Bris question for Jewish parents

So we found out yesterday we are having a little and i have to think about the bris, since i dont know what exact day the baby will decided to join us, i am wondering how to plan the bris/where to have it. We live in a 2 bedroom condo so their isnt a lot of room unless we just have immediate family, my parents (mom and dad) both have houses but dont get along so thats out of the question and MIL has a small apartment. Should i look into a restaurant? Isnt that a wierd place to have it? Would a temple accomadate that (we dont belong to one right know but i can call and see if they would let us do it there). our condo doesnt have a clubhouse or else i would do that and to rent the clubhouse in our friedn condo community is alot of $$$. any opinions or advice would be welcome also did you just have immediate family, or was it a party, with friends and all the family?
Thanks!!

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I planned everything before the bris however you really don't know when it will be until the baby is born and if you have a c-section the timing is different..

Jacob was born in SEptember so I was planning it to be outside in the backyard and was very adamant about it until I saw how many people we were inviting.. If it is during the week you will have less people than if you have it on a Sunday ( keep this in mind).. We ended up having around 60 people at the bris..

I finally decided that 60 people was alot to have in my home a week after the baby was born so we looked around and ended up at the temple around the block from me.. I wanted to be close so I did not have to schlep the baby everywhere.. We had to pay to use the room since we weren't members.. I think$300, then the mohel $750, then the catering ( we did bagel boss) and it was not cheap..

I am so glad I did not have it in my house..Best desicion I made..

Again, yo can know everything you want- the place, the mohel and the food but you can't put anything in stone until that baby is born...

Regarding Mohels-- I used my OB -Dr. Marchbein but there are many others out there, your OB might recommend a few..I rather go with a doctor because they give the baby a little anesthesia to numb the pain... Jacob didn't cry at all...

Hope that helps..

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Mazel Tov to you!
We also had a little boy. We didn't find out what we were having so we really had to do it all very quickly.
I also had DS in September but we knew it would not be at our home. We did it at a local temple. Due to the Holidays, we had a very limited selection because everyone was setting up for Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur.
DH planned the entire thing for us while I was in the hospital recovering from a c-section. My parents went to the teple to check it out also because DH didn't feel that he could make the decision on his own Together, they got the caterer, centerpieces, everything. We had called a mohel (the one my sister used for her 2 boys) the morning I gave birth but ended up having to get a new one 2 days befor the bris. Unfortunately, our mohel's mom passed away so we had to get a backup. I would be happy to give you both their numbers!
Oh, and we had about 125 people at our bris

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We had a really small bris at our home, I only had about 10 people...I don't have any family around here, so it was just my parents, my in laws and some friends. If I were you, I would do the clubhouse and get in some help with the cleaning up!

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I just had a baby naming for dd that had 60 people. We didnt know what our babys gender was so we had to plan both ways. I dont think a restaurant would allow you to perform a bris. I actually rented out our clubhouse for dds baby naming. Maybe thats a possiblity for a bris? Otherwise I would do it in a temple. They usually have small areas where you can have company after the ceremony and Bagels and Lox ; )

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thanks guys, you have all been helpful