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Mushesgirl
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confront or not?
So after months of being preempted, bumped, cancelled on, I'm seeing a gf tomorrow (see other thread lol). She tried to change the time at the last minute again. I said no that doesn't work for me.
I'm tired of being bumped. Would you tell the person or just eat it?
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Posted 10/11/13 10:18 PM  |
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chilltocam
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confront or not?
Sorry - this is probably too late, but I would bring it up. I wouldn't sound upset, but more like, hey, I miss seeing you and it's really kind of hard to make plans with you because you always cancel. I would also try to explain that as much as you understand it can be difficult to schedule with kids, you're feeling like your friendship is not important to her and that what she does is hurtful. I'd try to keep it short and simple, without turning it into a big deal.
So, did you wind up saying anything? If so, how'd it go?
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| Posted 10/14/13 5:27 PM |
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Mushesgirl
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Re: confront or not?
thanks for the reply, I did say something. I asked if she just found out about the event she was trying to bump me for (of course a kid party). She said yeah. I said well its hard enough trying to schedule time to hang out with you. And I left it at that.
Did she just find out about the kid party? I wonder. But she's got that head-up-your-a$$-itis disease that's going around so maybe she just forgot about it.
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| Posted 10/14/13 6:46 PM |
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chilltocam
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confront or not?
At least you gave her something to think about (hopefully) that you are aware of the fact that she cancels/re-schedules on you frequently and that it doesn't go unnoticed. (although I guess those afflicted with "head-up-your-a$$-itis disease " rarely think about anyone else). Curious to see what happens next time.
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| Posted 10/15/13 10:15 AM |
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Mushesgirl
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Re: confront or not?
LOL yeah next time could be a year from now at this rate
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| Posted 10/15/13 7:32 PM |
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HoneyBadger
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confront or not?
Sorry, this is after the fact but I figured I'd chime in anyway...
Based on the situation with this person I think you did the right thing. If she was always on the ball with gtg and this just came up, I'd say cut her some slack but the fact that she's a habitual canceller, rescheduler, I'd say no dice. This is when she made the plans with you, tough. Is she married? Can't her husband take their child to the party? There are options, she's just choosing to ditch you, which, IMO, is a whole other story...
I think it was good that you said something to her, I hope it gives her some food for thought.
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| Posted 10/17/13 3:19 PM |
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Mushesgirl
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Re: confront or not?
Posted by HoneyBadger
Sorry, this is after the fact but I figured I'd chime in anyway...
Based on the situation with this person I think you did the right thing. If she was always on the ball with gtg and this just came up, I'd say cut her some slack but the fact that she's a habitual canceller, rescheduler, I'd say no dice. This is when she made the plans with you, tough. Is she married? Can't her husband take their child to the party? There are options, she's just choosing to ditch you, which, IMO, is a whole other story...
I think it was good that you said something to her, I hope it gives her some food for thought.
thank you. she is married. that's a whole other ball of wax
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| Posted 10/17/13 6:15 PM |
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