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Can anyone talk to me about Conservative/Orthodox Jewish weddings?
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Tulips915
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Re: Can anyone talk to me about Conservative/Orthodox Jewish weddings?
Posted by leighdvm
Thanks for explaining it, Sandy! 
HTH! (I did google it though  )
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Re: Can anyone talk to me about Conservative/Orthodox Jewish weddings?
Posted by Tulips915
Posted by leighdvm
What is the reasoning behind seperating the men and women during orthodox weddings? Even if couples are married? I'm truly curious, never been to one.
The reason for the partition between men and women is the issue of modesty. You must have seen the energetic, happy dancing on both sides of the partition. Dancing together and even watching the dancing of someone of the opposite gender is not considered modest. This might sound somewhat strange in today's time when there doesn't seem to be any barriers between men and women, but the partition at the wedding, at the synagogue and at other occasions helps to preserve and safeguard a limited and therefore special connection between the genders. If we preserve the space and boundary between men and women we can cherish our times of closeness all the more, in the relationships where the closeness is permitted. In other words, a man who is not permitted to see another woman dance, sing or with arms or legs uncovered, will not become desensitized to a woman's sensuality and appreciate and be attracted to his wife all the more without any kind of distractions.
There is also the issue of men not being allowed to touch their wives when they have their period so if some men are dancing with their wives and some are not, then people will know whose time of the month it is, which is again, not modest.
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MrsRbk
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Re: Can anyone talk to me about Conservative/Orthodox Jewish weddings?
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Homeless men came in and begged at the tables for money during dinner. I guess that since it's a mitzvah to give to the poor, they hit you up during times of plenty and celebration. The Orthodox people there were unfazed, but I was dumbfounded that homeless strangers were wandering around the catering hall, asking for handouts while people were eating their salads. Just giving you a heads-up!
Oh wow...I've never seen that! I would definitely be shocked by that!
My fathers side of the family are ultra orthodox, and I've seen this at ALL their weddings. Everything is always separate from the weddings (orthodox) tha I've been to. One of the weddings I've been to, even had the receptions on separate floors of the catering hall!
We are conservative, but had a traditional orthodox ceremony at our wedding. We were married by the Lubavitich Rabbi I grew up with. our ceremony was about 30 minutes long. We did the tisch and bedekkin as well. There was no separate invitation for these parts of the wedding. I sat I the ballroom with my mother, MIL, grandmothers and bridesmaids during the cocktail hour where I was greeted by all our guests until DH came in with horns blaring for the actual bedekkin. his tisch was in a room down the hall and anyone was able to attend that as well.
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| Posted 5/24/12 9:38 PM |
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Ltdentway99
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Re: Can anyone talk to me about Conservative/Orthodox Jewish weddings?
Posted by FreeButterfly
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-- the food was AWFUL since it had to be fully kosher
I agree w/ PP except above - not all kosher food is AWFUL. It could have just been the place the wedding was held.
You might not sit together to eat - at the ones I have been to men and woman ate apart. Also, the dancing was not joint.
You don't have to wear black but I wouldn't wear "Josephina and the Technicolor Dream Skirt" either.
Hey! My wedding was fully kosher. Everyone said it was the best food.
Anyway, I would ask a relative of the bride and groom. You really have to find out how religious the wedding is. In Hasidic weddings you must wear a long skirt, cover your arms, and wear a dark color. It may not be that religious.
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