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mrsdstowe
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CIO quick run down - pls help
can someone pls tell me real quick how you do it?
Do I let DD cry for 5 minutes the first night before going in to comfort her and increase it gradually each night? is that how its done?
I dont know what has happened but it seems like she turned 5 1/2 months and what use to be a sleep thru the night child has now turned into an every half hour wake up child. Its driving me insane. I feel like shes a newborn all over.
Please help. 
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Posted 10/18/07 9:01 PM  |
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cgdg61606
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Re: CIO quick run down - pls help
I haven't done CIO, but I think it's 5 minutes, then 10, then 15 then keep going in every 15 minutes until she falls asleep. Then each night, increase each time by 5 minutes. 10 minutes, then 15 then 20, etc.
Maybe someone else can tell you for sure. Like I said, I haven't done it, but I think this is what I read.
Good luck!!
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| Posted 10/18/07 9:06 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: CIO quick run down - pls help
Posted by mrsdstowe
can someone pls tell me real quick how you do it?
Do I let DD cry for 5 minutes the first night before going in to comfort her and increase it gradually each night? is that how its done?
This is exactly how it's done.
You pat her.
Don't pick her up.
Don't talk to her much.
Don't turn on the light if you're comforting her.
Also if you're using my method, the rest of it is:
-You start to get weepy.
-You accuse your DH of not having a heart & announce you're getting the baby.
-You get the baby, bring her in your bed.
-Fast forward to 6 years where they're sleeping in their bed but crawl into yours in the middle of the night.
-On nights they don't, you miss them.
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| Posted 10/18/07 9:09 PM |
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cgdg61606
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Re: CIO quick run down - pls help
Posted by nrthshgrl
Posted by mrsdstowe
can someone pls tell me real quick how you do it?
Do I let DD cry for 5 minutes the first night before going in to comfort her and increase it gradually each night? is that how its done?
This is exactly how it's done.
You pat her.
Don't pick her up.
Don't talk to her much.
Don't turn on the light if you're comforting her.
Also if you're using my method, the rest of it is:
-You start to get weepy.
-You accuse your DH of not having a heart & announce you're getting the baby.
-You get the baby, bring her in your bed.
-Fast forward to 6 years where they're sleeping in their bed but crawl into yours in the middle of the night.
-On nights they don't, you miss them.
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| Posted 10/18/07 9:16 PM |
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mrsdstowe
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Re: CIO quick run down - pls help
ok wait.. Im a little confused.
So help me pls.
DD started crying at 9. I let her cry till 9:05 then I went in for 2 minutes, rubbed her stomach and told her its nite nite time. Then I left, she started screaming more and harder. Now I am supposed to let her cry for 10 minutes and then go in again.
Ok, maybe I need to start tomm. I guess I need to know how many minutes do I wait before I go in and then when I am in there, how long do I stay before leaving?
And, how long do I let DD continue to cry. I thought I read somewhere that they shouldnt cry more than 1 hour.
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| Posted 10/18/07 9:20 PM |
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mrsdstowe
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Re: CIO quick run down - pls help
Posted by nrthshgrl
Posted by mrsdstowe
can someone pls tell me real quick how you do it?
Do I let DD cry for 5 minutes the first night before going in to comfort her and increase it gradually each night? is that how its done?
This is exactly how it's done.
You pat her.
Don't pick her up.
Don't talk to her much.
Don't turn on the light if you're comforting her.
Also if you're using my method, the rest of it is:
-You start to get weepy.
-You accuse your DH of not having a heart & announce you're getting the baby.
-You get the baby, bring her in your bed.
-Fast forward to 6 years where they're sleeping in their bed but crawl into yours in the middle of the night.
-On nights they don't, you miss them.
very cute.
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| Posted 10/18/07 9:21 PM |
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cgdg61606
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Re: CIO quick run down - pls help
I think... the first night you don't let them cry for more than 15 minutes at a time. As you increase each wait time by 5 minutes each night you are doing it, your maximum should never go over an hour. I'm sorry that I'm not explaining this clearly!! Search this site, I think someone posted exactly how to do it once.
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| Posted 10/18/07 9:24 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: CIO quick run down - pls help
Honestly, the going in part is more for the parents' benefit, IMO. We NEVER EVER go in because if we do, it just gets worse. I think that you really, REALLY need to be 100% sure that CIO is the only way if you're going to do it because if not, and you let the baby cry, but eventually go get her, then all that crying was for nothing. In my DD's case, the ONLY thing that worked was CIO and we never went in to check on her. The first night it was 45 minutes of crying, the next was 20 minutes of crying and the third night, no crying at all.
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| Posted 10/18/07 9:25 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: CIO quick run down - pls help
We did modified CIO when DS was that young. You really do get to know the cries at that point. We knew when he'd give it up and go to bed and we knew when he just wasn't going to give in. When we first did it, and I knew he was tired, I would go in and rock him until he was almost asleep and then put him down. The rocking time became less and less. If I knew he was just going to continue fighting, I would take him out of his room and let him play longer until he started showing more tired signs and then start again. He's aboutto be 1 year old and bedtime is rarely an issue. You just have to decide how you're going to handle it and be consistent with it.
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| Posted 10/18/07 9:29 PM |
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KateDevine
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Re: CIO quick run down - pls help
Posted by prncss
Honestly, the going in part is more for the parents' benefit, IMO. We NEVER EVER go in because if we do, it just gets worse. I think that you really, REALLY need to be 100% sure that CIO is the only way if you're going to do it because if not, and you let the baby cry, but eventually go get her, then all that crying was for nothing. In my DD's case, the ONLY thing that worked was CIO and we never went in to check on her. The first night it was 45 minutes of crying, the next was 20 minutes of crying and the third night, no crying at all.
I agree. I only go in if it is the "pacifer cry".
I honestly don't think he cried that much the first night, and now he really puts himself to sleep everynight
ETA: We did CIO at bedtime, but it didn't stop DS from waking up during hte night to eat. We had to do a sort of CIO in the night to fix that issue
Message edited 10/18/2007 9:33:17 PM.
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| Posted 10/18/07 9:31 PM |
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mrsdstowe
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Re: CIO quick run down - pls help
Posted by prncss
Honestly, the going in part is more for the parents' benefit, IMO. We NEVER EVER go in because if we do, it just gets worse. I think that you really, REALLY need to be 100% sure that CIO is the only way if you're going to do it because if not, and you let the baby cry, but eventually go get her, then all that crying was for nothing. In my DD's case, the ONLY thing that worked was CIO and we never went in to check on her. The first night it was 45 minutes of crying, the next was 20 minutes of crying and the third night, no crying at all.
You are so right. Going in just makes it worse. I would say that I am 80% percent sure that we are going to do CIO because I go back to work next week, my DH just switched to nights so he can be home during the day with DD. So I am going to need my rest and a crying baby every 30 minutes is not going to cut it.
But I think I may take your advice and not go in. At one point tonight I had to go in bc she hasnt learned how to flip back on her back...and she gets so aggravated (gets arm stuck). So I flipped her back over. But other than that, I think tomm night, I wont go in at all unless she flips.
So she is sound asleep 
I looked at my clock.. she actually starting crying at 8:45 and by 9:30 she is out. so 45 minutes the first night..Not bad. If the end result is a full night of sleep, I can definitely keep this up.
Thank you ladies Gosh, you guys are the best.
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| Posted 10/18/07 9:36 PM |
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mrsdstowe
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Re: CIO quick run down - pls help
Posted by KateDevine
ETA: We did CIO at bedtime, but it didn't stop DS from waking up during hte night to eat. We had to do a sort of CIO in the night to fix that issue
Well, she normally wakes up at 3am tp eat and diaper change. I guess I'll see tonight if that changes.
Thank you
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| Posted 10/18/07 9:38 PM |
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cgdg61606
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Re: CIO quick run down - pls help
Good luck!!
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| Posted 10/18/07 9:43 PM |
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mrsdstowe
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Re: CIO quick run down - pls help
Posted by nferrandi
We did modified CIO when DS was that young. You really do get to know the cries at that point. We knew when he'd give it up and go to bed and we knew when he just wasn't going to give in. When we first did it, and I knew he was tired, I would go in and rock him until he was almost asleep and then put him down. The rocking time became less and less. If I knew he was just going to continue fighting, I would take him out of his room and let him play longer until he started showing more tired signs and then start again. He's aboutto be 1 year old and bedtime is rarely an issue. You just have to decide how you're going to handle it and be consistent with it.
I like the idea of letting DD play if she really isnt that tired. I guess I do that now.. sort of. I give her a bath at 7 and bedtime by 7:30. But on nights where she is still being more playful and alert, I usually postpone bath time by 30 minutes to an hour until she starts to wind down.
Thank you
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| Posted 10/18/07 9:47 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: CIO quick run down - pls help
Posted by mrsdstowe
Posted by nferrandi
We did modified CIO when DS was that young. You really do get to know the cries at that point. We knew when he'd give it up and go to bed and we knew when he just wasn't going to give in. When we first did it, and I knew he was tired, I would go in and rock him until he was almost asleep and then put him down. The rocking time became less and less. If I knew he was just going to continue fighting, I would take him out of his room and let him play longer until he started showing more tired signs and then start again. He's aboutto be 1 year old and bedtime is rarely an issue. You just have to decide how you're going to handle it and be consistent with it.
I like the idea of letting DD play if she really isnt that tired. I guess I do that now.. sort of. I give her a bath at 7 and bedtime by 7:30. But on nights where she is still being more playful and alert, I usually postpone bath time by 30 minutes to an hour until she starts to wind down.
Thank you
You can have a set bedtime, but it will change periodically. When we have company DS doesn't want to miss out, so he'll force himself to stay awake and we just go with- since it's once in a while. Bedtime usually doesn't fluctuate by more than a half hour. And just be warned- once you have them on a fairly predictable schedule, it changes all over again.  you just have to learn the signs and go with the flow.
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| Posted 10/18/07 9:51 PM |
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Re: CIO quick run down - pls help
Posted by nrthshgrl
Posted by mrsdstowe
can someone pls tell me real quick how you do it?
Do I let DD cry for 5 minutes the first night before going in to comfort her and increase it gradually each night? is that how its done?
This is exactly how it's done.
You pat her.
Don't pick her up.
Don't talk to her much.
Don't turn on the light if you're comforting her.
Also if you're using my method, the rest of it is:
-You start to get weepy.
-You accuse your DH of not having a heart & announce you're getting the baby.
-You get the baby, bring her in your bed.
-Fast forward to 6 years where they're sleeping in their bed but crawl into yours in the middle of the night.
-On nights they don't, you miss them.
Barb... you are a riot!!
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