Re: Are you anal about DC's nap time?

If I know there is something going on, I will try to work his naps around it. I have had times when he wouldn't let me play with his naps and he then knocks out right when we are supposed to leave - in this case I let him sleep and arrive late. Going to a party with an overtired cranky toddler is no fun for me or anyone else.

I tend to be a play it by ear person.

I wouldn't get upset at someone for missing the party though, kids are unpredictable.

Re: Are you anal about DC's nap time?

If I am home, I try to be a stickler (2 hour wake time) but if I have plans,I would never not go somewhere b/c of a nap but that's just me. DS will sleep anywhere, he might not be the best napper but he will sleep anywhere so I would just adjust accordingly

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I am pretty consistent with Jack's nap schedule during the week. We have SO many parties on the weekends that I really can't follow through with it.

I will say that I hated when we had two parties during his naptime two days in a row, and if it wasn't THAT important then one of us would stay behind and just meet the other one there. Or we would leave early for the party and hope he got a catnap in the car.

ETA: I will say one thing, it's really hard to say what someone else would do. I know that for Jack, if he wasn't in bed by 6:30 every night he would be up ALL NIGHT LONG. Maybe their daughter is like that with naps?

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Re: Are you anal about DC's nap time?

I don't skip things for nap time...my DS will sleep in his stroller, carseat or on me if he's tired. But I can see how if a kid isn't that easy how it could become a nightmare to have them miss their naptime.

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I am. The way I see it is what fun will they have if they take an un-napped baby to a party? She would probably be miserable and so will they! My kids only nap until around 12 noon currently so it doesn't preclude us from doing a lot...

Re: Are you anal about DC's nap time?

No, she pretty much goes with the flow. As long as she gets a 1/2 hour in here and there she's good to go. If we're home she will take a good 2 hour nap, but she's okay if she doesn't (which is usually on the weekends since we're out and about, she just naps in the car to/from places).

Re: Are you anal about DC's nap time?

Nope, not at all. If we are home she starts to rub her eyes, I put her in the crib and she goes to sleep. If we go out she passes out in the car.

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Re: Are you anal about DC's nap time?

em has no set nap time, no set eating time - we go by her cues...if she's tired - she sleeps.

i'm sorry you're dealing with this!

Re: Are you anal about DC's nap time?

Posted by pickles16

I'm a crazy schedule stickler...my husband calls me the "sleep nazi" BUT that being said, if it were a birthday party, I would TOTALLY work her naps around it so we would make it...and that's alot coming from me

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Re: Are you anal about DC's nap time?

I'm flexible when it comes to the weekends and parties. I don't see why they wouldn't come a little late?

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no.

Re: Are you anal about DC's nap time?

Yes. Well, not as much anymore, but when Lily was younger we were very strict about her nap and bedtimes. Not because we were trying to be annoying, but because that's what she needed. She was a child who thrived on a schedule, so we accommodated her.
There were times when we showed up late or left early because of it, but that was a sacrifice we were willing to make.
Every child is different, and I would never get upset with someone for something like that.

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I am not a stickler at all, but I think that's because DS is an easy baby/toddler. He will nap in the car and he's not all that bad if he misses his nap by a few hours.

If it was for a regular GTG, I'd deal or RSVP no, but for a special event like a birthday party I would just try to put him down for an earlier nap and hope for the best. What is the worst that happens, they have to leave early b/c the baby is cranky?

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I am pretty anal about DS's naptime and try my best to stick to it...especially when he was younger but I never decline a party or keep DS home because of naptime. In my opinion it has to be somewhat flexible which means I needs to just work around him missing the nap by either changing the time or getting him to bed earlier that night.

This weekend coming up we have 2 communions (Sat & Sun) and that means my 3 year old will not nap at all...so he will be going to bed earlier Friday, Sat & Sun to hopefully help him out.

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At this point, not so much since DS is dropping his nap some days anyway, and he takes it later and later. But he's 2.5. When he was younger, I was absolutely anal about the schedule, and I never thought I would be that kind of parent. Figured we would be very go with the flow. Problem is, DS is not such a go with the flow child and really needs his schedule. If he missed his nap, sometimes that messed up his nightime sleep too, so we were all in for a couple of miserable days.

I might make an exception for a birthday party, but other events, no, not if I could help it. I'm sure they would really like to come, but the truth is some kids just get awful if they don't get their naps, and if this child is down to one nap a day, that might be it.

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DD thrives on a schedule. she still does now at almost 4. I am very strict with her bedtime. Its 7:30, no questions asked. I think Ive only put her to bed late like 4 times ever. BUT, that is because she is a WRECK without her sleep. Keeping her out last bedtime screws her up for DAYS afterwards, so its just not worth it to me.

She just stopped napping a few mths ago but up until then I was pretty nuerotic with her naps too. BUT, if it was a very close friends DC's bday - I would make some sort of exception. I would probably have DD nap and then show up to the party late. Bringing her wuthout a nap at all, even with entertainment there she would be unpleasent and it would ruin the whole party for her and I.

Some kids can go without a nap and function fine. other children cannot and if they do the price to pay is BIG. DD is one of those kids so I can sort of understand where your friend is coming from. I think she should let her DD nap, and then come a little late.

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I used to be a little nuts with his naps but that was only because he has always been a terrible napper! So if he was sleeping I would opt to be late instead of disturbing him but I would never leave him home to go to a kids party. Now he goes everywhere!

Re: Are you anal about DC's nap time?

We're pretty anal that he get A nap but we always work it around things bc he has about a 2hr window in which we can put him down. For example, DS' nap time is 1pm. If we were going to a party 5 minutes away like in your case, I'd probably put him down at 11:30 and let him sleep until 1:30 and just be a little late. For longer trips, we just have him nap in the car. We've never missed something entirely for a nap.

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Yeah, I am pretty anal about it, but it is early -- 10-12:30, so it doesn't interfere with parties or anything of the like. My sister is getting married in 2 weeks, though (small 2nd wedding), and it is at 12, so she will be going down earlier and woken up earlier. She is the flower girl and would be a nightmare without even a little nap.

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I'm not anal about the time of DS's naps, just as long as he takes them and they're for a certain duration. He can nap just about anywhere so I'd bring him and let him nap in my arms if need be.

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i too know a few people like this, and i find it very annoying (sorry if i'm insulting anyone). I've actually drifted away with those friends, because trying to schedule things with them is way too much work.

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