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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by MerryChristmas
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Who cares??? Live and let live.
If that makes people happy then who is anyone to judge? Why is not taking pictures and having a party at a pizzeria ok but having photos done and having a party at a hall not ok? Everyone celebrates differently.
If the people who went all out questioned and posted asking why don't those parents care enough to go all out there would be riots 
I don't give a shit what kind of party you chose to have and if you chose to spend $1000 on a wedding gown for your 8 year old.
What I found disturbing was playing up the pictures to make them look like brides.
They are not brides
They are 8 year old children making their First Communion.
The pictures I was talking about the girl was posed and staged very similar to most wedding pictures I have seen.
I have also seen limos and "bridal" type parties. And the limo driver was hitting the horn that played "here comes the bride"
THAT I find disturbing.
I don't find that "disturbing". Maybe not my style or taste and maybe not what I would choose to do but not "disturbing".
I just don't understand the judgement. What difference does it make to anyone?
Everyone is so quick to judge one another and then wonder why our daughters grow up to be catty and nasty. 
It seems very silly to be worked up over what other people choose to do if it isn't hurting anyone.
I am not worked up.
It's a message board. I am stuck at home sick. I started a topic with an observation and my opinion.
I don't like little girls made up and posed to look like 26 year old brides. Period. The end.
People don't need to take it personally.
I'm not judging the kind of party you chose to throw. Others jumped in talking about over the top parties.
I was talking about these PARTICULAR pictures that i saw that I found disturbing.
You may not find them disturbing- I do.
It's my opinion and I'm entitled to it.
It doesn't mean my daughter will grow up to be a mean girl.
I don't go around telling her my opinions on these matters. I discuss them with adults, on these boards, where it's anonymous.
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by MerryChristmas
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by MerryChristmas
Who cares??? Live and let live.
If that makes people happy then who is anyone to judge? Why is not taking pictures and having a party at a pizzeria ok but having photos done and having a party at a hall not ok? Everyone celebrates differently.
If the people who went all out questioned and posted asking why don't those parents care enough to go all out there would be riots
I don't give a shit what kind of party you chose to have and if you chose to spend $1000 on a wedding gown for your 8 year old.
What I found disturbing was playing up the pictures to make them look like brides.
They are not brides
They are 8 year old children making their First Communion.
The pictures I was talking about the girl was posed and staged very similar to most wedding pictures I have seen.
I have also seen limos and "bridal" type parties. And the limo driver was hitting the horn that played "here comes the bride"
THAT I find disturbing.
I don't find that "disturbing". Maybe not my style or taste and maybe not what I would choose to do but not "disturbing".
I just don't understand the judgement. What difference does it make to anyone?
Everyone is so quick to judge one another and then wonder why our daughters grow up to be catty and nasty.
It seems very silly to be worked up over what other people choose to do if it isn't hurting anyone.
I am not worked up.
It's a message board. I am stuck at home sick. I started a topic with an observation and my opinion.
I don't like little girls made up and posed to look like 26 year old brides. Period. The end.
People don't need to take it personally.
I'm not judging the kind of party you chose to throw. Others jumped in talking about over the top parties.
I was talking about these PARTICULAR pictures that i saw that I found disturbing.
You may not find them disturbing- I do.
It's my opinion and I'm entitled to it.
It doesn't mean my daughter will grow up to be a mean girl.
I don't go around telling her my opinions on these matters. I discuss them with adults, on these boards, where it's anonymous.
Alrighty then 
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
The limo playing "here comes the bride" for a little girl receiving communion is honestly something I have NEVER seen and NEVER heard of. That's not over the top - to me that's pretty much nuts and weird LOL.
But, after that you lost me. I'm not sure how having a big party or buying an expensive communion dress/suit makes you "sad" or any less of a religious person  It's a milestone in the Catholic Faith and one that has always been celebrated as such. Maybe it's a cultural thing but I remember communion being a big deal back when I was growing up too - searching for the perfect dress, big party and all! My DD hasn't had her Communion yet but, I bought my DS a beautiful suit that cost $$ and had a big party at a catering hall/country club. I also consider myself and my family to be pretty religious and have kids in Catholic School. As a previous poster said - I even go to church every Sunday  To me, celebrating these important milestones isn't a waste - it's what life is all about - getting the family together for happy times and creating memories! Heck communions and baptisms are sometimes the only time we see extended family members aside from funerals! Some of my most wonderful memories growing up are from these celebrations. And my kids recognize that these are important days in their faith and they are celebrated as such!
And, it's not just us Catholics - Heck, Bar Mitzvahs actually ARE as expensive as weddings and always have been and I don't see any threads knocking them
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
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The limo playing "here comes the bride" for a little girl receiving communion is honestly something I have NEVER seen and NEVER heard of. That's not over the top - to me that's pretty much nuts and weird LOL.
But, after that you lost me. I'm not sure how having a big party or buying an expensive communion dress/suit makes you "sad" or any less of a religious person It's a milestone in the Catholic Faith and one that has always been celebrated as such. Maybe it's a cultural thing but I remember communion being a big deal back when I was growing up too - searching for the perfect dress, big party and all! My DD hasn't had her Communion yet but, I bought my DS a beautiful suit that cost $$ and had a big party at a catering hall/country club. I also consider myself and my family to be pretty religious and have kids in Catholic School. As a previous poster said - I even go to church every Sunday To me, celebrating these important milestones isn't a waste - it's what life is all about - getting the family together for happy times and creating memories! Heck communions and baptisms are sometimes the only time we see extended family members aside from funerals! Some of my most wonderful memories growing up are from these celebrations. And my kids recognize that these are important days in their faith and they are celebrated as such!
And, it's not just us Catholics - Heck, Bar Mitzvahs actually ARE as expensive as weddings and always have been and I don't see any threads knocking them
Unfortunately there is no love icon. So I'll have to just like it. You perfectly said what I wanted to say. Even down to being happy to see family at a happy occasion and not a funeral.  
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Communions are a big deal in my family so we will have a party.
We also had a big first birthday.
We weren't showing off/trying to one up anyone
We actually just like parties and wanted to celebrate with family and friends
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
And the size of my party does not equal the size? Of my faith
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by LuckyStar
Makeup?? My mom put my hair in pink sponge rollers the night before my communion.
I had the same! I think I still have a headache!
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NervousNell
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by itsbabytime
The limo playing "here comes the bride" for a little girl receiving communion is honestly something I have NEVER seen and NEVER heard of. That's not over the top - to me that's pretty much nuts and weird LOL.
But, after that you lost me. I'm not sure how having a big party or buying an expensive communion dress/suit makes you "sad" or any less of a religious person It's a milestone in the Catholic Faith and one that has always been celebrated as such. Maybe it's a cultural thing but I remember communion being a big deal back when I was growing up too - searching for the perfect dress, big party and all! My DD hasn't had her Communion yet but, I bought my DS a beautiful suit that cost $$ and had a big party at a catering hall/country club. I also consider myself and my family to be pretty religious and have kids in Catholic School. As a previous poster said - I even go to church every Sunday To me, celebrating these important milestones isn't a waste - it's what life is all about - getting the family together for happy times and creating memories! Heck communions and baptisms are sometimes the only time we see extended family members aside from funerals! Some of my most wonderful memories growing up are from these celebrations. And my kids recognize that these are important days in their faith and they are celebrated as such!
And, it's not just us Catholics - Heck, Bar Mitzvahs actually ARE as expensive as weddings and always have been and I don't see any threads knocking them
Not sure if you were referring to me since I am the OP...but I never called anyone 'sad" or said anything against having a large expensive party . I never said it was a waste. Where did I say anything like that?
I was speaking of 8 year old girls staged to look like brides in photos. That was it.
Unless you have me confused with someone else on this thread who called it '"sad" or a waste.
If not, show me where I ever said that on this thread because I am confused. ...
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Communions- when did they become
Glad I'm not catholic...
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
The boy parents have it good (I got off easy!) It is so crazy the amount of money spent and the focus on the way a little girl looks. Absolutely look like they are getting married ! Between the hair, makeup, the dresses and shoes. we wonder why teenage girls have complexes about their appearance. It's the Mothers that do this.
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by MerryChristmas
It seems very silly to be worked up over what other people choose to do if it isn't hurting anyone.
I dunno, the baby at the baby wedding didn't seem too thrilled to be up past her bedtime dancing in front of DJ speakers wearing a dress of honey boo boo proportions
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by Millie3
The boy parents have it good (I got off easy!) It is so crazy the amount of money spent and the focus on the way a little girl looks. Absolutely look like they are getting married ! Between the hair, makeup, the dresses and shoes. we wonder why teenage girls have complexes about their appearance. It's the Mothers that do this.
yes, but if you say anything against it, your daughter will become a judgmental mean girl.
So either way you can't win.
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by NervousNell
And I feel like the ones who go way over the top are the ones who really care the least about the religious meaning behind the sacrament.
It's all a big show
Ding ding!! I know of people who don't even go to church, and have to scramble to get their church bulletin's signed from other people or they can't do the communion. So ridiculous IMO. If you don't go to church, then why are you bothering with sacraments?!
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by MerryChristmas
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by MerryChristmas
Who cares??? Live and let live.
If that makes people happy then who is anyone to judge? Why is not taking pictures and having a party at a pizzeria ok but having photos done and having a party at a hall not ok? Everyone celebrates differently.
If the people who went all out questioned and posted asking why don't those parents care enough to go all out there would be riots
I don't give a shit what kind of party you chose to have and if you chose to spend $1000 on a wedding gown for your 8 year old.
What I found disturbing was playing up the pictures to make them look like brides.
They are not brides
They are 8 year old children making their First Communion.
The pictures I was talking about the girl was posed and staged very similar to most wedding pictures I have seen.
I have also seen limos and "bridal" type parties. And the limo driver was hitting the horn that played "here comes the bride"
THAT I find disturbing.
I don't find that "disturbing". Maybe not my style or taste and maybe not what I would choose to do but not "disturbing".
I just don't understand the judgement. What difference does it make to anyone?
Everyone is so quick to judge one another and then wonder why our daughters grow up to be catty and nasty.
It seems very silly to be worked up over what other people choose to do if it isn't hurting anyone.
I am not worked up.
It's a message board. I am stuck at home sick. I started a topic with an observation and my opinion.
I don't like little girls made up and posed to look like 26 year old brides. Period. The end.
People don't need to take it personally.
I'm not judging the kind of party you chose to throw. Others jumped in talking about over the top parties.
I was talking about these PARTICULAR pictures that i saw that I found disturbing.
You may not find them disturbing- I do.
It's my opinion and I'm entitled to it.
It doesn't mean my daughter will grow up to be a mean girl.
I don't go around telling her my opinions on these matters. I discuss them with adults, on these boards, where it's anonymous.
I know exactly what you are saying, I've seen those photo shoots all over FB. Someone I know posted a collage photo of her wedding picture, and her daughter's communion photo shoot, doing the same pose. They aren't mini brides. It's bizarre, so I hear you on that! And I'm catholic!
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Communions- when did they become
They have always been big in my family, I had a big party at a restaurant/catering hall.
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by DiamondGirl
They have always been big in my family, I had a big party at a restaurant/catering hall.
I did too.
When I titled this thread- "when did they become 'weddings' for little girls" I didn't mean in the sense of a big party at a catering hall. That's pretty standard I thought.
I meant in terms of the pictures staged to look very bridal, make up, elaborate wedding like dresses with long veils etc
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by BargainMama
Posted by NervousNell
And I feel like the ones who go way over the top are the ones who really care the least about the religious meaning behind the sacrament.
It's all a big show
Ding ding!! I know of people who don't even go to church, and have to scramble to get their church bulletin's signed from other people or they can't do the communion. So ridiculous IMO. If you don't go to church, then why are you bothering with sacraments?!
Yes! Most seem to do for tradition. I took my daughter to her grade level Mass and the two of us seemed to be the only ones that knew when to sit and stand, etc. At the appropriate times.... Everyone was following our lead. Lol. And when the kids were asked to say their prayers together to show the priest that they learned them, so few of the kids even knew them. I was so Sad by that. I get the tradition thing, but honestly. I dont understand why people make such a big deal about it if the faith is not important to you. The lady inreligious education office in my parish tolld me himself that about 90% of the families in religious ed. Are never seen unless its.baptism, communion and confirmation and after confirmation they are gone for good.
Regarding the original post, the over the top communions are ridiculous. I am not a fan of the lavish dresses and all that. You are receiving the body and blood of christ... A pretty, simple dress is appropriate for.church. You dont need poofy dresses out to here, makeup, a tiara, etc. That said, yes my daughter will have a nice dress, her hair will be done, we will have a party at home, but the focus is on the Sacrament for our family.
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by donegal419
Posted by BargainMama
Posted by NervousNell
And I feel like the ones who go way over the top are the ones who really care the least about the religious meaning behind the sacrament.
It's all a big show
Ding ding!! I know of people who don't even go to church, and have to scramble to get their church bulletin's signed from other people or they can't do the communion. So ridiculous IMO. If you don't go to church, then why are you bothering with sacraments?!
Yes! Most seem to do for tradition. I took my daughter to her grade level Mass and the two of us seemed to be the only ones that knew when to sit and stand, etc. At the appropriate times.... Everyone was following our lead. Lol. And when the kids were asked to say their prayers together to show the priest that they learned them, so few of the kids even knew them. I was so Sad by that. I get the tradition thing, but honestly. I dont understand why people make such a big deal about it if the faith is not important to you. The lady inreligious education office in my parish tolld me himself that about 90% of the families in religious ed. Are never seen unless its.baptism, communion and confirmation and after confirmation they are gone for good.
Regarding the original post, the over the top communions are ridiculous. I am not a fan of the lavish dresses and all that. You are receiving the body and blood of christ... A pretty, simple dress is appropriate for.church. You dont need poofy dresses out to here, makeup, a tiara, etc. That said, yes my daughter will have a nice dress, her hair will be done, we will have a party at home, but the focus is on the Sacrament for our family.
I am on of those people who is not religious (I'm pretty much agnostic) but my daughter had a fairly nice communion party. We had it outside and had nice caterers and center pieces etc. she didn't do any of the bride-y stuff though. We did hire a photographer but mostly because I hate stopping to take pictures at a party. I don't really believe in communions but I got into the Pinterest party planning aspect of it. Why? Because my inlaws are VERY religious. It was important to them for my dd to make her communion. It made them very happy and it was not a sacrifice for me to have her maker her communion. Planning the party was fun for me and I focused on that aspect. So even though I am not religious, other people in my family are and it means a lot to them. our children don't belong solely to us they are party of the whole family and just because I don't believe in religion doesn't mean I don't want my DD to have done sort of foundation.
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
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Posted by NervousNell
And I feel like the ones who go way over the top are the ones who really care the least about the religious meaning behind the sacrament.
It's all a big show
Ding ding!! I know of people who don't even go to church, and have to scramble to get their church bulletin's signed from other people or they can't do the communion. So ridiculous IMO. If you don't go to church, then why are you bothering with sacraments?!
LOL Our church invites the kid's to come back the following day for their Second Communion at regular mass. They can wear their Communion outfit. Last year out of 75 kids one kid showed up.
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by donegal419
Posted by BargainMama
Posted by NervousNell
And I feel like the ones who go way over the top are the ones who really care the least about the religious meaning behind the sacrament.
It's all a big show
Ding ding!! I know of people who don't even go to church, and have to scramble to get their church bulletin's signed from other people or they can't do the communion. So ridiculous IMO. If you don't go to church, then why are you bothering with sacraments?!
Yes! Most seem to do for tradition. I took my daughter to her grade level Mass and the two of us seemed to be the only ones that knew when to sit and stand, etc. At the appropriate times.... Everyone was following our lead. Lol. And when the kids were asked to say their prayers together to show the priest that they learned them, so few of the kids even knew them. I was so Sad by that. I get the tradition thing, but honestly. I dont understand why people make such a big deal about it if the faith is not important to you. The lady inreligious education office in my parish tolld me himself that about 90% of the families in religious ed. Are never seen unless its.baptism, communion and confirmation and after confirmation they are gone for good.
Regarding the original post, the over the top communions are ridiculous. I am not a fan of the lavish dresses and all that. You are receiving the body and blood of christ... A pretty, simple dress is appropriate for.church. You dont need poofy dresses out to here, makeup, a tiara, etc. That said, yes my daughter will have a nice dress, her hair will be done, we will have a party at home, but the focus is on the Sacrament for our family.
I don't believe you have to be a regular at mass to have faith, or, even be a religious person.
I think most of that 90% you refer to are good people who want to give their children a foundation in the FAITH of the Catholic Church, the basic right from wrong teachings, etc .... But that is another thread ......
I agree most go through the sacraments more for tradition. We do. And for most, that family tradition involves a party to celebrate. I personally, would prefer an obscenely over the top party celebrating WHATEVER it is with friends and family, over seeing them at a funeral.
I don't the the OP was questioning the amount of money spent, the scale of the celebration or anything like that ........just the fact that little girls, at 8 years old are being made up to look and behave like they are 30 .........and as if that were not 'creep' enough (and creepy is my word) they're doing it for a religiouis event, in Church -
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
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Posted by BargainMama
Posted by NervousNell
And I feel like the ones who go way over the top are the ones who really care the least about the religious meaning behind the sacrament.
It's all a big show
Ding ding!! I know of people who don't even go to church, and have to scramble to get their church bulletin's signed from other people or they can't do the communion. So ridiculous IMO. If you don't go to church, then why are you bothering with sacraments?!
LOL Our church invites the kid's to come back the following day for their Second Communion at regular mass. They can wear their Communion outfit. Last year out of 75 kids one kid showed up.
How do they know that? Maybe the kids weren't wearing their communion outfits and just regular clothes?
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
Posted by blessedmama
Posted by haveaquestion
Posted by BargainMama
Posted by NervousNell
And I feel like the ones who go way over the top are the ones who really care the least about the religious meaning behind the sacrament.
It's all a big show
Ding ding!! I know of people who don't even go to church, and have to scramble to get their church bulletin's signed from other people or they can't do the communion. So ridiculous IMO. If you don't go to church, then why are you bothering with sacraments?!
LOL Our church invites the kid's to come back the following day for their Second Communion at regular mass. They can wear their Communion outfit. Last year out of 75 kids one kid showed up.
How do they know that? Maybe the kids weren't wearing their communion outfits and just regular clothes?
I'm quite certain they know the kids well enough to know if they see them in church, receiving communion the next day. Regardless if they are wearing their communion clothes or not.
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
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Posted by blessedmama
Posted by haveaquestion
Posted by BargainMama
Posted by NervousNell
And I feel like the ones who go way over the top are the ones who really care the least about the religious meaning behind the sacrament.
It's all a big show
Ding ding!! I know of people who don't even go to church, and have to scramble to get their church bulletin's signed from other people or they can't do the communion. So ridiculous IMO. If you don't go to church, then why are you bothering with sacraments?!
LOL Our church invites the kid's to come back the following day for their Second Communion at regular mass. They can wear their Communion outfit. Last year out of 75 kids one kid showed up.
How do they know that? Maybe the kids weren't wearing their communion outfits and just regular clothes?
I'm quite certain they know the kids well enough to know if they see them in church, receiving communion the next day. Regardless if they are wearing their communion clothes or not.
I guess if it is a small church but I know in my church there is no way the priest (if he even was the one who gave the child the communion both days) would remember.
IME the kids are not in the church setting as "kids preparing for their first communion" that often for the priest of any of the catechists who give out the bread and wine to remember them.
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
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Posted by haveaquestion
Posted by BargainMama
Posted by NervousNell
And I feel like the ones who go way over the top are the ones who really care the least about the religious meaning behind the sacrament.
It's all a big show
Ding ding!! I know of people who don't even go to church, and have to scramble to get their church bulletin's signed from other people or they can't do the communion. So ridiculous IMO. If you don't go to church, then why are you bothering with sacraments?!
LOL Our church invites the kid's to come back the following day for their Second Communion at regular mass. They can wear their Communion outfit. Last year out of 75 kids one kid showed up.
How do they know that? Maybe the kids weren't wearing their communion outfits and just regular clothes?
I'm quite certain they know the kids well enough to know if they see them in church, receiving communion the next day. Regardless if they are wearing their communion clothes or not.
I guess if it is a small church but I know in my church there is no way the priest (if he even was the one who gave the child the communion both days) would remember.
IME the kids are not in the church setting as "kids preparing for their first communion" that often for the priest of any of the catechists who give out the bread and wine to remember them.
....but they go to religion every single week, so I'm sure they know.
You are all fooling yourselves if you think the church doesn't notice who attends, and who doesn't when it's communion season. It's actually quite sad IMO that people want to "build a foundation" for their kids, but don't take them to church EVER. How do you build a foundation without that? So bizarre, but to each their own ;) ...and I'm not directing that to anyone on here, but I've heard that so much in real life.
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blessedmama
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Re: Communions- when did they become "weddings" for little girls?
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And I feel like the ones who go way over the top are the ones who really care the least about the religious meaning behind the sacrament.
It's all a big show
Ding ding!! I know of people who don't even go to church, and have to scramble to get their church bulletin's signed from other people or they can't do the communion. So ridiculous IMO. If you don't go to church, then why are you bothering with sacraments?!
LOL Our church invites the kid's to come back the following day for their Second Communion at regular mass. They can wear their Communion outfit. Last year out of 75 kids one kid showed up.
How do they know that? Maybe the kids weren't wearing their communion outfits and just regular clothes?
I'm quite certain they know the kids well enough to know if they see them in church, receiving communion the next day. Regardless if they are wearing their communion clothes or not.
I guess if it is a small church but I know in my church there is no way the priest (if he even was the one who gave the child the communion both days) would remember.
IME the kids are not in the church setting as "kids preparing for their first communion" that often for the priest of any of the catechists who give out the bread and wine to remember them.
....but they go to religion every single week, so I'm sure they know.
You are all fooling yourselves if you think the church doesn't notice who attends, and who doesn't when it's communion season. It's actually quite sad IMO that people want to "build a foundation" for their kids, but don't take them to church EVER. How do you build a foundation without that? So bizarre, but to each their own ;) ...and I'm not directing that to anyone on here, but I've heard that so much in real life.
My church does not have religion classes on the premises. The classes are taken at people's homes usually once a week and then they go to a few things during the year, more if they are making a sacrament.
I do have to tell you that my son goes to church either with me or his friends mom and friend and when he went to one of the things they had at the church, one of the priests said, I hope to see you in church. He is there all the time so it is obvious that they can't remember every kid that comes and when mass is packed, they might even give the child communion that week. When we went for Easter I told him to say hi so he would remember that he was there, lol, and he looked at him like he never saw him before. He is a young priest too so even the young ones can't remember lol.
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