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Juliet
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Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
There is no real purpose of this post except to vent about. My mom was talking to my aunt and she relayed a story. It seems that my cousin's wife, who is very relaxed in her parenting, let their 7 month old baby lay on their front porch without so much as a blanket under her while she watered plants and other things outside. This is the same woman who worked in daycare for years and "doesn't hear baby's cries anymore"
I just don't understand people...
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dandr10199
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
JMHO here but that is a "moron Parent" and not a "laid back or non-chalant parent".
I am laid back with nap times, bed times, play dates, etc.
I am a little more high strung about her safety (she is still in a crib and not a toddler bed) and what she eats (all organic unless I cannot control the situation i.e.: a party, restaurant, someone else's home, etc.).
So as a "laid back mom" no offense but she is just a moron. 
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
I honestly don't see the big deal. Sorry.
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| Posted 6/5/08 2:59 PM |
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
Posted by 5ofClubs
I honestly don't see the big deal. Sorry.
I think she means that her cousin's DD is sleeping outside on cement without a blanket or anything and does not respond to her DD crying. At least that is what I thought the OP meant. That is why i called her cousin a moron. I reserve the right to change my mind if that is not what the OP meant.
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| Posted 6/5/08 3:02 PM |
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
Last summer Cailen went to a week long folk festival At almost four months old. He was in grass all the time!!! Eta I would never put him on cement though!!!!
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
Posted by dandr10199
Posted by 5ofClubs
I honestly don't see the big deal. Sorry.
I think she means that her cousin's DD is sleeping outside on cement without a blanket or anything and does not respond to her DD crying. At least that is what I thought the OP meant. That is why i called her cousin a moron. I reserve the right to change my mind if that is not what the OP meant.
I think that I would need more information before passing judgment on this parent. The OP didn't give a lot of details, and a PP filled in a lot of what she thought it could be.
She could have been neglecting DC or not, I don't think think there is enough info.
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Last summer Cailen went to a week long folk festival At almost four months old. He was in grass all the time!!!
Grass...not cement. Do I have this whole thing messed up??? OK, now I feel like I am loosing my mind.
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
hmmmmm, front porch as in wooden coverd, my fantasy type front porch? With rocking chairs and lemonade?
Because then that' OK to me.
But a blanket would be nice.
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dandr10199
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
Posted by KateDevine
She could have been neglecting DC or not, I don't think think there is enough info.
Agreed. Changing mind then...
Ok, so she is NOT a moron IMHO until I have more of the facts.
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
Posted by dandr10199
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Last summer Cailen went to a week long folk festival At almost four months old. He was in grass all the time!!!
Grass...not cement. Do I have this whole thing messed up??? OK, now I feel like I am loosing my mind.
I edited to say I wouldn't lay him on cement but now I'm confused too. Maybe there are other things she is doing that's iffy?
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
Posted by 5ofClubs
I honestly don't see the big deal. Sorry.
Me neither. What's so "moronic" about it?
At 7 months, DS was crawling all over the place and even if I put him on a blanket, he wouldn't have stayed on it.
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
Yeah we need more facts please 
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
Posted by dandr10199
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She could have been neglecting DC or not, I don't think think there is enough info.
Agreed. Changing mind then...
Ok, so she is NOT a moron IMHO until I have more of the facts.
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Juliet
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
Okay, I will clear it up. Cousin's wife was outside tending to her plants. Instead of lay her DD on a blanket on the porch or putting her in a bouncy chair or something, she laid her directly on the wooden porch.
As far as not hearing crying, that is just in general. Most of us would go to our DC when they are crying, she just lets the baby sit and cry (and not an annoying cry for attention, a real cry that something is bothering her).
Oh yeah, when this baby was an infant, she left her sleeping in a swing downstairs and she went upstairs to sleep.
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
OK. Now I can say she is a moron
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
Posted by Juliet
Okay, I will clear it up. Cousin's wife was outside tending to her plants. Instead of lay her DD on a blanket on the porch or putting her in a bouncy chair or something, she laid her directly on the wooden porch.
Sorry, still don't see anything wrong with this.
As for the other stuff...different strokes.
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
Posted by lipglossjunky73
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Posted by lipglossjunky73
Last summer Cailen went to a week long folk festival At almost four months old. He was in grass all the time!!!
Grass...not cement. Do I have this whole thing messed up??? OK, now I feel like I am loosing my mind.
I edited to say I wouldn't lay him on cement but now I'm confused too. Maybe there are other things she is doing that's iffy?
This is what I am saying. I am confused???
It's pretty Black and white to me...
having your DC sleep on cement = moron. Not something you would call CPS for, just a parent being a moron, KWIM?
Having your DC sleep/roll/crawl/walk/run/play soccer/ play baseball/ golf./ any other sport ON Grass, a wood deck (that is powerwashed, sanded, weatherproofed, etc), or a hard wood floor = a normal parent.
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
Posted by pmpkn087
Posted by Juliet
Okay, I will clear it up. Cousin's wife was outside tending to her plants. Instead of lay her DD on a blanket on the porch or putting her in a bouncy chair or something, she laid her directly on the wooden porch.
Sorry, still don't see anything wrong with this.
As for the other stuff...different strokes.
Yeah, I agree.
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Juliet
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
Posted by pmpkn087
Posted by Juliet
Okay, I will clear it up. Cousin's wife was outside tending to her plants. Instead of lay her DD on a blanket on the porch or putting her in a bouncy chair or something, she laid her directly on the wooden porch.
Sorry, still don't see anything wrong with this.
As for the other stuff...different strokes.
I know that it isn't huge, but wouldn't you worry about splinters with a wooden deck?
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
Posted by Juliet
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Posted by Juliet
Okay, I will clear it up. Cousin's wife was outside tending to her plants. Instead of lay her DD on a blanket on the porch or putting her in a bouncy chair or something, she laid her directly on the wooden porch.
Sorry, still don't see anything wrong with this.
As for the other stuff...different strokes.
I know that it isn't huge, but wouldn't you worry about splinters with a wooden deck?
Yes a wood deck would worry me.
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
Posted by Juliet
Okay, I will clear it up. Cousin's wife was outside tending to her plants. Instead of lay her DD on a blanket on the porch or putting her in a bouncy chair or something, she laid her directly on the wooden porch.
As far as not hearing crying, that is just in general. Most of us would go to our DC when they are crying, she just lets the baby sit and cry (and not an annoying cry for attention, a real cry that something is bothering her).
Oh yeah, when this baby was an infant, she left her sleeping in a swing downstairs and she went upstairs to sleep.
Sorry, but I still don't see what the big deal is. There's no harm laying the baby on the porch, is there? Especially if it's wooden. When Alex was 7 months old I'd let her explore to her hearts content on most surfaces, and considering most of our house is wood flooring, I really don't see the difference.
And PLENTY of times when Alex was napping in her swing downstairs, I would be doing something upstairs, and I'd imagine in my sleep deprived state, I probably napped as well.
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dandr10199
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
I would not worry too much about splinters...but then again I am a laid back mom.
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
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Okay, I will clear it up. Cousin's wife was outside tending to her plants. Instead of lay her DD on a blanket on the porch or putting her in a bouncy chair or something, she laid her directly on the wooden porch.
Sorry, still don't see anything wrong with this.
As for the other stuff...different strokes.
I know that it isn't huge, but wouldn't you worry about splinters with a wooden deck?
Nah. If he's going to get it, he'll get it. You should see my kid...he is a walking black and blue. He's aaaaallll over the place and at 7 months, he was crawling all over...He wouldn't sit in the bouncey or a pack and play or anything. So, if he was happy to hang out on the porch, then fine with me.
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
Posted by Bxgell2
Posted by Juliet
Okay, I will clear it up. Cousin's wife was outside tending to her plants. Instead of lay her DD on a blanket on the porch or putting her in a bouncy chair or something, she laid her directly on the wooden porch.
As far as not hearing crying, that is just in general. Most of us would go to our DC when they are crying, she just lets the baby sit and cry (and not an annoying cry for attention, a real cry that something is bothering her).
Oh yeah, when this baby was an infant, she left her sleeping in a swing downstairs and she went upstairs to sleep.
Sorry, but I still don't see what the big deal is. There's no harm laying the baby on the porch, is there? Especially if it's wooden. When Alex was 7 months old I'd let her explore to her hearts content on most surfaces, and considering most of our house is wood flooring, I really don't see the difference.
And PLENTY of times when Alex was napping in her swing downstairs, I would be doing something upstairs, and I'd imagine in my sleep deprived state, I probably napped as well.
A wood deck is a little different then wood floors. Wood floors are smooth. If Andrew was to crawl around on our wood deck he would def get hurt from splinters.
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dandr10199
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Re: Nonchalant Parents-just a vent
and to quote myself....
Posted by dandr10199
It's pretty Black and white to me...
having your DC sleep on cement = moron. Not something you would call CPS for, just a parent being a moron, KWIM?
Having your DC sleep/roll/crawl/walk/run/play soccer/ play baseball/ golf./ any other sport ON Grass, a wood deck (that is powerwashed, sanded, weatherproofed, etc), or a hard wood floor = a normal parent.
So, my final assessment is that she is NOT a moron, just a parent who is letting her kid hang out on a wooden deck and her kid fell asleep while exploring.
Thats my final answer and I'm sticking to it!
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