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FeliciaDP
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Mommy
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Re: do I sound cheap?!
Posted by CrankyPants
That is crazy-and nervy.
ITA
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Posted 3/19/08 9:41 AM  |
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Member since 6/05 659 total posts
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Amy
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Re: do I sound cheap?!
YOU ARE NOT CHEAP AT ALL!! That totaly insane
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| Posted 3/19/08 9:51 AM |
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nferrandi
too excited for words
Member since 10/05 18538 total posts
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Nicole
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Re: do I sound cheap?!
So I got an email back from my friend today, in response to my asking what the money is going towards, and she said that she wasn't planning on asking everyone to contribute. She had just sent the email out to herself, another of preggos best friends, and me.
Um, ***?!?! I am not close friends with preggo. We were closer years ago, but we've been more like friendly aquaintaces for years now. I couldn't even tell you the last time we spoke on the phone and she has never seen my son other than at his bday party.
I explained to my friend that I must have misunderstood our original conversation. I told her we should all split the bill like we're taking preggo out for a celebratory dinner.
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| Posted 3/19/08 9:52 AM |
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Bklyngrl
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Re: do I sound cheap?!- updated on page 2
you're not cheap - that's ridiculous
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| Posted 3/19/08 9:55 AM |
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Mommy2Boys
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C
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Re: do I sound cheap?!- updated on page 2
I told her we should all split the bill like we're taking preggo out for a celebratory dinner.
ITA!!! This is what I replied earlier to your OP.
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| Posted 3/19/08 9:57 AM |
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Belladonna219
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Re: do I sound cheap?!- updated on page 2
Posted by jellybean1420
I told her we should all split the bill like we're taking preggo out for a celebratory dinner.
ITA!!! This is what I replied earlier to your OP.
I think that would be the right thing to do for everyone to split the bill. Having some people pay and other hang out for free is just not right exp since you are not that close with her and she is already having another shower.
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| Posted 3/19/08 10:08 AM |
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headoverheels
s'il vous plaît
Member since 6/07 42079 total posts
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Re: do I sound cheap?!- updated on page 2
Posted by nferrandi
So I got an email back from my friend today, in response to my asking what the money is going towards, and she said that she wasn't planning on asking everyone to contribute. She had just sent the email out to herself, another of preggos best friends, and me.
Um, ***?!?! I am not close friends with preggo. We were closer years ago, but we've been more like friendly aquaintaces for years now. I couldn't even tell you the last time we spoke on the phone and she has never seen my son other than at his bday party.
I explained to my friend that I must have misunderstood our original conversation. I told her we should all split the bill like we're taking preggo out for a celebratory dinner.
see now this is even worse! your friend is expecting you to shell out for the preggo "friend" you don't even see anymore? um, no. tell her that you can't afford it and send a nice gift.
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| Posted 3/19/08 10:09 AM |
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Lucky
Growing up fast!
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Dawn
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Re: do I sound cheap?!- updated on page 2
Posted by headoverheels
Posted by nferrandi
So I got an email back from my friend today, in response to my asking what the money is going towards, and she said that she wasn't planning on asking everyone to contribute. She had just sent the email out to herself, another of preggos best friends, and me.
Um, ***?!?! I am not close friends with preggo. We were closer years ago, but we've been more like friendly aquaintaces for years now. I couldn't even tell you the last time we spoke on the phone and she has never seen my son other than at his bday party.
I explained to my friend that I must have misunderstood our original conversation. I told her we should all split the bill like we're taking preggo out for a celebratory dinner.
see now this is even worse! your friend is expecting you to shell out for the preggo "friend" you don't even see anymore? um, no. tell her that you can't afford it and send a nice gift.
ITA.
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| Posted 3/19/08 11:22 AM |
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nferrandi
too excited for words
Member since 10/05 18538 total posts
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Nicole
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Re: do I sound cheap?!- updated on page 2
Well I gave my friend two brunch options to run by preggo. They are reasonable enough that preoggos DH's contribution should cover it almost all. Hopefully that will be "good enough" for her. 
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| Posted 3/19/08 11:25 AM |
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DandN
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Deirdre
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Re: do I sound cheap?!- updated on page 2
Posted by Kerie-is-so-very
Posted by nferrandi
You see, that's just it. I am usually generous to a fault, but I really think that this is just outrageous.
You can be generous on your own terms, not on someone else's. You are not wrong.
I completely agree - that is ridiculous - you are not cheap at all!
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| Posted 3/19/08 11:33 AM |
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ddunne2
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Re: do I sound cheap?!- updated on page 2
I personally would attend the regular BBQ shower and not go to the other one.
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| Posted 3/19/08 11:37 AM |
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nferrandi
too excited for words
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Re: do I sound cheap?!- updated on page 2
Posted by ddunne2
I personally would attend the regular BBQ shower and not go to the other one.
I don't think her SILs are planning on inviting her friends- which is where the problem started.
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| Posted 3/19/08 11:40 AM |
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Bebalina
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Re: do I sound cheap?!- updated on page 2
You're not cheap at alllll I'd be the same way as u.
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| Posted 3/19/08 12:20 PM |
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Ambersmom
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Sharon
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Re: do I sound cheap?!- updated on page 2
I don't get where people think they are entitled to all these "gimme-gimme" events
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| Posted 3/19/08 12:32 PM |
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MrsBlueSash
Love my sailor
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Christian
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Re: do I sound cheap?!- updated on page 2
EGADS! This girl is totally out of touch with reality. Maybe ask how she came up with that number since the DH said $30? Does that include some sort of group gift? Otherwise I would just say no, and tell her what you can offer. In fact maybe invite this chica to lunch and just lay it all out there, wedding-shower, and let her know that her estimates and your normal life are not aligned, that you love her, but she has some $$ taste!
ETA: OOPS you already asked. Well just don't let her railroad you into spending that kind of cash. I think your friend would rather have a nice gift, at least I would.
Message edited 3/19/2008 12:58:42 PM.
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| Posted 3/19/08 12:56 PM |
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Jillysmom
We made it to 8 years
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Jenn
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Re: do I sound cheap?!- updated on page 2
I would explain to this girl that you are not close with her anymore and was just going to take her out to a nice dinner...I totally would not pay and if she gives you a hard time.. tell her you have something to do with your son that night...
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| Posted 3/19/08 1:05 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: do I sound cheap?!- updated on page 2
I think I would skip all of the showers & send whatever gift I originally planned on sending.
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| Posted 3/19/08 1:07 PM |
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dawnygirl25
Growing up soo fast..
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Re: do I sound cheap?!- updated on page 2
Posted by nrthshgrl
I think I would skip all of the showers & send whatever gift I originally planned on sending.
now theres a good idea!
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| Posted 3/19/08 1:11 PM |
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