DH and TTC after miscarriage(s)

Now that I've had/am having my 2nd miscarriage I'm nervous that DH won't want to TTC for a while, if ever again. He already talked about adoption and he's freaking me out! Anyone else's DH have this reaction?

Re: DH and TTC after miscarriage(s)

No experience just wanted to send some

Now is really not the time to make any major decisions about when to try again. After the loss of my triplets, I went to the hospital the day of the d&c promising myself I would never ever want to try again. By that night, I was excited (yet SCARED)by the idea of starting over. Just give it some time.

Message edited 5/29/2011 11:50:14 PM.

Re: DH and TTC after miscarriage(s)

I am so sorry I think he needs some time. We all say things we dont mean when something so tragic happens. It takes time to heal esp. if this is your 2nd miscarriage. I think he'll come around with time. Lots of hugs and prayers for you

Re: DH and TTC after miscarriage(s)

DH was kind of let down after the miscarriage saying things like "We have two healthy kids why are we going to rock the boat again"

It had the opposite effect on me and made me want another child even more!

He'll get there again, just give him some time!

Message edited 5/30/2011 1:15:22 PM.

Re: DH and TTC after miscarriage(s)

I'm the one who at times wants to stop trying and has felt not ready. It is mostly because I'm scared. Scared that we'll try and try but I won't get pregnant again. Scared that we'll lose another baby. Scared that we'll have a baby but it won't be healthy. Since the loss I have a lot of fear. At times I don't want to "rock the boat" either so to speak even though we don't have any children yet. I feel like we (DH and I) are so blessed already (in other areas of our lives) and it makes me feel almost greedy for wanting to create another life when there are so many children in the world without mothers.

I was open to the idea of adoption before getting pregnant so it's something I've always thought about. If adopting wasn't such a stressful, expensive and long process I would be down that road already. I would keep trying to get pregnant but we could start our family, which is what we want because I am ready to be a parent now. My husband wants a biological child but he said if it's something I want to look into in a few months if I'm still not pregnant he would be okay with it. For us we just want our family to grow.

One thing I know for sure after losing the baby is that I want to be a parent and I want to be a Mom. It's just the process of becoming one (the pregnancy thing) that scares me! I used to love the idea of being pregnant and now I kind of fear it. So we just keep trying and hopefully it happens and everything will be ok.

Honestly, I'm surprised that I am the more apprehensive one. I thought my DH would be a nervous wreck to try again but it's me who has more of an issue with it.

Message edited 6/2/2011 6:21:55 PM.