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janet
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could use some advice on how to handle this
I got a call tonight from a former girlfriends husband. I have not talked to them in about 2 years. long story short her mom just found out she had a medical condition that she should not have at this age and is physically and emotionally gone for the time being. also in the hospital.
I feel bad but there was a big reason I cut them from my life. the mom though I am worried about, she is a wonderful lady. can you get where I am going with this.
how can I handle this, should i keep in touch with them now knowing this?
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hey Janet you cut them from your life for a reason, keep it that way.
fm me if you would like. TIA
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Posted 7/24/08 11:06 PM  |
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CallaLily
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Re: could use some advice on how to handle this
If you are really concerned about the mom, I would keep in touch but keep your distance. Can you contact the mother without going through the family?
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| Posted 7/25/08 2:19 AM |
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janet
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Re: could use some advice on how to handle this
Posted by Renee615
If you are really concerned about the mom, I would keep in touch but keep your distance. Can you contact the mother without going through the family?
i guess i could try. i do know what hospital she is in. but i do not know if they would let me in so see her being the kind of room she is in. i guess i can try and call and see what happens. does not hurt to try.
i do know though if i can talk to the mom i just might be able to help her get out of the depression a little at least
Message edited 7/25/2008 8:57:53 AM.
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| Posted 7/25/08 3:43 AM |
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dm24angel
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Re: could use some advice on how to handle this
what was the reason for the call? Just to tell you? Ask for something?
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| Posted 7/25/08 8:18 AM |
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janet
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Re: could use some advice on how to handle this
Posted by dm24angel
what was the reason for the call? Just to tell you? Ask for something?
to help calm her down ... she was very upset and her dh could not calm her. someimes you need that outside person to help calm someone down. i was able to calm her down and tell her to go to sleep.
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| Posted 7/25/08 8:53 AM |
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PrincessP
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Re: could use some advice on how to handle this
This is a tough one bc you have a good heart and will probably help them regardless of what anyone tells you anyhow. So IMO go with your gut not with a grudge from the past. Ive been pulled back into situations where I thought " here we go again" but ya know what, there is a reason she contacted you. If you see it in your heart to hep out then do so. Even if she screws ya once again at least you did it with good intentions. AND like you said you do care about this lady so you might want to maintain this relationship and kinda think of it as doing it for yourself...at least for the time being...KWIM...
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| Posted 7/25/08 8:03 PM |
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janet
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Re: could use some advice on how to handle this
Posted by PrincessP
This is a tough one bc you have a good heart and will probably help them regardless of what anyone tells you anyhow. So IMO go with your gut not with a grudge from the past. Ive been pulled back into situations where I thought " here we go again" but ya know what, there is a reason she contacted you. If you see it in your heart to hep out then do so. Even if she screws ya once again at least you did it with good intentions. AND like you said you do care about this lady so you might want to maintain this relationship and kinda think of it as doing it for yourself...at least for the time being...KWIM...
Your a sweetie! and yes I know what you mean. I have had this on my mond ALL day and it is driving me crazy with worry. I have known the girl for now 16 years. My gut and my heart are at battles with this right now. I think I will see if she contacts me again or her dh. I know her and I KNOW she is going to "not be in a good place" with this going on. she has a 4 year old at home and that is alot of my worry. if she losses it too. WHAT TO DO
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| Posted 7/25/08 9:58 PM |
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Terry34
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Re: could use some advice on how to handle this
Not knowing the history of why you cut them out of your life, I'm not sure how to answer. Try to go with your gut and maybe talk to her about this situation with her mom and try to help in that way, but limit the conversation to only that subject.
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| Posted 7/27/08 7:40 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: could use some advice on how to handle this
Posted by Terry34
Not knowing the history of why you cut them out of your life, I'm not sure how to answer. Try to go with your gut and maybe talk to her about this situation with her mom and try to help in that way, but limit the conversation to only that subject.
I agree.
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| Posted 7/27/08 10:13 PM |
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janet
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Re: could use some advice on how to handle this
Posted by Terry34
Not knowing the history of why you cut them out of your life, I'm not sure how to answer. Try to go with your gut and maybe talk to her about this situation with her mom and try to help in that way, but limit the conversation to only that subject.
ALOT OF DRAMA !!!! but what you said is a good point.... keep it to just about her mom.. i really do not want to be pulled back in to all that drama. last night she called me at 11 pm and i got scared when the phone rang (i was sleeping) and all i did was ask how her mom was and said good she is doing a little better. now i have to go back to sleep. and that was it. i do not want to be rude to her and i know if it was my mom going through this i would want someone to talk to . so i guess for the time being if i do talk to her it will just be of her mom and that's it
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| Posted 7/27/08 10:45 PM |
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