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NervousNell
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Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Has anyone noticed this?
Maybe it's just me, but i find it a little disturbing.
I just saw some pics from a photographer on Facebook of a 1st Communion shoot she did. Some of the shots were staged to look exactly like this little girl was getting married.
Her gazing up at her dress that was hanging up on a door with her veil on.
Her wearing high heels and kicking up he feet. Her tossing her veil back in a very, I don't know, adult way.
All pics and poses I have in my WEDDING album.
Full face of make up too- very bridal
i have seen girls in rented limos with their friends- ala a bridal party.
I know the dresses and veils tend to look very wedding-ish. And the girls look like little brides because of it.
And lately even more with the elaborate dresses, fancy updos, full faces of makeup, etc.
I don't mind professional pics of the day, but I don't think I'd want my 8 year posed to look like she was about to get married.
I just feel like it's a religious event, for a very young child, and what it has turned into is a bit much.
I guess I'm not a fan of little girls looking and being posed like adults...
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
I think it depends where the communion is. Our son just made his communion and it didn't look like any of the girls had make up on. Many had there hair done but that is normal. There will always be the extreme cases. I am with you though. Little girls should act like little girls. They grow up to fast as it is.
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alli3131
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Communions- when did they become
I think it depends on the parents. It is the parents that make those decisions. I see it more an more these days!
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
yes its getting ridiculous with these huge wedding type parties spending hundreds of dollars on a dress. makeup hair veil tiara its gets out of hand!
I also feel like its a competition and everyone tries to outdo each other on having the best party dress etc. 
but I aslo feel this way about elaborate over the top sweet 16 and first birthdays.
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| Posted 5/24/16 9:43 AM |
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luvmykids8
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by alli3131
I think it depends on the parents. It is the parents that make those decisions. I see it more an more these days!
Yup..It's def the parents!
I agree it's a bit much but so is everything else lately. I feel like it's a competition of who does better.
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
I don't know. My dd had her hair done for hers, by my sil. It was a little more fancy then some other girls, but it was not a wedding up do. Her pics were just simple. None at the church because we only had it before the service. We had a simple brunch for immediate family afterwards. It's like anything else, some people go over the top and some chose to keep it simple.
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NervousNell
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
And I feel like the ones who go way over the top are the ones who really care the least about the religious meaning behind the sacrament.
It's all a big show
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VickiC
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Communions- when did they become
I completely agree! I don't understand the booking a photographer for the day or having Communion portraits done a week before the event. Getting hair done...I could see that, but not a full face of make up. It's like the meaning of the event is lost.
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| Posted 5/24/16 11:16 AM |
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Communions- when did they become
Makeup?? My mom put my hair in pink sponge rollers the night before my communion.
These over the top parties are just ridiculous. I went to a christening last year where the baby made a wedding-like entrance and had a first dance in a popular wedding venue. DH is Jewish and the look on his face was priceless. He kept asking me if we had to have a baby wedding when we had kids. I had to explain that there was nothing normal about this!
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| Posted 5/24/16 11:56 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by LuckyStar
Makeup?? My mom put my hair in pink sponge rollers the night before my communion.
These over the top parties are just ridiculous. I went to a christening last year where the baby made a wedding-like entrance and had a first dance in a popular wedding venue. DH is Jewish and the look on his face was priceless. He kept asking me if we had to have a baby wedding when we had kids. I had to explain that there was nothing normal about this!
Baby wedding! Love it
And really? A first dance? For a baby?
That takes the cake..
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Communions- when did they become
Yup I agree, it's so ridiculous and over the top. I've seen the same kinda thing for the 8th grade dance. Whaaaaaat!!!????
Overly sexy cocktail dresses, pro makeup and hair, and photo shoot. Sorry but no!!
Inappropriate and tacky.
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mnmsoinlove
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by NervousNell
And I feel like the ones who go way over the top are the ones who really care the least about the religious meaning behind the sacrament.
It's all a big show
ITA the ones who go overboard are all about putting on a big show and could care less about the religious meaning on the day. It's so sad. I'm not saying not to have photos taken or having their daughters hair done. Makeup and staging wedding like photos is ridiculous!
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
A long time ago lol. We did the pre communion pictures for both kids but a glamour shot type of place for my dd while my ds just went to a Sears Photo.
She got her hair and makeup done (not a lot though) for the pre-pics (as that was included in the package) and for the actual day.
We never had the money for a huge party but I know that is very common and not out of the ordinary. I am pretty sure people had parties on the outside when I made my communion lol.
I have been to christenings where it was like a wedding too so I am familiar with this also.
Do I agree with any of these? Not really as to me most of these are a waste of money and could go to better use towards the kids in the future.
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
I went to a christening like this too a couple of years ago. The parents, godparents, both sets of grandparents, and the baby were all introduced into the party by the DJ. Then the parents gave a speech like a maid of honor or best man speech, and then the mom & dad danced with the 6 week old to Stevie Wonder's Isn't She Lovely. I found it completely ridiculous but to each his own I guess. When my kids make their 1st communions, I plan on doing a party back at my house, just family and a few very very close friends who are just like family- just like I did for their christenings.
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Communions- when did they become
we kept it very low key, I curled her hair myself, a bit of lipgloss, dress and done
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by momtimes2
we kept it very low key, I curled her hair myself, a bit of lipgloss, dress and done
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by Naturalmama
I went to a christening like this too a couple of years ago. The parents, godparents, both sets of grandparents, and the baby were all introduced into the party by the DJ. Then the parents gave a speech like a maid of honor or best man speech, and then the mom & dad danced with the 6 week old to Stevie Wonder's Isn't She Lovely. I found it completely ridiculous but to each his own I guess. When my kids make their 1st communions, I plan on doing a party back at my house, just family and a few very very close friends who are just like family- just like I did for their christenings.
My SIL danced too and that was in the early 1990's lol
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Who cares??? Live and let live.
If that makes people happy then who is anyone to judge? Why is not taking pictures and having a party at a pizzeria ok but having photos done and having a party at a hall not ok? Everyone celebrates differently.
If the people who went all out questioned and posted asking why don't those parents care enough to go all out there would be riots
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by mnmsoinlove
Posted by NervousNell
And I feel like the ones who go way over the top are the ones who really care the least about the religious meaning behind the sacrament.
It's all a big show
ITA the ones who go overboard are all about putting on a big show and could care less about the religious meaning on the day. It's so sad. I'm not saying not to have photos taken or having their daughters hair done. Makeup and staging wedding like photos is ridiculous!
Curious how often everyone goes to church?
I go all out but I go to church almost every week and my DC attend catholic school. The judgement on these boards is insane.
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by MerryChristmas
Posted by mnmsoinlove
Posted by NervousNell
And I feel like the ones who go way over the top are the ones who really care the least about the religious meaning behind the sacrament.
It's all a big show
ITA the ones who go overboard are all about putting on a big show and could care less about the religious meaning on the day. It's so sad. I'm not saying not to have photos taken or having their daughters hair done. Makeup and staging wedding like photos is ridiculous!
Curious how often everyone goes to church?
I go all out but I go to church almost every week and my DC attend catholic school. The judgement on these boards is insane.
My Niece received on May 7th. Her dress was absolutely amazing! The most gorgeous communion dress I've even seen. She had her hair done, a veil and a headpiece much like a wedding tiara. My brother hired a very inexpensive photographer ($100) because our church has strict rules about photpgraphy and you were only allowed to take pictures from a designated area all the way up top at the back of the church..and again, it was only $100. They had a beautiful party at their house. My neice goes to Catholic school and their family attends church every Sunday. This was a very big deal and very special occasion for our family so I can totally understand why parents go all out.well.
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NervousNell
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by MerryChristmas
Who cares??? Live and let live.
If that makes people happy then who is anyone to judge? Why is not taking pictures and having a party at a pizzeria ok but having photos done and having a party at a hall not ok? Everyone celebrates differently.
If the people who went all out questioned and posted asking why don't those parents care enough to go all out there would be riots
I don't give a shit what kind of party you chose to have and if you chose to spend $1000 on a wedding gown for your 8 year old.
What I found disturbing was playing up the pictures to make them look like brides.
They are not brides
They are 8 year old children making their First Communion.
The pictures I was talking about the girl was posed and staged very similar to most wedding pictures I have seen.
I have also seen limos and "bridal" type parties. And the limo driver was hitting the horn that played "here comes the bride"
THAT I find disturbing.
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Communions- when did they become
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ANR1211
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Communions- when did they become
I would be disturbed too to see a little girl looking like she's getting married. These kids grow up too fast! And some Communions are very similar to weddings - my sister went to one the other day and her mil suggested that they give $200... That's a wedding gift!
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alli3131
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
We have friends like this. It was bigger than my wedding.
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by MerryChristmas
Who cares??? Live and let live.
If that makes people happy then who is anyone to judge? Why is not taking pictures and having a party at a pizzeria ok but having photos done and having a party at a hall not ok? Everyone celebrates differently.
If the people who went all out questioned and posted asking why don't those parents care enough to go all out there would be riots
I don't give a shit what kind of party you chose to have and if you chose to spend $1000 on a wedding gown for your 8 year old.
What I found disturbing was playing up the pictures to make them look like brides.
They are not brides
They are 8 year old children making their First Communion.
The pictures I was talking about the girl was posed and staged very similar to most wedding pictures I have seen.
I have also seen limos and "bridal" type parties. And the limo driver was hitting the horn that played "here comes the bride"
THAT I find disturbing.
I don't find that "disturbing". Maybe not my style or taste and maybe not what I would choose to do but not "disturbing".
I just don't understand the judgement. What difference does it make to anyone?
Everyone is so quick to judge one another and then wonder why our daughters grow up to be catty and nasty. 
It seems very silly to be worked up over what other people choose to do if it isn't hurting anyone.
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