Babysitter woes... again. Long vent

I've been trying to get my blood pressure under control for a while now and I'm *almost* calm, but I think I still need to vent.

I called my sitter at 3:30. She wasn't home. Her DH answered the phone and I hear DD SCREAMING in the background. Her DH says that DD just woke up but he didn't know why she was crying. I told him that it was 3:30, she's probably hungry because she usually eats at that time every day. He said okay, let me go make her a bottle.. and we hang up.

10 minutes later the babysitter calls me back and I can still hear DD wimpering in the background. I asked the babysitter if DD was eating and she said not really, I think she's tired.



I said (your DH) told me 10 minutes ago that she just woke up. She said oh, she woke up half an hour ago. But she's not really taking her bottle. I don't know what's wrong with her. And then I hear her DH say to her in the background that he wasn't going to feed DD until he spoke to her first.

So I asked her how DD was in the morning, because when I called in the morning DD was asleep and the babysitter told me that she would wake her at 11:30 if she didn't wake up before then (that would have been a 3 hour nap so I was okay with waking her).

The babysitter told me that DD woke up at 10:30.

Again

So I said no she didn't, I didn't call you until after 10:30. And I checked my phone here at work to see what time I called to be sure - my super high-tech office phone that stores the last 100 numbers dialed - and told her nope, called you at 11:00, she was sleeping, this is what you said, etc. So the babysitter told me oh, she must have woken up right after that. So I said okay, that's fine, she seems okay now(DD was no longer crying). I'll talk to you tomorrow

I hang up with the babysitter and I'm annoyed so I call DH to tell him the conversation, but while I'm on the phone with him the babysitter called me back to say NO, you called me at 10:15.

W T F

I kept my cool and just said really? Maybe I went back to far (in my phone) let me check again... nope, says here 10:58 and that we spoke for 2.5 minutes. But I said it's no big deal, she's okay now and that's all that matters. And we hung up.

Am I wrong for being ABSOLUTELY FURIOUS that this grown woman had the audacity to call me back to say I called her at a different time? She seems to get all bent out of shape when I question her - but is that not my responsibilty as a parent to question the person caring for my child? Should I not question her more thoroughly when I get conflicting information? Am I wrong here?

I have an appointment with a daycare center on Monday.

If you're still here, thanks for reading.

Re: Babysitter woes... again. Long vent

Re: Babysitter woes... again. Long vent

She works for you! I would be ******. I was a babysitter for many years and would never speak to someone like that. She is watching your child not a plant. FIND SOMEONE ELSE

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Re: Babysitter woes... again. Long vent

Yeah, something seems a little off here...is this the first issue you've had with her? Are you comfortable with her DH being with the baby too?

And I agree with Crissy, where the heck was she at 3:30?!? And if her DH was home, and she was running an errand, couldn't HE have gone?

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Wow that is completely unacceptable. I can't believe she called you back to tell you what time you had called earlier!

I think you should ask her to start writing things down like what time she falls asleep, wakes up, and eats. My mom used to do this when she watched DS. I would call to check in, and she'd just check her notes.

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Who does she thinks she is? I would get someone else.

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Is her DH supposed to be taking care of your DD also?

My own opinion - I would find a new daycare for your daughter as soon as possible!

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Definitley time to tell her "She's Fired".
I babysit for a family and would NEVER EVER talk to them like that..EVER.
So disrespectful!
Who Does that??

I agree with the others? Where was she at 3:30? Why was her DH watching your DC?

I'd be so pizzed, I'd be calling in sick tomorrow just so I wouldn't have to bring her to the sitter.
I'm sorry. I know easier said than done, but, get her out of there.

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Unless you know the DH very well, I would FLIP!!! Why is the babysitter not at home???? And Why Is her DH watching your baby???? I am sorry, I would be very uncomfortable. I would remove the baby immediately, take a weeks vacation and find a new daycare or sitter.

Good Luck!

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Re: Babysitter woes... again. Long vent

Posted by Tine73

Posted by jellybean1420

I called my sitter at 3:30. She wasn't home.

This alone would bother me. Where was she????

Seriously! Get rid of her!! Your DD deserves better!!!

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Thank you all for your responses and for the support.

This is not my first issue with the babysitter. We had a HUUUUGE fight about a month ago and after it was resolved I chalked it up to miscomunication between us. But the truth is that I just don't like this woman. I don't like the way she speaks to me (yesterday morning she looked at DD and said to me "this is how you dress your daughter?!" - she was wearing a short sleeved cotton shirt and cotton pants - nothing wrong with what she had on). I can't deal with the criticism. My personality and hers just don't mesh well because she's a bully by nature and bosses her whole family around, and I'm that scrawny kid who always stood up to the bully just because I refuse to be pushed around.

I'm torn because DD really likes her and she's a friend of my mom. And she is always buying things for DD which makes me feel guilty, but I know that gifts shouldn't compensate for how I feel about her. I know she'll never harm DD but at the same time, she doesn't care for her the way I would. Her style is different from mine -- she's laid back and I'm not. Which is okay, except that it doesn't work for me (does that make any sense?). I need structure and I want DD to follow the structure that I'm comfortable with. We are definitely going to check out that other place on Monday. Hopefully we'll like it.

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You already know what you need to do. She can be great, but she doesn't mesh with you and you aren't comfortable with her. That's all- and that's enough.

Good luck finding a daycare for DD.

Re: Babysitter woes... again. Long vent

Rebecca.. get rid of her. and then smack her......

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Posted by Theresa05

Rebecca.. get rid of her. and then smack her......

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Doesn't sound like a good situation. I would look for someone else.

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oops! Thought this post was new.

Message edited 8/21/2008 12:13:16 PM.