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I was actually disappointed when I found out we were having a boy both times..... I really want a girl. I got over it after a few days. YOur DH will come around.

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I promise you he will come around!
When the baby is here, he will not even want to think about her being anything other than what she is!

You will see!!

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Awww Deb!! Dont worry... I think he probably just was convinced it was a boy and he already starting making plans in his head... and he is just shocked... he'll come around!! My DH is nervous about a girl too... I think they are just afraid that they wont know what to do with her!!

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Aw Deb!! He will come around. My best friend's husband was not very accepting that they were having a girl at first. When she called him to tell him he said "Oh. Okay. I have to go" He did come around and he LOVES his little girl!!!

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I had the opposite - I was thinking boy for my first one, but when I went to the level II a tiny part of me was hoping for a girl. When I heard boy, I was shocked that I felt a bit disappointed, but the idea grew on me and I could never think of it any other way.

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We didn't find out ahead of time with either, but the whole time I was pregnant with Sarah DH kept saying that he hoped it was a boy, he didn't know what to do with a girl, how to dress a girl, etc.

The second she was born all that went away, he was MADLY in love with her, he sat talking to her and cuddling with her a lot when she was an infant and he's been playing with her and dressing her ever since.

DH admits that it was the fear of the unknown, and that he was being very silly. Your DH will come around too.

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mostly every guy wants a boy and every girl wants a girl ..

he will love her as much as he would a boy .. some guys are funny and dont know how to handle girls they feel they would be more comfortable with a boy.. but once that little girl comes he is going to be so happy..

dom tell me if i dont give him a boy to leave lmaooooooooooo

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Its funny...I thought I was having a girl, so did DH. I couldn't ever imagine myself with a boy BUT i went in just wanting a healthy baby.

Now, 3 months after his birth I constantly find myself thinking how i can't imagine having had any other baby and i love having a son!

My friends husband was the same as yours...a little disappointed about the girl. But now she is 2 months old and he LOVES his little girl to death...just remind him that a healthy baby is the most important thing...the bonding with his baby girl will come in time and he'll wonder how he was ever disappointed!!

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I can relate to your DH...when my daughter was born, I was just the slightest bit upset she was a girl. For some reason that I simply don't understand, I WANTED a boy. I set myself up for disappointment I suppose by believing I was having one no matter what people were telling me...everyone else was convinced I was having a girl.

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I went through this with DH. EVERYONE thought I was having a boy and they still do if they don't know the sex by the way I am carrying. They really got his hopes up and he was so let down when I told him the CVS results. It was so hard on me at first but then I realized he just had created all these ideas about the baby around its sex and it was sort of a let down.

It only lasted a couple of days. He is now eagerly awaiting his little girl.

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Aw, I'm sorry Debbie. DH's best friend is pregnant with her third child. Her husband also always wanted a little boy, and has two little girls from the first two pregnancies. You should see him with these little girls...it's like no one else exists! He's now hoping for a 3rd girl.

No worries, he'll come around and his heart will melt when he lays eyes on her.

All the best.

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you know, my DH is praying for a boy and Im worried when we find out shortly if its a girl, I am allready imagining the disappointment in his face or voice in the delivery room. he says it doesnt matter just wants a healthy baby but they all say that. my DH is scared to have a girl b/c he said he remembers his raging hormones as a kid and hes worried his daughter will hate him b/c he will be so strict! I told him dont be silly and encouraged how great girls are. but we will see, count down is on! I am secretly hoping for a boy first, I admit that too. but if its a girl, I will love her just the same.

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My DH was disappointed as well when we found out it was a girl. He wanted a boy so badly and convinced himself it was. When the tech said it was a baby girl, you could see it on his face that he was disappointed. Both my mom and I noticed it. After when we went to get her some stuff he was very quiet.

It took him some time to get used to it but now he is so excited. He talks to her all the time and even gets excited about things he can do with her. She is going to be Daddy's little girl.

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Once he sees that little girl, he is going to melt!!

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Deb I am so sorry that you did not get the reaction you wanted. I would give him some time.

DH and I already had the "Which would you rather have" discussion. He flat out said he didn't want a girl. But it wasnt for the reason you would think. He is the last male in his family but it doesnt seem to me as if he feels obligated to perpetuate the family name or create the next generation of New York Giants. Honestly, I would love to give that gift to him - a male legacy.

Our landlord has three gorgeous teenage daughters. I always say I would be nervous if I were their parents. DH knows what its like to be a teenage guy. When they say that guys think about sex 24/7 (in some capacity), they are right. I think he doesnt want that type of worry. Would he love a daughter? Absolutely.

On the flip side, there are men who want a girl. The idea of being a little girl's hero is important to many.

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So sorry Deb...just wait till he's holding his little girl for the very first time...all that will change...

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How far along are you, because my little girl turned into a little boy around 18 weeks or so and it was right around this time 2 years ago (due may 05)

My husband was concerned about the girl news and it hit me hard but his main reason was due to his job he feared leaving a little girl with out her Daddy plus would be harder then a son and a few other reasons.

Well then when we went for the next ultrasound they 100% confimed boy and he looked so confused... on the drove home he turned to me and said
"is it really a boy... I mean will it stay a boy now" (he didn't come across happy or sad just confused) I told him, Yes, it's a boy that wasen't cord they checked. His reply was "Dammit, I was really getting used to the idea of Daddy's little girl, and dance recitals... etc"

Now if were lucky enough to get and stay pregnant again he'd love a little girl since now his little girl would have a big brother to take care of her if he was away..

Your husband will fall hard in the next few days and or months. Don't worry!