sister shower last year. We bought and made favors. Well i totally forgot them at home adn didnt have enought time to run back and get them. So i said screw it.

I must have been asked several times where are the favors

I personally dont think they are a must

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im a little confused. Were you doing the donation and a favor and both were not done?

If you are doing a donation, then I dont think its necessary to give a favor as well.
BUT if there is no donation then do something quick and simple like bake some cookies and wrap them or wrap up some hershey kisses or other candy

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hmmm...

what if I did a little sign at each table that said "Kisses from ST. JUDE in appreciation of your donation" and stuck it in a bowl of hershey kisses??? do you think that would be ok?

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I did a donation to A Mother's Kiss. It's exactly like St. Jude but it's a local charity in L.I.

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For my shower my sisters just bought little favor boxes at Michaels and put M&Ms in them...it was inexpensive, quick but cute.

Re: are favors "expected" or necessary at a baby shower?

I would say the donation with a little edible something is perfect. We did that for our wedding We did a donation to the cancer society and then a box of chocolates.

Re: are favors "expected" or necessary at a baby shower?

I generally dont like favors, but people do expect them. For my shower, I did a donation to st jude's as well. they sent us cards to give out as favors for each table setting. however, if you're short on time, you could always print out a sign that says a donation was made in honor of ...., frame the print out in 5x7 frame, and put it somewhere noticeable, or one per table. guests dont have to take home something, IMO, they just need to know the donation was made in lieu of traditional favors.

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since you are doing the donation, I would do something edible & attach a card saying a donation was made in their honor.

We did this for our wedding & everyone thought it was a great way to go. I did hershey kisses & dove chocolate.

Re: are favors "expected" or necessary at a baby shower?

I'm a goodie bag/favor lover but I don't I don't think they are necessary. However, if I give, I've always given something edible. My friends/family have started to look forward to what I give.