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JenniferEver
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Re: Cry me an effing river
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Some people think they're problems are really bad, not matter how trivial it may seem to you. If you are a good friend, you listen.
I don't 100% agree with that- if a good friend knows that you are going thru a worse time- they shouldn't tell you these things
90% of my friends wont call me and tell me about a fight they just got into with their Mom- b/c they know it would upset beyond them being upset about a stupid fight
I am making sense
You make total sense. I agree. But when you are friends with someone, my opinion is you just sit there and listen, and dont b*tch about it. One mans problem may be a joke to someone else.
I understand what you're saying. I don't play the "my problems are worse than yours game" I wouldn't be upset at all if he hadn;t built it up as a huge disaster that was going to put him over the edge. I don't think he's coming to me with his problems as much as he is bragging/trying to get a rise out of me, which he loves to do
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Re: Cry me an effing river
Posted by HollaGirl
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by Beth1210
Posted by HollaGirl
Some people think they're problems are really bad, not matter how trivial it may seem to you. If you are a good friend, you listen.
I don't 100% agree with that- if a good friend knows that you are going thru a worse time- they shouldn't tell you these things
90% of my friends wont call me and tell me about a fight they just got into with their Mom- b/c they know it would upset beyond them being upset about a stupid fight
I am making sense
I agree with Beth. It's called sensitivity. Some people have real problems and a true friend knows not to make a mountain out of their molehill.
And a true friend listens to another friend even when they are talking out of their a$$.
I suppose, but to make such a big deal out of putting money on a sports team...hello that is why it is called "gambling". You are not guaranteed to win.
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JenniferEver
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Re: Cry me an effing river
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by HollaGirl
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by Beth1210
Posted by HollaGirl
Some people think they're problems are really bad, not matter how trivial it may seem to you. If you are a good friend, you listen.
I don't 100% agree with that- if a good friend knows that you are going thru a worse time- they shouldn't tell you these things
90% of my friends wont call me and tell me about a fight they just got into with their Mom- b/c they know it would upset beyond them being upset about a stupid fight
I am making sense
I agree with Beth. It's called sensitivity. Some people have real problems and a true friend knows not to make a mountain out of their molehill.
And a true friend listens to another friend even when they are talking out of their a$$.
I suppose, but to make such a big deal out of putting money on a sports team...hello that is why it is called "gambling". You are not guaranteed to win.
I have no sympathy at all for the gambling.
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Re: Cry me an effing river
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by HollaGirl
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by Beth1210
Posted by HollaGirl
Some people think they're problems are really bad, not matter how trivial it may seem to you. If you are a good friend, you listen.
I don't 100% agree with that- if a good friend knows that you are going thru a worse time- they shouldn't tell you these things
90% of my friends wont call me and tell me about a fight they just got into with their Mom- b/c they know it would upset beyond them being upset about a stupid fight
I am making sense
I agree with Beth. It's called sensitivity. Some people have real problems and a true friend knows not to make a mountain out of their molehill.
And a true friend listens to another friend even when they are talking out of their a$$.
I suppose, but to make such a big deal out of putting money on a sports team...hello that is why it is called "gambling". You are not guaranteed to win.
And maybe he is a degenrate gambler who needs help. Who knows. You said he does this all the time.
The solution: Stop talking to him.
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| Posted 11/30/06 1:47 PM |
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Re: Cry me an effing river
Posted by JenniferEver
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by HollaGirl
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by Beth1210
Posted by HollaGirl
Some people think they're problems are really bad, not matter how trivial it may seem to you. If you are a good friend, you listen.
I don't 100% agree with that- if a good friend knows that you are going thru a worse time- they shouldn't tell you these things
90% of my friends wont call me and tell me about a fight they just got into with their Mom- b/c they know it would upset beyond them being upset about a stupid fight
I am making sense
I agree with Beth. It's called sensitivity. Some people have real problems and a true friend knows not to make a mountain out of their molehill.
And a true friend listens to another friend even when they are talking out of their a$$.
I suppose, but to make such a big deal out of putting money on a sports team...hello that is why it is called "gambling". You are not guaranteed to win.
I have no sympathy at all for the gambling.
Me either, and I was a pretty hard-core gambler. But you have to know that the odds are against you.
I can understand if he is frustrated that his pool table takes up too much room, etc, but it sounds like he is very $$ oriented. JMHO
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| Posted 11/30/06 1:48 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: Cry me an effing river
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by JenniferEver
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by HollaGirl
Posted by MsMBV
Posted by Beth1210
Posted by HollaGirl
Some people think they're problems are really bad, not matter how trivial it may seem to you. If you are a good friend, you listen.
I don't 100% agree with that- if a good friend knows that you are going thru a worse time- they shouldn't tell you these things
90% of my friends wont call me and tell me about a fight they just got into with their Mom- b/c they know it would upset beyond them being upset about a stupid fight
I am making sense
I agree with Beth. It's called sensitivity. Some people have real problems and a true friend knows not to make a mountain out of their molehill.
And a true friend listens to another friend even when they are talking out of their a$$.
I suppose, but to make such a big deal out of putting money on a sports team...hello that is why it is called "gambling". You are not guaranteed to win.
I have no sympathy at all for the gambling.
Me either, and I was a pretty hard-core gambler. But you have to know that the odds are against you.
I can understand if he is frustrated that his pool table takes up too much room, etc, but it sounds like he is very $$ oriented. JMHO
He is..now he;s onto how he's "bogged down in negotiations to close on his 1.1 M brownsstone"
I don't even know what any of this is true.
I just said "I don't care"
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| Posted 11/30/06 1:50 PM |
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Re: Cry me an effing river
Jenn:
I'm no psychologist, but here's what I think
He was your ex bf and ex best friend, so there were some feelings there. And those feelings never go away.
Yes, his problems are trivial to those on the outside looking in, but I do think, deep down, you still care.
And I know things are tough for you guys financially right now, so seeing an ex flaunt around wealth has gotta be irksome as well.
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Re: Cry me an effing river
Posted by JenniferEver
He is..now he;s onto how he's "bogged down in negotiations to close on his 1.1 M brownsstone"
I don't even know what any of this is true.
I just said "I don't care"
He sounds a bit insecure. 
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Re: Cry me an effing river
 WHY ??
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| Posted 11/30/06 1:52 PM |
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Re: Cry me an effing river
Eh, it all sounds like bragging to me... maybe he is trying to get a rise out of you...
Doesn't sound like much of a friend at the moment...especially if he knows you are having financial issues and still felt compelled to specify how much his house is going to cost.
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| Posted 11/30/06 1:54 PM |
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HollaGirl
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Re: Cry me an effing river
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WHY ??
I am not rolling my eyes at you.
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| Posted 11/30/06 1:57 PM |
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DaniJude
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Re: Cry me an effing river
I would have said:
"If that is the worst thing that happens to you all day-- consider yourself VERY lucky!!!"
A$$... I wish people like that knew what real problems were!! 
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| Posted 11/30/06 1:58 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: Cry me an effing river
I have to clarify this not a jealousy thing. I have no problem being happy for people who have nice houses, nice TV's, whatever. When he told me about how he was redoing his living room and ordering all new furniture and a new TV I was happy for him, he asked my opinon about the furniture, etc. I have no problem feeling happy for people. I'm just not going to feel BAD for him over it.
And I think he's trying to piss me off, and I really don't see how that's at all appropriate
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Re: Cry me an effing river
you should've told him WHERE he could put the pool table. and the plasma  
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HollaGirl
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Re: Cry me an effing river
Posted by JenniferEver
I have to clarify this not a jealousy thing. I have no problem being happy for people who have nice houses, nice TV's, whatever. When he told me about how he was redoing his living room and ordering all new furniture and a new TV I was happy for him, he asked my opinon about the furniture, etc. I have no problem feeling happy for people. I'm just not going to feel BAD for him over it.
And I think he's trying to piss me off, and I really don't see how that's at all appropriate
You do realize you are putting yourself in this situation, right? You said this is old hat to him. So, why do you continue to speak to him? Not understanding that at all. I will be damned if I let someone I used to date, piss me off AFTER we are broken up.
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JenniferEver
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Re: Cry me an effing river
Posted by neeniebean86
you should've told him WHERE he could put the pool table. and the plasma
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JenniferEver
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Re: Cry me an effing river
Posted by HollaGirl
Posted by JenniferEver
I have to clarify this not a jealousy thing. I have no problem being happy for people who have nice houses, nice TV's, whatever. When he told me about how he was redoing his living room and ordering all new furniture and a new TV I was happy for him, he asked my opinon about the furniture, etc. I have no problem feeling happy for people. I'm just not going to feel BAD for him over it.
And I think he's trying to piss me off, and I really don't see how that's at all appropriate
You do realize you are putting yourself in this situation, right? You said this is old hat to him. So, why do you continue to speak to him? Not understanding that at all. I will be damned if I let someone I used to date, piss me off AFTER we are broken up.
No, you're totally right. I AM doing it to myself.
But HE is still being an azz
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HollaGirl
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Re: Cry me an effing river
Posted by JenniferEver
Posted by HollaGirl
Posted by JenniferEver
I have to clarify this not a jealousy thing. I have no problem being happy for people who have nice houses, nice TV's, whatever. When he told me about how he was redoing his living room and ordering all new furniture and a new TV I was happy for him, he asked my opinon about the furniture, etc. I have no problem feeling happy for people. I'm just not going to feel BAD for him over it.
And I think he's trying to piss me off, and I really don't see how that's at all appropriate
You do realize you are putting yourself in this situation, right? You said this is old hat to him. So, why do you continue to speak to him? Not understanding that at all. I will be damned if I let someone I used to date, piss me off AFTER we are broken up.
No, you're totally right. I AM doing it to myself.
But HE is still being an azz
Then cut him off. He sounds like an insensitive a-hole.
Message edited 11/30/2006 2:02:25 PM.
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| Posted 11/30/06 2:02 PM |
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Re: Cry me an effing river
I hear you. Everyone feels upset over whatever their biggest problem is at the time. Tell him to sell the stupid pool table & give your family the money.
I know some people like to compare problems, but sometimes their comparisons leave me  - like when my sister in law was on life support & someone was comparing how their dog was getting old & they may have to put them to sleep.
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| Posted 11/30/06 2:08 PM |
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Re: Cry me an effing river
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Posted by unbelievable
WHY ??
I am not rolling my eyes at you.
oh ok .. I was a little confused ...
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| Posted 11/30/06 2:13 PM |
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sticklee
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Re: Cry me an effing river
Posted by HollaGirl
Posted by JenniferEver
Posted by HollaGirl
Posted by JenniferEver
I have to clarify this not a jealousy thing. I have no problem being happy for people who have nice houses, nice TV's, whatever. When he told me about how he was redoing his living room and ordering all new furniture and a new TV I was happy for him, he asked my opinon about the furniture, etc. I have no problem feeling happy for people. I'm just not going to feel BAD for him over it.
And I think he's trying to piss me off, and I really don't see how that's at all appropriate
You do realize you are putting yourself in this situation, right? You said this is old hat to him. So, why do you continue to speak to him? Not understanding that at all. I will be damned if I let someone I used to date, piss me off AFTER we are broken up.
No, you're totally right. I AM doing it to myself.
But HE is still being an azz
Then cut him off. He sounds like an insensitive a-hole.
i totally agree. why do you still talk to him if he always does this? he doesn't sound like a "friend" at all!
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| Posted 11/30/06 2:16 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: Cry me an effing river
Posted by sticklee
Posted by HollaGirl
Posted by JenniferEver
Posted by HollaGirl
Posted by JenniferEver
I have to clarify this not a jealousy thing. I have no problem being happy for people who have nice houses, nice TV's, whatever. When he told me about how he was redoing his living room and ordering all new furniture and a new TV I was happy for him, he asked my opinon about the furniture, etc. I have no problem feeling happy for people. I'm just not going to feel BAD for him over it.
And I think he's trying to piss me off, and I really don't see how that's at all appropriate
You do realize you are putting yourself in this situation, right? You said this is old hat to him. So, why do you continue to speak to him? Not understanding that at all. I will be damned if I let someone I used to date, piss me off AFTER we are broken up.
No, you're totally right. I AM doing it to myself.
But HE is still being an azz
Then cut him off. He sounds like an insensitive a-hole.
i totally agree. why do you still talk to him if he always does this? he doesn't sound like a "friend" at all!
You're right. he's a total azz. When he fianlly realized I wasn't going to leave Fh for me, now he just thinks that talking about this will make me jealous. Really is just annoys me. I don't talk to him much and I didn't talk to him for years at a time, but lately he has been acting normal. I IMed him to ask if he knew someone I just met who may be in his circles. blah
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| Posted 11/30/06 2:18 PM |
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Maathy317
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Re: Cry me an effing river
Oh puleeezzzeee!
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| Posted 11/30/06 2:55 PM |
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JenniferEver
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Re: Cry me an effing river
You girls were so right. He just said the most hurtful things anyone has ever said to me.
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| Posted 11/30/06 2:55 PM |
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Re: Cry me an effing river
Posted by JenniferEver
You girls were so right. He just said the most hurtful things anyone has ever said to me.
 forget about him
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