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Jenny614
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Close family wedding close to due date...
What would you do? Baby is due july 21st. My first cousin, whom I grew up with and is very close to, is getting married in Texas on August 18th. I was supposed to be in her wedding, but after finding out I was preggers, I told her I couldnt do it because there was a chance I couldnt go. That was back when the wedding wa supposed to be August 4th. Now that it is a couple weeks later, I think she thinks there is more of a chance I will go. I really want to go but dont know if it is possible. I already have a DD that will be 20 months. Also, I will be BFing. What would you do?
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Posted 4/15/13 8:42 AM  |
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Close family wedding close to due date...
Will the kids be going with you? I don't know... I think it can be done but I also think it's ambitious to think you'll be able to make it. If it was NY I'd say absolutely 100% but with traveling... I think it'll be an adjustment to having 2 kids plus BF on top of that... I think it's really hard to say until the baby is born and you know how you're handling everything -- feeling well, managing 2 kids, etc..
I was in the hospital after my C-section for 4 days and I came out the day of one of my dearest friend's weddings. I swore up and down I'd go no matter what.... and then I sobbed hysterically when reality set in and I knew that I couldn't.
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| Posted 4/15/13 8:53 AM |
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WannaBeAMom11
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Close family wedding close to due date...
Personally I wouldn't go especially if you are planning to ebf. I have a 20mins away wedding a month after I'm due and told the bride I probably will not be there. I plan to ebf and I don't feel comfortable bringing the baby to a 300 person wedding or leaving her with someone but go with what your gut tells you.
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| Posted 4/15/13 8:55 AM |
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Jenny614
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Re: Close family wedding close to due date...
Thanks for your responses.
DH says to wait until I have the baby. If it was in NY it would be totally different because we wouldnt have to stay in hotels. I was thinking maybe I would just go for a night or two, and leave the kids with DH, or just take my older DD, but who knows how I will feel possibly only 4-5 weeks after giving birth. Making a last minute decision might not be possible either, getting a ticket to Texas wont be cheap.
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| Posted 4/15/13 9:24 AM |
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Kitten1929
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Re: Close family wedding close to due date...
I think it's more hassle than its worth. I'd decline, especially with the travel.
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| Posted 4/15/13 9:25 AM |
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Re: Close family wedding close to due date...
I wuoldn't go....and I think its a good idea to wait until you give birth. You might not be up to the trip only 4 weeks after.
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| Posted 4/15/13 9:58 AM |
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Jenny614
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Re: Close family wedding close to due date...
I know in my gut that I probably wont go, but it kills me...she is like my sister, I never in a million years though that I would miss her wedding. At the end of the day, I will do whatever is best for my kids.
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| Posted 4/15/13 10:09 AM |
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Pomegranate5
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Re: Close family wedding close to due date...
I would not have been up for that kind of travel so soon after giving birth with just one child. I would almost definitely decline considering you'll be caring for two children at that point.
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| Posted 4/15/13 10:12 AM |
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kahlua716
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Re: Close family wedding close to due date...
I wouldn't go.
I'm not sure you can bring a baby that young on a plane (nor would I want to) and I wouldn't want to leave him/her yet.
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| Posted 4/15/13 10:59 AM |
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LSP2005
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Re: Close family wedding close to due date...
I would not bring a 4 week old baby on a plane without their shots. If you are nursing, then I am sorry to say I would tell her now you are going to have to miss the wedding. I am so incredibly sorry. If the wedding were closer or even within driving distance ( Boston/DC) I would and did go with an 18 day old baby.
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| Posted 4/15/13 12:25 PM |
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lucky1007
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Re: Close family wedding close to due date...
Posted by Jenny614
I know in my gut that I probably wont go, but it kills me...she is like my sister, I never in a million years though that I would miss her wedding. At the end of the day, I will do whatever is best for my kids.
I would wait until the baby is born. Maybe you'll be early and perhaps a better chance of going, or maybe you'll be late and then the chances are more slim.
if this was my sister (since you said she's like a sister), I think I would try and be there as long as the baby is doing well and there are people there to help at home. Even if you left your DH home with the kids and only went for the weekend. It seems like you really want to go.
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| Posted 4/15/13 12:28 PM |
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Hope4baby13
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Close family wedding close to due date...
I just am a paranoid freak and wouldn't put a baby on a plane at 4 weeks old, but that is just me. I would wait and see how you feel - who knows...you may give birth early and feel great. I definitely wouldn't book a flight now, but if you do it may make sense to get insurance for 30.00. Good luck!
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| Posted 4/15/13 12:45 PM |
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Jenny614
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Re: Close family wedding close to due date...
Thanks for all the input. There is no way I would fly with a newborn, since having kids I have become a major germaphobe If anything I would go for a night or two and leave the kids with DH, but if I am anything with #2 like I was with #1, there is no chance I can leave the baby. DD is 17 months and I still have not left her over night. I think I will just wait until I have the baby and see how it goes. I went to NY for her engagement party and i will go to NY again when I am 32 weeks for her bridal shower and bachelorette party, so I am doing all that I can to be a part of her wedding
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| Posted 4/15/13 1:42 PM |
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I have a SUPER close cousin that lives in Philly. Her and I are SUPER close so I understand why you are torn. I would probably just talk to her and tell her "Listen, my due date is XXX but I could end up going as late as XXX and who knows what kind of delivery it will be. I'm going to have to be a maybe, which I HATE, but don't want to say no and then I can come or yes and then not show up. I will try everything I can to be there."
DEF wait until the baby comes and see how you feel.
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