Body parts and privates....

So Bella is obsessed with boobies and butts. She knows it's a bit taboo and lowers her voice a little bit and looks and me devilishly. Once in awhile she is touching, pressing, leaning on, and telling me she loves my boobies and grabs her butt and laughs. I grew up in a house that anything "private" was NEVER talked about.

I don't want to do that, so I deflect Bella when she gets giggly about thinking boobies and butts are in fact taboo. I tell her that everyone has boobies. That you aren't supposed to let anyone touch them really or be silly about it and touch others. DH gets annoyed when I do and tells me I shouldn't be talking freely with her. When Bella says I have boobies and mommy has boobies he tells me the fact that she is saying that is wrong.

What should you be telling an almost 3 year old? I never want her to be ashamed, but is there harm in being open?

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I think it should be talked about lightly and carefree, with the warning of no one being allowed to look at them or touch them.

then I feel if God forbid she ever had something to tell, it would come out more carefree then if it was taboo.

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Emily talks about boobies and butts openly.....

I don't know, I just think it's a different generation then what we grew up in.....I actually like that she is open with us about it. I remember being so embarassed and even ashamed to discuss them with my mom growing up, I'd like her to be able to discuss anything with me...

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I grew up in a similar household as yours - talking about body parts, sex, anything like that was SOOO taboo. My mom would just buy me books to read about puberty and sex and whenever she tried to broach the topic with me, HOLY uncomfortable!

So, like you, my mission is to raise Alex in an open environment. Of course there are limits to what *I'M* comfortable with, but even at this age, I still undress in front of Alex, will shower in front of her, etc.

And as much as it is discomforting to DH, I talk about these things freely with her so she understands there is no shame in being a woman and all the parts that come with it. She's somewhat obsessed with my boobs too, and I don't make a big deal out of it. If she tries to touch me, I tell her that they are mommy's boobies, and they are private, and we don't touch other people's private parts.

She knows all of her bodily parts by name, and yes, has embarrassed me quite a few times yelling them out when we're in public, but I'd rather her be comfortable with her own body than the opposite. I also don't make a big deal out of it at all when she's exploring her own body. DH walks out of the room but I go about business as normal.

So I'm taking the exact same approach as you - so far, I see no problem with it, even if it does make DH uncomfortable. That's his issue, not mine or Alex's

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I think what your doing is perfect!