Can I vent? ( long, sorry)

I dont need hugs or pity or anything, just soooo frustrated, and Dont know how to get past it!

For the last 3 days my M/s has been so severe I havent been able to really eat ( I did tonight, paid an awful price for it)...

But I have been unable to get dressed, showered etc without room spinning sickness. Have slept in the living room cause even the smell of DH next to me makes me gag endlessly at night.

With DS I had hyperemesis and was put on a Zofran Pump at 27 weeks- the end. An IV basically of meds.

I have been TERRIFIED, I meant scared to DEATH this was gonna happen again this PG and it seems it has.

Went to the Drs today and Lost 8 lbs and am feeling very weak and am dehydrated with Protein in urine..

Im just so OVER IT. I want to be normal . I want to ENJOY a Pregnancy...Is that possible? This is my 4th PG and after 2 losses and Noahs being sooo horrid, I just want to be selfish and say ENOUGH...
PLEASE!

And I feel like everyones back to " oh god, here she goes again". My Mother literally rolled her eyes when I said the Dr. Was putting me on the pump b/c he was scared. Its NOT my choice. I dont even want it just yet. But he had some solid points.

The last two days DH has asked soo many of our family members for help with Noah, cause I couldnt move too much.,.and no one understood...got it...etc. He got excuses like " I have to go to the grocery store" .. Im sorry.

And meanwhile I have to literally stand outside on the porch while he eats and keep an eye on him cause the smell of his food makes me gag and wretch and it scares him.

No-one wants to hear a complainer, and I dont think too many people fully understand what its like , so they think eating a cracker will make it all better.

I dont know what Im saying, what I need. Just Want to say screw it..Be Selfish and wish this away

If you made it this far, thanks for listening...and I DO understand many have it a trillion times worse then me. I dont for a second forget that. Just needed a pity party for a second maybe.

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I know you don't want them, but here



Vent and get it out.

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That really sucks. PG should not interfere that much with just living, I am so sorry. My BF has the same issues as you and it is heartbreaking. Her second was not as bad as her first though and her third so far has been really mild so hopefully this one won't be as bad on you.

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I am so sorry you are going through this again.

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Donna,
I am so sorry you are going through this (again!). Just know that the end reward is greater than the price you pay for it now. You have a beautiful son and now have been blessed to be able to add to your family.

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I cant imagine how you must be feeling so I wouldnt even begin to try. I hope you are as comfortable as you can be.

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Donna~ I am so incredibly sorry it;s happening again. I had really hoped that it would be different for you this time around. I hate that your family isn't being supportive too.

You can vent ALL you want. You were always a wonderful source of support both here and on the Parenting board. NO ONE here will ever judge you or make you feel like you are complaining too much. Thats what this board is about- and we are all here to support you.

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I cannot imagine. I thought you would be spared this time. I remember how sick you were.

If you want to drop Noah once in a while at my house for a playdate and take a break that's OK.

I am sorry you are going through this. I would never think someone would feel like "here she goes again".

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I was wondering how you were doing with this.... I remember feeling the same way - wanting to enjoy my pregnancy and I couldn't until later in my 2nd trimester... And I remember DH would make me nauseous after he ate too, and we were on our friggen HONEYMOON!!!!!!

And we have no one, NO one, to help us if I get pregnant again. no one to even give us excuses, so I'm on my own if this were to happen again.... Which is also why we are holding off TTC, just in case....

Tell everyone to put their eyes back in their friggen head - they have not earned an eye roll if they aren't helping!!!!

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i'm sorry your family isn't supportive, but we are! vent all you can, we're here to offer hugs and anything else you might need! i hope that you feel better really really soon!

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Oh Donna...I am so sorry to see that the M/S is terrible again.

What about having a family member accompany you to the Dr appt to hear the Dr say that you need help-that your condition NEEDS to be addressed? Would that help?

If I was there, I'd help ya out as much as I could.

And don't feel bad about complaining.....you have a right to!

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I am truly sorry you are going through this.

I was really sick in my first trimester, so I can relate to what you are saying.
The gagging, the diiferent smells, the room spinning.
I couldn't even imagine taken care of another DC.

I was even scared to get up, just to go to the bathroom... because I didn't want to get sick.

I also felt that no one wanted to hear me complain.
So, Please Vent away!!!

I hope it get's better for you very, very
soon.

Hang in there!!


edited for spelling

Message edited 8/25/2008 10:49:06 PM.

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I'm sorry you are dealing with this

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All I can say, D, is that we made it through the first time and it is totally worth it. You will make it through this time too...

Try to be positive, the baby is healthy, and you know more now, maybe the pump this early on will make a difference, KWIM?

I'm here to help...weekends, nights...Chris is working nights again soon, maybe he can take the boys for a few hours, ya know?

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Donna, I am so sorry.

I was hoping things would be easier this time. You need to forget what others are saying during your PG. It is all about you and your DH, DS and the baby. Nobody else matters!!!!!!!!!

Message edited 8/25/2008 11:30:51 PM.

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I'm sorry Donna, now i feel bad for venting about how i feel. I pray this time around it gets better for you and you can enjoy it

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Don't beat yourself up for feeling the way you feel. Sounds like you have every right to be frustrated. All I can offer is and hope you feel better real soon!

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I'm sooo sorry for what you are going through...I had bad m/s, but nothing near what you are describing. You have every right to complain if you want, and I'm so sorry that others can't understand. We are here to hear all the vents you need to give and honestly if there is something I can do, please FM me. I will drive out and run some errands for you, help your dh or your baby...I'm 100% serious. You are not alone in this and deserve all the support you can get. Being pregnant is not easy..but you will get through, just like you got through with your beautiful little boy. I'm praying things get easier soon...and I mean it, please FM me if you need some extra help.

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Ugh...i'm so sorry you are going through this again. I cannot even fathom why MIL would act like that...you didn't ask for this...you don't want to feel like this. I don't work so if you ever need help with anything FM me.

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I totally understand what you are feeling--to make you have a little hope--I did it twice and will probably go a 3rd and final time in 3 years (yes how I forget... NOT)
So as bad as it may seem now you will get through it. Just take one day at a time and if you need to seperate yourself from the negative people (including family) thats what you have to do since stress makes this journey that much more tougher and thats something you do not need. truthfully I was more at ease in the hospital than home-because I didnt have to hear some of my family give their input on my condition. Hang in there

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Oh, Donna, I'm so sorry I hate when people lack the compassion to sympathize, especially when you're pregnant. If you need anything, let me know

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This sounds like a very frustrating and upsetting situation. I don't understand what's so hard for family members to understand about your difficulty with your pgs? Why they can't be a bit more helpful and supportive? We are here for you, if that can help at all.

I really do understand what you are saying and will for you.