(daycare related) am I right to be mad or am I over-reacting?

This morning I knew I would be able to pick up Samantha earlier than normal by about a half hr...so I specifically left a note saying please don't feed her close to 4 as I can do it (I bf still and pump when she is in daycare).....I get there at 3:30 and am told, "oh, she's having her botttle..." and she had just finished.....it hadn't even been three hrs since her last one and I am just ticked that its only the 2nd week and despite my note, they did their thing....then I had to come home and pump.....

am I just pmsing or would you be ticked too???

eta: On her sheet we take home, it said "next feeding 3:30" (they write approz feediing times on it).......and while they acknowledged they got my note, they basically chalked it up as "oops, we thought she was hungry!!!"

also on the other days she has been there they followed the same feeding schedules and she didn't have a three thirty bottle....it was a four thrity one...

Message edited 3/6/2007 5:32:55 PM.

Re: (daycare related) am I right to be mad or am I over-reacting?

well if she was hungry I would have rather her be fed then wait for me
I probably wouldnt have gotten mad abut it

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my daycare does this to me ALL the time. I write on her sheet all the time specific times to feed her (she eats later than most kids) and they always try and feed her when they feed all the other kids...sometime 2 HOURS ahead of what I said (sometimes she eats, sometimes she doesn't--but it drives me batty)

makes me sooo mad...

Re: (daycare related) am I right to be mad or am I over-reacting?

As a BF mom I totally understand. I despise pumping so I would have been po'd that I would have to pump instead of just feed her.

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I missed the part that you are still pumping ......since thats the case I would have been ticked off

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I would be ticked off- they do what is easiest for them

I hate pumping too.

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as a nicu nurse i have to say that it is very difficult to console a baby without feeding him/her when you have other babies to look after. parents are always upset with us when we feed their babies early but if they were home and screaming you would feed them early too. babies don't always stick to a schedule unfortunately..

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I have worked in day care for 10 years. If a parent asks us to do something, we try our best to do it. If the baby starts crying we try to soothe him/her, play, do what we can to "hold them off". Unfortunatley, sometimes the it doesn't work and the baby is hungry.
I see that too now being home with my son. I try to have him on a schedule and if he is crying before the next bottle I change him, burp him, try to soothe him..sometimes, it just doesn't work. I know you are pumping and yes I do think I'd be a little upset. Did they say your DC was crying for a bottle? I wonder if they tried soothing or just gave your DC the bottle and that was it. If that were the case, I'd be POd.

Re: (daycare related) am I right to be mad or am I over-reacting?

I'll admit I've been upset sometimes too because I feel they've fed her too early. But, I've resigned myself to the idea that they do what works for her while she is there. She may have a little different schedule while she's there and that's okay. This may be different for me because she is only there one day a week. If she was there every day and they were feeding her too soon all the time, I would be annoyed.

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Well if Ryan was hungry I'd want him to be fed, I'd be annoyed though that they didn't listen to my note but glad they were looking out for him (if that's the case)

It does happen, sometimes 4 kids want to eat at once and his schedule will be off about 20 minutes or so (not too often luckily). The pumping factor makes it more annoying for sure, but if that weren't a factor it wouldn't be a big deal right?