Can someone help me understand DH's reasoning??

Dh accepted a new job offer and he starts on Monday (2/19). The new job is Jersey and we live in Farmingdale, so it is about an hour and 20 minutes with no traffic and with traffic up to 2-2.5 hours each way. We are in the process of selling our house so this commute will not be forever.
So he said to me last week that he wants DS and me to stay in Jersey next Wed., Thurs. and Fri., when I asked why he said because he thought it would be nice. To me it is not just leaving. I have to think about where DS is going to sleep, what we are going to do with our dog and what am I going to do in S. Brunswick (in an industrial area I might add) with a 10 month old for 3 days. Dh thinks I am going to go to the outlets by myself and that I will visit DH at work. This new job keeps him very busy, he has workeda few days already and he never calls me and when he does he rushes me off the phone. He also did say that he might have to work later so it will be alot for him to commute. I told him that he will be doing that commute for a while until we move and I really dont want to go, so he is upset.

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I could understand a weekend thing, but not the weekday thing with going.

Message edited 6/5/2009 12:07:55 PM.

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I think he was just trying to make you feel included and didn't think of all the work involved. My DH works in N. Brunswick, what part of NJ are you moving to?

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Posted by MrsTC

I think he was just trying to make you feel included and didn't think of all the work involved. My DH works in N. Brunswick, what part of NJ are you moving to?

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Posted by Seles81

Posted by MrsTC

I think he was just trying to make you feel included and didn't think of all the work involved. My DH works in N. Brunswick, what part of NJ are you moving to?

We are actually going to move to Flushing. He really wants to move to the N. Bergen area but it is $$ and I am not ready to move from my family yet. We were orginally going to move to Jersey and we stopped looking until we decided to put our house up and sell it. I told him in about 5 years I am willing to move but not yet especially being 5 months pg and when the baby comes my oldest will only be 14 months so my mom will be close enough to help me.

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S. Brunswick...yikes! And I thought my DH's commute to Morris Plains 3x's a week was bad.


I think it's sweet he wants you two there, but not very ideal.