DH' or SO who work late-how to cope?

My DH works until 10 pm each night. He leaves at 10 am each morning. I miss him so much and now I am unwell its getting harder to cope.
Anyone else have a mate who has long hrs.

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There are actually quite a few of us whose DH's either work late or work nights. Mine works 3:30pm-11:30pm, so I don't see hiim at all if we are both working. It stinks, but I use this as "me time" especially now that I am so close to having the baby.

It's hard, but you will get through it

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mine! usually home anywhere between 8pm and 10pm. mon - thurs. Friday home at 4pm. and off Sat and Sun.
I hate mon- thurs! I usually eat dinner with friends or my parents those nights and get the cleaning and laundry done so that when friday comes we have the whole weekend together.

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Mine too! He works 5:30pm-2am Tue-Sat and I work 8am-4:30pm Mon-Fri and 9-1 Sat. But b/c I have a 1hr commute, I don't see him inbetween.

I usually only "see" DH when I get up in the AM and when he gets home, essentially it's "Hi and Bye"

Other than that, we see each other on occassional Saturdays (when I get out of work early), all say Sunday and Monday evenings.

What fun.


I have grown acustom to the schedule as we've been working this way for over 3 years!

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that's hard. Mine works until anywhere from 8-10 mon-thurs too and on Saturdays from like9-2. I work quite early so during the week it's hard. I'm still waiting for him tonight and it's almost 10:30

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DH leaves for work at 1:00pm and comes home at 2am. My work schedule varies form 9-6 or 12:30-10pm. He is a NYC cop sometimes he doesn't come home for a whole day. We try to make the best when we do see each other. I know it is hard for him to be away from us so I try not to make it difficult.

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Mine works nights, 10pm-5am 5 days a week. It's frustrating sometimes but it's working so far.

Once I take off from work, I think it will be nice to home together all day

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Mine works rotating shifts. This week is first shift, next week it's 3rd shift and what are weekends again?

I work 4pm-midnight m-f, so when he's on 2nd shift it's nice!!!! In order for us to get the same days off, we basically have to use vacation or sick days.

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My DH leaves at 4am and doesn't get home until 7pm sometimes! He just changed his route to try and get more hours home, but now we are making less $$! We both hate the hours, but it is the price we pay for me to be a SAHM. On Mondays he is home by 1:30pm...but other than that, his hours are really long. Most of the time he is so tired that he just passes out on the couch after he eats dinner...he promises to help around the house once gets here...but I just don't see how that is going to happen!

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DH and I actually lived apart during my whole first trimester. He was working down in VA, I was living and going to school in Northern MD. We saw each other once a week. I went through a pretty scary situation with fibroids and it was awful not having him here the whole time. We burned up the phone lines and made sure our limited time together was relaxing- NO fighting/serious discussions......

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Yup, a cop with crazy hrs, sometimes dosent come home at nite, till the next day.

I live close to home and my sis and will have them around to keep me busy.
And Im sure my little one will be keeping me busy too.

Im so used to it by now...I just know that when time comes...We will make it work.

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Right now my DH works from 9am-7:30pm and we travel in together and go home together. HOwever, when big projects come around (which is going to be soon) he will go in early like 9-10am and get home at like 3am sometimes 6am in the morning. This will go on for about 6 months until the game is out on the shelves. He is in the video game industry and is a lead on many projects so he has to put in long hours sometimes.

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My DH works at least 14 hours a day and usually more like 16! Depending on the day and the time of the call he leaves between 6-8 am and gets home on a good night by midnight. For now, I have gotten used to being home alone every night. I don't like it, but it is what we have to do.

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I try not to whine because bottom line is they don't enjoy being away. My DH works two shifts, either 3pm-1am or 11pm-8am...either way I don't see him much., especially with since that also includes three weekends a month. You know what? Its ok. And he'll be here when it really counts, not for just the daily moans and groans.

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Aww I knew I wasnt alone. We have been living like this for almost 8 years. I am fine with it when not preggo but I think because I have been so sick and spent so much time in the hospital I am in a weird needy stage. I keep my feelings to myself and havent said anything as I know he HATES being away. He calls all day long and I enjoy that we at least go to sleep together.
All I look forward to is the day I go into labor and we get teh week of child bonding and a week of vacation from his joy...oh bliss.

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Mine works nights....until April he's on a rotating shift so this week he's working 6pm until about 4am (OT) and I don't get home from work until about 430 (he leaves at 515) so its tough.

Like today we just ran to the paint store to get paint for the nursery & then he was gone.

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Mine has reasonable hours but then personal trains on Monday and Wednesday until 7:30-8pm and goes to school on Tuesday and Thursday until 11:30! I am hating this more and more because I don't feel well all the time.