Books instead of cards at shower debate

Bump, book instead of card thread

I was looking for the poem that you use when asking guests to bring a children's book instead of a card and I found this bump thread......I cannot believe there are such judgmental people in this world, makes me sick! Anyway, it's pretty funny if you like

Books instead of cards at shower debate

LOL I just got an invite for my cousins shower with a little poem asking for books instead of cards.

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I received books for my shower instead of cards, it was great. My kids still ask me to read what each person wrote to them in the book and want to know what book is from whom.

If someone didn't want to give a book, they gave a card-no biggie.

eta-That thread is ridiculous...if you don't want to buy a book, don't.

Message edited 3/21/2013 9:42:55 AM.

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I didnt do books instead of cards, but we did a book instead of a wishing well.

Its a really nice idea, My dd has a pretty nice book collection because of it.

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I love the ones who buy a card out of spite. Last I checked, cards are ranging $3-$5 and usually get thrown out or rot in a box up in the attic. You could easily find a book for under $5 that would be put to good use.

I'd love to come back to this little gem:

"However, the guests at your shower should be the ones to decide what kind of gift they bring. You may not tell them or even politely ask them to bring you something specific. Because then, it really isn't a gift anymore."

UMMMM you DO tell them what kind of gift to bring and it's very specific. It's called a registry. I'm not down with the Bump so maybe registering for gifts is tacky to them too?

ETA: Some b*tch on the Bump gave the definition of a registry:

A registry is a list of things you would like and that you intend on purchasing no matter what. If people would like to pick something from that list, they can, if they want to buy you something else, they can do that to. A registry is not a demand to other people.

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Posted by ItsaJoya19

I love the ones who buy a card out of spite. Last I checked, cards are ranging $3-$5 and usually get thrown out or rot in a box up in the attic. You could easily find a book for under $5 that would be put to good use.

I'd love to come back to this little gem:

"However, the guests at your shower should be the ones to decide what kind of gift they bring. You may not tell them or even politely ask them to bring you something specific. Because then, it really isn't a gift anymore."

UMMMM you DO tell them what kind of gift to bring and it's very specific. It's called a registry. I'm not down with the Bump so maybe registering for gifts is tacky to them too?

Books instead of cards at shower debate

I got books at my shower and they put it on the book shelf so there were tons!! I looooved it and now I am set for a long time with baby books! its such a great idea:)

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Books instead of cards at shower debate

My friend did that and it was great.

For my shower, my mom had bought a set of golden books and handed them out to guests and had guests write in them.

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omg

That one mom needs a reality check.

I love the idea of bringing a book. It blows my mind but the people who consider themselves the etiquette police are usually the biggest offenders.

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we are doing books instead of a wishing well too ---or at least I think thats what my mom said! lol

Books instead of cards at shower debate

I loved receiving books for my LO at my shower, never even crossed my mind that people would find asking to do something like that tacky. It's a much better way of being remembered, seeing the special message you've written on the inside cover every time you open the book, than by the card you gave which honestly, I tossed.

Takes all types in this world.

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Posted by jennielee15

Bump, book instead of card thread

I was looking for the poem that you use when asking guests to bring a children's book instead of a card and I found this bump thread......I cannot believe there are such judgmental people in this world, makes me sick! Anyway, it's pretty funny if you like

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Sorry crashing. My sister asked for books for my shower for the wishing well, not in place of cards. If they wanted to bring a book they could or they could still get just bring a gift with a card and no book. It worked out. DS has a whole bunch of books and even the people who brought books still brought a card.

Books instead of cards at shower debate

For my shower this past weekend my planners did this. Not everyone bought a book but I loved the ones I did get. People are obnoxious

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I wish this would have been done at my shower, I LOVE the idea! I started reading that Bump thread and couldn't get very far, those women are disgusting excuses for human beings. I don't know what it is with the Knot and the Bump, they really bring out some of the worst in humanity.

Books instead of cards at shower debate

Never heard of this and I LOVE the idea. WOW to those biatches on that thread!!!! Totally rude and uncalled for! It's obvious they are purposely trying to start drama and controversy. Some people clearly have too much time on their hands if that is how they get entertainment.

So you see that one girl's profile at the bottom it says "Little Man (2 years old---holy cow)
Yes, he's mine. Yes, he's aware I'm a horrible mother. Yes, I plan on teaching him to act just like me.
No, CPS hasn't come to rescue him yet.
Yes, I'll make sure to let him know how sorry you feel for him."

Which clearly means she angered a lot of people on the Bump. Some people just clearly don't understand message board etiquette!!!!

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What a great idea!!!!

Books instead of cards at shower debate

I LOVE this idea! They did this as my friends shower and then I mentioned it to my MIL and they did it at my SIL's shower. It's not engraved in stone that you HAVE to bring a book instead of a card. Is it really THAT important that people have to be so negative about something that people want to do? I didn't read the thread because I'm pretty sure I would just get too annoyed (hormones are RAGING).

I wonder what these girls have to say about girls who want to do display showers and not open gifts or ask people to not wrap the gifts to be "green"!!!! My thought is ALWAYS "it's not my shower so whatever the planners and mother/bride want, then just smile and go along with it."

Books instead of cards at shower debate

I really want to reply to that one trashy girl that keeps commenting. Anyone who would write a rude response just to piss people off because it gives YOU entertainment has no right calling anyone or anything "tacky" lmao.

I wonder what kind of white trash shower that girl had!!! lol Sorry I couldnt resist!

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People are absurd, some of those responses are just ridiculous. My sister put something about bringing a book to help build baby's library on my shower invite and not even in lieu of a card AND we had a separate thing for the guys and called it an "Eat, Drink and Bring Diapers" party... so basically these women would have burnt me at the stake... I had people who gave insanely generous gifts, books, buy diapers and a card. And now Matthew has quite the book collection and I haven't had to buy diapers or wipes yet and we still have a cases in the closet... and I would would do (and have done) the same for anyone else. I am sure there were people who thought the whole thing was ridiculous but if someone didn't want to bring a book they didn't and if they didn't want to go to the "man party" they didn't have to.

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Books instead of cards at shower debate

yup... I commented #pregnancyhormones

Books instead of cards at shower debate

I think it has to do also where people are from. I belong to another board and its amazing how in other states people get so offended if people get upset if items aren't bought off the registry. The registry mentality maybe is an east coast thing. Honestly don't know. I've seen woman get really nasty when others bring up a registry. I'm like ok, I don't get it.