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ChilisWife
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Biting and hitting at daycare...
So apparently my son is "very aggressive" at daycare, knocks kids down, hits them, and bites. It usually happens when they are fighting over a toy. I am so tired of hearing these reports because I don't know what to do anymore. When he does it at home, I disclipline him, say "no" sternly, and try to punish him, but it just seems like he doesn't really understand (he is 16 months old). I don't want him hurting anyone at daycare, and I don't want him kicked out either! Did anyone experience this and if so, any suggestions? I know there were some posts recently about kids doing this but of course I cannot find them now!
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Posted 4/9/08 7:49 PM  |
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Re: Biting and hitting at daycare...
Can you suggest having some shadow him??
Are they redirecting him to a different activity???
Maybe he is bored and needs to be doing something a little more stimulating?
Can they move him with a little bit older group???
IMO- biting can often be prevented by a shadow, redirection, and stimulating activities
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| Posted 4/9/08 7:50 PM |
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ChilisWife
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Re: Biting and hitting at daycare...
they say that when he hits or bites, they lead him away from the other kids to sit by himself
actually now that you mention it, he does get bored VERY easily and needs constant stimulation - daycare has suggested moving him to an upper level room with 18-24 month olds but I am afraid he won't be able to keep up because he can't talk yet
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| Posted 4/9/08 7:56 PM |
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Re: Biting and hitting at daycare...
oh boy i have i been there. hannah was suspended due to biting and she is 22 mos old. i ended up taking her out of the daycare.
1st: they need to take down some information-is it only happening when someone takes a toy? before snack? when hes tired etc? is he frustrated due to speech issues? these are some examples of questions.
2nd: are they consistent with their consequence? not being so will give your dc mixed messages.
3rd: ask them if they can get duplicates of favorite or popular toys. at that age they really dont understand the concept of sharing. yes, they are supposed to learn, but the daycare should be proactive and manipulate the environment to prevent biting.
4th: if they know he is a biter, they need to keep a closer eye on him.
a shadow is a great idea.
5th and most importantly: biting at this age is developmentally appropriate. it is going to happen. they should keep all information confidential.
feel free to fm me. i just went through this with hannah. she is doing much better in her new place.
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| Posted 4/9/08 8:05 PM |
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ChilisWife
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Re: Biting and hitting at daycare...
thanks for the info.....
I suspect it has something to do with him not being able to speak yet
I will ask them some questions tomorrow
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| Posted 4/9/08 8:26 PM |
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Re: Biting and hitting at daycare...
Posted by Princessmaris
Can you suggest having some shadow him??
Are they redirecting him to a different activity???
Maybe he is bored and needs to be doing something a little more stimulating?
Can they move him with a little bit older group???
IMO- biting can often be prevented by a shadow, redirection, and stimulating activities
ITA with all of this! They shouldn't make him sit by himself, however, the shadow can redirect him to another activity as soon as they see he's going to start to be aggressive. I think Shadow's help out a lot.
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| Posted 4/9/08 10:14 PM |
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Stacey1403
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Re: Biting and hitting at daycare...
Posted by Princessmaris
Can you suggest having some shadow him??
Are they redirecting him to a different activity???
Maybe he is bored and needs to be doing something a little more stimulating?
Can they move him with a little bit older group???
IMO- biting can often be prevented by a shadow, redirection, and stimulating activities
ITA
Biting at his age is a normal reaction to not being able to communicate yet. The teachers at his day care should be well aware of this.
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| Posted 4/9/08 10:30 PM |
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