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spooks
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Attending a funeral?
DH's good friend's dad passed away. I'm Jewish. My mom said I can go to the service and wake, but not the cemetery. ANyone know if that's right? Should I go to the service?
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headoverheels
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Re: Attending a funeral?
i've never heard of that... why couldn't you go to the cemetary?
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| Posted 9/7/09 9:44 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: Attending a funeral?
okay i just googled it...
this is what i got.
"Jewish Law does not forbid pregnant women from attending a funeral or visiting a cemetery.
However, many Jews believe pregnant women should not visit the cemetery due to superstition or, more specifically, belief in the evil eye (ayin hara). The basic premise of the evil eye: if we are happy, then evil spirits will harm us to change us from happy to unhappy. People who believe in the evil eye will avoid "tempting the evil eye." "
so if you're superstitious, don't go. if you think it's a load of crap  then i would absolutely go to support your DH's friend.
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| Posted 9/7/09 9:45 AM |
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If you are Jewish, that is true. If not, I never heard of that.
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| Posted 9/7/09 9:47 AM |
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Posted by headoverheels
okay i just googled it...
this is what i got.
"Jewish Law does not forbid pregnant women from attending a funeral or visiting a cemetery.
However, many Jews believe pregnant women should not visit the cemetery due to superstition or, more specifically, belief in the evil eye (ayin hara). The basic premise of the evil eye: if we are happy, then evil spirits will harm us to change us from happy to unhappy. People who believe in the evil eye will avoid "tempting the evil eye." "
so if you're superstitious, don't go. if you think it's a load of crap then i would absolutely go to support your DH's friend.
Wow, what site was that LB? I am just going off what I was told, not that I would listen or anything.
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| Posted 9/7/09 9:48 AM |
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headoverheels
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Re: Attending a funeral?
Posted by munchkinfacemama
Posted by headoverheels
okay i just googled it...
this is what i got.
"Jewish Law does not forbid pregnant women from attending a funeral or visiting a cemetery.
However, many Jews believe pregnant women should not visit the cemetery due to superstition or, more specifically, belief in the evil eye (ayin hara). The basic premise of the evil eye: if we are happy, then evil spirits will harm us to change us from happy to unhappy. People who believe in the evil eye will avoid "tempting the evil eye." "
so if you're superstitious, don't go. if you think it's a load of crap then i would absolutely go to support your DH's friend.
Wow, what site was that LB? I am just going off what I was told, not that I would listen or anything.
here is the LINK
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headoverheels
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Re: Attending a funeral?
Posted by munchkinfacemama
I am just going off what I was told, not that I would listen or anything.
you know what's funny, i am Jewish too (not practicing) and no one ever told me that!
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| Posted 9/7/09 9:52 AM |
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spooks
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Re: Attending a funeral?
Thanks - that's interesting. Not sure what I'll do. Thing is I didn't think about it and then yesterday when I started to - I was thinking it might be weird for me to be there. Then I spoke to my mom:) and of course she's into all that. I will probly go though.
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mommyIam
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Re: Attending a funeral?
I've also been told I can't visit cemeteries while pregnant.
Superstition or not, I would be afraid I might make some people uncomfortable if they are expecting me not to be there.
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| Posted 9/7/09 10:17 AM |
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LSP2005
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Re: Attending a funeral?
First I am sorry about your friends' father. My own grandma passed in June and I did exactly as your mom said - I went to the chapel and sat shivah but I did not go to the cemetery.
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| Posted 9/7/09 10:19 AM |
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Re: Attending a funeral?
Posted by momytobein2010
I've also been told I can't visit cemeteries while pregnant.
Superstition or not, I would be afraid I might make some people uncomfortable if they are expecting me not to be there.
I was told the same thing. We had to postpone an unveiling b/c my SIL was pregnant.
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| Posted 9/7/09 10:21 AM |
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Posted by headoverheels
Posted by munchkinfacemama
I am just going off what I was told, not that I would listen or anything.
you know what's funny, i am Jewish too (not practicing) and no one ever told me that!
I heard it from someone in my family, but my mom was preggo with me for my grandfather's unveiling and she went, which is why I would never think twice about going. I am not superstitious at all! 
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| Posted 9/7/09 10:22 AM |
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Posted by headoverheels
Posted by munchkinfacemama
Posted by headoverheels
okay i just googled it...
this is what i got.
"Jewish Law does not forbid pregnant women from attending a funeral or visiting a cemetery.
However, many Jews believe pregnant women should not visit the cemetery due to superstition or, more specifically, belief in the evil eye (ayin hara). The basic premise of the evil eye: if we are happy, then evil spirits will harm us to change us from happy to unhappy. People who believe in the evil eye will avoid "tempting the evil eye." "
so if you're superstitious, don't go. if you think it's a load of crap then i would absolutely go to support your DH's friend.
Wow, what site was that LB? I am just going off what I was told, not that I would listen or anything.
here is the LINK
Thanks! Very interesting. I just wonder if the rabbi is orthodox, conservative or reform, because each sect has their own way of looking at things.
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| Posted 9/7/09 10:25 AM |
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kabo0831
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Re: Attending a funeral?
well i just went to a wake and in an ital tradition i was allow near the casket.
HTH
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MrsR
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Re: Attending a funeral?
My grandmother passed while I was preggo with my DD. Of course there was NO WAY I wasn't going to the cemetary. The Rabbi that preformed the service took me aside and said some special prayers for me.
Also I left a bowl of water outside my front door and washed my hands anytime I came home from the cemetary/shiva - just to be sure!
Message edited 9/7/2009 11:07:01 AM.
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| Posted 9/7/09 11:05 AM |
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Ian&EmmesMommy23
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Re: Attending a funeral?
Jewish pregnant women are not supposed to attend any funeral type service where there is a body. So technically a wake would be out too i'd think.
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| Posted 9/7/09 11:15 AM |
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